CALLOUT FOR LEE / KIER ( @ pcstwick / flygontm / eternahop / faeriefound )
WARNINGS FOR: SUICIDE THREATS, ABUSE, MANIPULATION, GUILT TRIPPING, GASLIGHTING
This is the sequel I know nobody wanted to see, but this was something I needed to do. But, as a disclaimer, I know that things between Kier and the parties behind the first KierCallout blog have been ultimately settled. THIS IS MOSTLY UNRELATED TO THAT, AND THOSE PARTIES DO NOT WANT TO BE INVOLVED ANY LONGER.
But I wanted to show that Kier’s problematic behavior didn’t begin and end with that debacle. I wanted to say definitively that I felt like I was being mistreated as their friend for the majority of the time we were friends. That’s not to say I haven’t made my own mistakes or that we didn’t have good times and good memories together. But the quality of friendships aren’t only based on the GOOD times. If the good times are good, and the bad times are abusive, that’s an abusive relationship, plain and simple.
By the end of our friendship, I was literally afraid of them. I was afraid to change my status from Invisible, afraid to speak, afraid to do anything that might get on their bad side. I was made to think that anything that I said that hurt their feelings was because I was a bad friend or a bad person. I was prepared to let sleeping dogs lie, but enough was enough when I found they block-evaded me using their positivity blog. NO CONTACT MEANS NO CONTACT. PERIOD.
Thus, I made a summary of the two events that ended our friendship. Keep in mind that this comes on the back of multiple months of abusive, gaslighting behavior that I didn’t have time to show. As a result, the tone is pretty bitter and angry in a few places. My own terrible experiences have left me jaded, cynical, and distrustful about Kier as a person.
That being said, DO NOT TRY TO USE THIS AS AN EXCUSE TO SEND KIER ABUSE AND ANON HATE! I do not condone that in any way, and if you’re really going to send anonymous hate because of internet drama, reconsider your life choices. This document is meant to serve as an archive of prior abusive behavior and a warning to the community in case Kier falls back on old habits, not an internet hit job.
Also, so that a certain someone doesn’t get any funny ideas that he can capitalize off of the pain of MY experiences, here is the Callout Kier made of Mick / Juicy, who is apparently still after them. Two wrongs don’t make a right, and while I’m clearly upset about the treatment I was subjected to, that doesn’t mean I think what Mick did was justified. He utterly disgusts me.
That said, I refused to be kept silent about my experiences because of the threat of him coming back. I’m not aiming to get them “cancelled” or trying to make them delete everything. But after months of walking on eggshells and blaming myself for every tiny thing that ever went wrong between us, I will not be cowed or told to shut up for their benefit any longer. For any reason. I deserve to be heard and to tell my story. And, most of all, I deserve closure after months of being treated terribly.
HERE’S THE LINK OF THE FULL CALLOUT.
-- Mittens