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I feel like I bore my bf what should I do?

Why would you think that? Try communicating that with him in a nonemotional manner about how you feel and consider including new things in your relationship like date nights or game nights over voice chat! Good luck!M

Hello, just a normal girl in a LDR. (: I'm trying to find a way to meet the love of my life and I created this fundraiser. And I just needed help spreading it around to the LDR community or everyone else who cares to donate a small amount. Will you please help me spread the word? :3 Thank you!

HELLO LDR COMMUNITY!! A fellow ldr girl needs your help. We all know how costly and difficult it is to see your SO and starting s fundraiser is a great way to raise money! So lend a hand :) Hope everything works out!-M

When you finally see bae

So my boyfriend and I have been together 7 months almost and because I go to uni in another country I can only see him during the holidays. It always sucks when I leave and I'm always so emotional and miss him so much. I was wondering if you had any good tips to help? Thanks xx

Being able to see your significant other during the holidays is one of my favorite parts of being in an LDR; However, saying goodbye is one of my least favorite. It is natural to be emotional when two of you say goodbye, J and I almost always are. But don't let it ruin the experience and trip the two of you both shared together. Instead of focusing on the negatives after we have left one other, we try and stay positive by reminiscing on some of our favorite parts from the previous visit. This not only helps us to more vividly recall some of our favorite moments, but also to try and stay positive rather than sulking how much we missed one another. This is a great way to strengthen our relationship as well.another great way is to try and plan future visits, this gives the two of you hope and A vision of the future together. When planning these trips,you can be as realistic as organizing a schedule and budget for the next possible time that you can see one another, or you can plan a dream vacation together. Planning a dream vacation may sound silly, but it is extremely fun. It almost becomes a game, and who knows, maybe one day the two of you will hop on a private jet to Paris or sail the ocean together. Remember the most important part is to stay positive and be thankful for the time you shared together.-M

Hi so I was looking for some advice.... Me and my boyfriend are in a LDR he's in Florida and I'm in Cali. We met in the Internet and his parents are completely okay with us being together but I can't tell my parents because they are against it and they won't understand. I feel like if o tell them and get them to understand somehow me and him can actually meet in person. How to I tell my parents and get them to listen and understand where I'm coming from?

Trying to figure out how to tell your parents about being involved in a long distance relationship is one of the most common questions I get asked. I understand that it can be incredibly difficult to confess to your parents, especially when you are uncertain or uneasy about the way they will feel about it, either that they won't understand, they won't want you to be in one, or maybe that they will think down on you as a person. However, my personal experience and through most of the people I have met and given advice to, this is not a common reaction from parents. Maybe at first they won't understand, but they will eventually come around. In my case, I brought it up with my mom by asking her tons of questions about long distance relationships--were you ever in a long distance relationship...how do you feel about long distance relationships...what would you say if I was in a long distance relationship? Eventually she caught on, And asked if I was in a ldr. She was very understanding, and I was grateful for that. Of course we had our ups and downs and disagreements about it from time to time, but overall she has seen that I am happy and that's all that matters. As our relationship went on, my mother became more aware and more understanding of it and now she supports it fully. So have faith in your parents, and remember if they don't understand at first, it is very likely that they will come around to the idea. I think it is more important to have an open, healthy relationship where your parents now and might be able to help, and a hidden one-because they will eventually find out and be disappointed or upset that it was a secret from them and then they will disapprove as they will feel there was something worth hiding from them. So be careful in whatever you choose as it is ultimately your decision, but this is my opinion on it. Good luck with whatever you choose.-M

Hello, I have a major problem. My boyfriend's mother literally hates me and we've been together for a year. I haven't said anything rude nor have I done anything rude. We've never had a proper conversation but for some reason she hates me. Whenever she wants to talk to him she makes him mute me. She gets mad if we talk outside his room. She gets mad when I talk to his sister. What do I doooo?

Wow, that's rough. Firstly, in any relationship cleaning the approval of boys mother is extremely difficult. The bond that a mother and son share is very powerful, and from my experience, the mother is usually the hardest to win over. A mother is going to want what's best for her son, And sometimes they may feel that a difficult, unusual relationship, such as a long distance relationship,is not worthy of her son. It may not be that she has a particular problem with you as a person individually, but your relationship with her son. Maybe if you lived in closer proximity, his mother would love you. Give her time, and she may come around when she sees how happy her son is in this relationship, and that your love is greater than the distance between you... After all, isn't that what mothers want– What's best for their sons? Whatever you do though, try your best to never insult his mother, because as I said before the bond between A mother and son is very great, and you do not want to get in between that. So as I said before, Stay hopeful and give it some time for things to work out. Wishing the best,-M

