[writingawaythescars]

“Stay away from people who make you feel bad for sharing your feelings or for saying how their actions hurt you.”

[aidashakur]

[kevingetem]

[felwa-s-deactivated20181028]

all good things are worth waiting for

[avpdghosts]

*accidentaly vents to friend* great now i can never speak to them again

[petalya]

in therapy my therapist and i were talking about my own feelings of self worth in relationships. and she asked me to say qualities about myself that someone else would be attracted to, on a romantic and platonic level. so i named some things like compassionate, empathetic, etc. and she said “you named things that you can give someone. ways you can serve, rather than ways that you are” and y'all..my mind was blown that’s gonna stick with me forever like she then proceed to tell me actual innate qualities about myself that she liked and thought anyone else would like as well and i hadn’t even considered those because like she said i was focused on things i could do outwardly to attract and maintain connections rather than who i was as a person..goddamn!!! thats tea!!!

[petalya]

With this in mind, this also makes me think of the ways people describe us. When people say the reasons that they love/like you or describe you as a person, are they only naming ways that you serve them? Are they equating your worth with how much you do for them?

ex. “You’re such a good listener. You’re so generous, you’re so compassionate. You’re always there for me. You always hold me down. You’re reliable”

vs.

“You’re so funny! You’re very vibrant. You’re creative, passionate, and intelligent. You’re optimistic. You’re so talented at ____” , etc. I think that’s very telling.

[hauntified-deactivated20210730]

This FUCKED relationships up too because once this hit me, I realized people can just be in love with the way you make them feel instead of who you actually are. ALWAYS pay attention to the last little “vs” but there because it IS super telling

[kevingetem]

[memewhore]

[tshifty]

My top 2 pictures from the eclipse, what an indescribable moment.

[sovietnam]

[nycbambini]

[slgraywords]

There is no time limit to healing.

you take as much of it as you need.

[v35heh]

[quotemadness]

“I used to think that I could never lose anyone if I photographed them enough. In fact, my pictures show me how much I’ve lost.”

— Nan Goldin (via quotemadness)

[anxietyproblem]

[itsalovelylifeindeed]

Break up

hardest part of a break up is learning how to live your life with out that person as a part of your daily activities ... stopping myself from calling you on my morning walk to the subway or in between classes is rough.... miss ya ...

[itsalovelylifeindeed]

this relationship has drained me . there comes a point where you can not fix the person you’re with when they coming into the relationship with issues . wish he just left me the fuck alone