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this is good

embyrr922

I’d just like to add, see how they behave when they’re angry/frustrated/exhausted, and if you see something that concerns you, wait until they’re calm, and then talk to them about it.

My husband used to yell when he got frustrated, but after I explained to him that I found it upsetting, he stopped yelling and started consciously working on asking for help before he got to that level of frustration.

When I’m upset over something, or just in a bad mood, I tend to withdraw. My husband explained to me that it makes him feel like I’m mad at him, so now when I need some space, I’ll tell him what I’m upset about, or that I’m in a bad mood for no particular reason, and I need to be alone for a little while.

See your friends and partners at their worst, but don’t assume that their worst is immutable. If someone loves and cares about you, they’ll try to accommodate you to the best of their ability.

ladylike-foxes

^^^^ This is the best advice I’ve ever seen on this site, and it is so important. Communication is everything, and is 80% of the reason my husband and I have such a healthy, strong, and supportive relationship.

netbug009

People are imperfect, and while some things are never acceptable ever in a relationship, there’s a lot to be said as to whether someone has a growth mindset. Another important thing to see before commiting long-term to someone is how they respond when you have to confront them about a way that they hurt you. Do they listen? Do they care that you feel upset? Do they consider your feelings valid and important, even if it turns out you jumped to a conclusion or misunderstood them? Do they take responsibility? Do they say they’ll do better and then actually put that effort in? Are they willing to attend therapy if they can’t surmount a serious hang-up on their own? Never get serious about someone who brushes off or flat out refuses to discuss your feelings or concerns. Period.

I’m getting my feelings, hopes, and understanding confused. I love him, in all the ways possible. And I wish he were into me in all the same ways. But I understand that he has his preferences, his view on life and love are different and that right now he’s not looking for love, but success. And even if down the line he were looking for love again, he’s not into guys. I need to stop hoping for a change, he’s told me and several others he’s straight. I understand that, I respect that, and I need to stop hoping for it to change. Yes, for whatever strange reason, it can happen, people change their feelings all the time, but I need to stop hoping and wishing for it. It’ll only hurt me. He’s an experienced, honest person, if he was into guys, he would’ve told me.

He’s honest with you, he trusts you, he would’ve told you. He loves you in his own way, you know that. You see that, you take it. Don’t lose it, don’t lose him. It’s gonna hurt you more losing him than any other guy you’ve come across, don’t do it. You deserve this friendship, cherish it, honor and respect the differences. Love him in your way so he can love you in his.

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He’s an extremely independent man but lately, sometimes we act like a real couple. I remind him to lock the car door when we leave; he automatically orders my favorite fast food when we’re hungry after work; I ask him if he remembered to bring/do something, he asks me to double check for him; he opens doors for me even when I’m ahead of him; so much skinship (mostly from me). We’ve reached such a comfortable level in our relationship — sometimes too comfortable and I need to remind myself that we’re not a couple but really close, best friends. I just think it’s nice that he’s come to rely on me a little bit more and that he’s paying more attention to the little details about me.

My heart is not ready to leave him and my home next month.

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thoughtkick

“It’s not the pain I’m afraid of; I know about the pain. What I’m afraid of is the end of this small, sweet dream.”

— Stephen King (via perfeqt)

I’m obsessed with him and he’s letting me be this way. Best and worst parting gift. He’s not the only reason I don’t want to leave, just the main reason. But I truly believe it’ll be good for me and our friendship. He’s a lot stronger alone than I am, and better at being fine. I’m just emotional and recently needy, but I’ll be okay. He knows I love him and I know he deeply cares for me too. That’s what I need to remember going through the upcoming hardships. And not just him but all my friends here, I need to remember their love to get through the rest of the year.

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leftypointy

thoughtkick

“The soul usually knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.”

— Caroline Myss (via perfeqt)

Two more months before the big move.

Every time I see him he always asks if I really have to move.

I’m really heartbroken and I’m really gonna miss that loser terribly.

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Greece by Dimitris Tamvakos

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2019-02-13

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By: Anna

He took me out to lunch before work and paid for my meal. He teased about not visiting me when I move because I wanted to get a cat instead of a dog. He bought Red Bull for me because he knew I was having a long, tiring week. He teasingly gave me a hard time at work to distract me from being tired. He remembered that I wanted to stop and get food before heading home.

He’s been really good and a lot more attentive to me lately. I don’t know if it’s because I’m the only person he sees regularly, out of all of our friends, now that we moved from our old store, or because I’ve been helping him out a lot with his promotion, or something else. The confused part of me still wishes for something more but the realistic part of me knows that if it was supposed to happen, it would’ve happened. If he had feelings for me, he’s the type of person to have went for it because once he sets his mind on something, he makes it a reality. And that’s the only thing that’s holding me up right now amidst all of my confusion: if he wanted to be with me, he would’ve made me his by now.

I love him. He’s one of my best friends. He cares for me. He takes care of me. I can accept that. I have accepted that, and I deeply value our bond.

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