I was in a ldr with this girl for over 3 years now on and off but the last year we got very serious but I've always loved her from the start. She was the one, I felt it. She broke up with me a few months ago saying she wants me to experience life instead of being in a ldr. It's been months and we're still best friends but I still love her I can't get over her. I feel like relationships won't work bc of my feelings for her. Am I crazy? I can't imagine or even try being with anyone else

Oh no I'm so sorry. LDRs are really difficult and some people, even if they love their partner, wonder if they are "missing out on life" which is a natural thought. It's also natural to still have feelings for them, if it was serious and as you say lasted a long time, then it will take time to heal. Maybe since both of you are friends still and once you "experience life" a little more, you can both try it again. If you had something special, I believe it was for a reason. Have hope :) -M

hey me and my girlfriend are in a long distance relationship and we have a pretty crazy story we would like to share! we were wondering if you would read it and share it:) we would really appreciate it! its the 11th post down on my blog :)

I'll definitely take a look at it and if you message it to me I would love to share it! :)

What do I do I love him so much so much more then anything he's helped me through so much we always talk about our future together But I don't know his address he won't let me send him anything at all he always gets me things and I'll tell him let me get you something as well then I don't know his phone number we've never talked on the phone before Because I guess if mom is really verily abusive and I don't know Am I just being selfish and a terrible girlfriend please help please 💔😭

Yikes! I think it is very important to get some information out of him, ask if he'll be able to FaceTime you or video chat-maybe from a friends phone? Visual contact and hearing one another's voices are very important. Although, maybe he is worried about if his mom finds out about your relationship so I could understand that. You shouldn't feel like a bad girlfriend at all, this is beyond your control! I hope you two find a way to get in contact! -M

So I may meet my girlfriend in a few months and was wondering if you had tips to tell my parents about her after we meet? Like they don't know we may meet so I don't know if I should tell them right after like ha surprise! I've been in an online relationship for months AND I'm basically gay! I don't wanna risk them being mad about it being online and saying "What if it was a creepy old man?" and like punishing me by taking my phone for meeting my girlfriend without telling them.. Advice?

Wow, that's a tough one. I remember when I told my mom I was worried because I was afraid that she wouldn't understand being from an older generation and whatnot. So I started by asking her if she had ever been in a long distance relationship, what she thought of them, how a lot of celebrities even have LDRS, eventually she caught on and asked me if I was in an ldr. She was much more understanding than I'd originally predicted. I must admit we've had our disagreements and sometimes it's hard, but it gets better, and overall I'm so glad I told her. If she reacts poorly at first, give her time, she will come around. Hope it all works out well!-M

Just wanted to share with someone that I'm seeing my boy for the first time in about a week! We'll be spending our first anniversary together and I'm so nervous and excited!!

How exciting! I remember the first time J and I both met we were so nervous! But everything worked out and it's one of my favorite memories together! Good luck :)-M

Can I submit a short cute LDR story that is somewhat inspiring?

Of course! I would love that! Thanks :)

Me and my boyfriend, J, are wishing the best for all of you in an LDR out there.

So I'm in an ldr with my boyfriend, and we've been together for two years and not met yet. I'm always so scared that he'll get sick of waiting for me.. I know that he hates the distance and we almost split up because of it.. I'm scared That he'll break up with me and want to date someone closer to him. I get jealous of every single girl he's around.. Even just friends. And it's caused so many fights between us. I don't know how to fix this feeling I'm having, it's terrible :( -Em

I know what you mean, jealousy can really creep up you like a little monster, ESPECIALLY in LDRS. My one piece of advice is this: do not let it get to you! You've been through so much together and been with one another so long, it is evident that y'all have a strong devotion for one another and you must trust your loyalty to each other. Good luck to both of you! -M

Hey so I met this guy online and my parents don't approve of online things where you can talk with people. But we both like each other. Thing is, we live in separate states and he's two years older than me... any advice of how I can tell my parents?

Just try and ease into it by asking if they had ever been in an LDR (more people tun you think have) and how they feel about it, either way you can say "oh...well actually I'm in an LRD so...yeah". Keep in mind that YOUR happiness is all that matters

Im in a LDR I wanted to to know how long did it take for you guys to first meet if you dont mind me asking :)

well actually J and I "met" (although it be for 3 minutes and there wasn't much talking) in person and we talked for a while, then I believe we were lucky enough to see each other about a month and a half after because he happened to be in town, i was able to see him for a couple hours, HOWEVER, that is very unusual to see one mother so quickly after.

Hey, it's Marta, from Spain. I've been looking for some advice. My boyfriend and I have been talking since Jun2014 and actually we had meet once in his country, but now I'm back in my country, the thing is the other day we had an arguement cos things had change nothing is like before... And now we're okay, we've talked about all this and everythings okay... But I feel like there's not still the same confidence as before and I don't know what to do, or say to him to be like always again. Thnksyou

Things should't be affected FOREVER by an argument. This will pass, but it may take some time to heal

Have faith,

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