Breast Cancer Haven Charity Auction - Blush 17 Speech
I was asked to give a speech at The Breast Cancer Haven’s main fundraising event Blush. What a fabulous night for a wonderful cause. The Breast Cancer Haven is an amazing charity with centres across the country. They helped me during my treatment with free holistic therapies and emotional support.
On Thursday 9th October 2014, aged 31, my life changed forever.
After finding a lump in my right breast whilst in the shower I didn't think anything of it. But to be safe I went to my GP who referred me to Kings College Hospital. From the start I was told it was most likely a cyst, so I went in by myself to get the results. Little did I know the C bomb was about to be dropped. On hearing the word ‘Cancer’, I instantly thought I was going to die. But three days later I got a puppy and decided cancer had messed with the wrong girl!
Treatment included a lumpectomy, 2 lymph nodes removed, 6 rounds of Chemo, a re-excision and 23 sessions of radiotherapy.
Three years on here I am.
So what has having Breast Cancer taught me?
Other than that boys love trying on wigs?...
And having a shaved head is cool…
Until it starts to grow back!
What has having Breast cancer taught me?
It has taught me how powerful the kindness of strangers can be.
When I was in the middle of Chemo I happened to be travelling on the tube one day. I always tried to avoid public transport like the plague with my non-existent immune system, but on this rare occasion I was sitting in a carriage doodling in my diary, wig and woolly hat firmly on.
Now I’m one of those people who, when the train starts moving, completely falls asleep, head back, mouth wide open! So this happened, and as I jolt upright and look around I notice everyone in the carriage is staring at me.
I quickly look down at my lap and notice something. A folded up piece of paper.
I look up and around to see… the whole carriage is still staring at me!
I quickly dart back down. And I open the note.
It says in big capital letters:
My heart skips a beat. It flutters. A huge wave of happy comes over me. I smile and look up. The carriage bounces back into doing their own thing, pretending not to look anymore.
How did that person know?
I notice my diary is open on ‘Monday 12th - Chemo’
Now we’ve all done it. We all look at what the person next to us is reading. I’ve been known to read an entire newspaper looking over someone’s shoulder! And with me passed out and dribbling it would hardly have been difficult to read my open diary.
And that’s what it’s all about. Caring. Looking out for each other. Even if they’re strangers.
And all of you here tonight. Just being here is because you care. You won’t meet all of the ladies and men who will benefit from the money raised tonight. But I can tell you from experience your kindness and generosity will change lives.
When I first came to the Breast Cancer Haven it was like walking into heaven! It really does live up to its name. It is a place where you can shut the outside world out and forget about your troubles.
There is a calmness that wraps you up like a big, warm, soft blanket. Stunning stain glass windows flood the beautiful building (once a church) with radiant light. Comfy sofas, hot drinks, biscuits and an in depth library greet you.
The food is out of this world! Delicious healthy meals lovingly prepared in the cosy inviting kitchen.
Always welcoming, the staff are sensitive and understanding.
Every cancer patient and their experience is different so the Haven offer a one to one session to assess each patient in order to know what is best for them. They then provide ten free sessions of holistic therapies, which are wonderful.
With my surgery scars, Hickman line, chemo side effects and radiation my body had experienced it’s fair share of pain. The Reflexology and Aromatherapy sessions I had, completely relaxed me. It was the first physical contact I had allowed in six months. I also received counselling which helped me process everything I had just been through and mentally prepared me for no mans land - when treatment is over.
Standing in front of you now feels like a miracle. I have now been in remission for three years. I don’t know what the future holds, my cancer might come back, it might not. But this whole experience has made me the happiest I’ve ever been. I know it sounds weird but I look back at that year fondly. I have never felt so loved. Places like Breast Cancer Haven and that stranger on the train have shown me how small acts of kindness go a long way.
From me and on behalf of all the ladies and gentlemen who have been helped by Breast Cancer Haven and who will be helped by you tonight, I want to thank you all from the bottom of my heart.
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Breast Cancer Haven is the charity that supports women through their breast cancer treatment. When breast cancer tries to rob a woman of her