ive seen a lot of people saying andrew is misogynistic but I don't see how he is? I feel like he is cautious of everyone not women in particular, but nora also agrees so could you please explain it to me 😅
I feel like the fundamental misunderstanding that people have, and I'm saying this as gently as I can, is reducing misogyny to simply thinking women are outright inferior. So, since Andrew respects Bee and Renee and to some extent even Dan, it's easy to correlate that with him having no underlying bias at all. Which is not true. That's what people usually also invoke when they say "I couldn't possibly be misogynistic, the person I respect the most in this earth is my mom/sister/wife/female relative or friend".
And you're right, in that Andrew trusts very few people. This doesn't change the fact that the way he expresses his mistrust in women is disproportionately violent.
In text, we see Andrew be notably physically violent to other people twice: when he chokes Allison, and when he chokes Kevin. Kevin purposefully withheld information from him that in that moment Andrew believes is actively leading to Neil's torture and death which he could have stopped. Allison slapped Aaron, once, in the middle of an argument. One of these is not like the other!
Comparably, Andrew is not remotely this aggressive when Matt gives Kevin a black eye, when Seth calls Nicky a slur, or even when Riko terrorizes Kevin and Neil after the Cathy Ferdinand show. He gets mad, and he threatens, sometimes even with his knives, but he doesn't attempt to murder anyone. Because that's very much the implication of the Allison scene – she hit Aaron, and Andrew's going to kill her.
Andrew is also NOTORIOUSLY violent to Aaron's girlfriends, to the point where Aaron doesn't risk been seen standing next to Katelyn most of the time. Even if he's acting out of his own sense of justice because of the deal, there is no excuse for why Andrew targets the girls but does nothing to Aaron, when Aaron is the one who made him a promise. Even after Aaron has broken the deal and made it clear he doesn't want Andrew involved in his relationships anymore, Andrew's shovel talk involves threatening Katelyn until she cries.
Another, more subtle case of how this manifests is the people Andrew took to Columbia in his first year. Two women and one man. Matt, he took out of fear that his former addiction could influence Aaron, and he did it with permission from Matt's mother. Renee he took to analyze as a threat and Dan he took to see if she was worth respecting. Again, two different standards.
Just like with Aaron's homophobia, I think Andrew's misogyny makes sense when you understand his story. There were foster mothers in most if not all of the homes in which he was abused, who at best were turning a blind eye and at worst were complicit or abusive themselves; There was Tilda, who abandoned him and abused Aaron; and there was Cass, to whom Andrew's emotional attachment is clearly a source of shame and pain to him considering how that story ended. Andrew is a character that understands violence, and he has come to expect violence from men and learned how to protect and defend himself against that. What Andrew is clearly afraid of is emotional manipulation, something that's clear both from his past with Cass and from his mistrust of Neil. Emotional manipulation is societally considered a feminine trait, in the same way physical violence is a masculine trait. That's why Andrew is disproportionately wary and reactive when it comes to women, and it's also why the three women he respects/gets along with either are somewhat gender non conforming (Dan, in the sense of her position as captain), of an incredibly similar background to himself and can relate to him in that level (Renee), or have been the first people to listen to him and advocate on his behalf (Betsy).
So no, Andrew isn't against women getting higher education or certain jobs or equal pay or autonomy over their bodies. I don't think he even calls anyone a bitch or a whore. His misogyny is not overt and vitriolic in the way people expect misogynistic characters to be coded as. It's a much more grounded, realistic portrayal of how bigotry and bias manifests. He has higher standards to find women worthy of trust, and he is extremely violent towards the ones who don't meet those standards if they step out of his perceived lines.
Thinking women are inherently evil manipulating temptresses until proven otherwise is, in fact, misogyny! Andrew's misogyny isn't irredeemable and is something that he can/is working on, but it's still a pretty prevalent character flaw, and I don't think it serves anyone particularly well by ignoring the fact that it's there.
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