Out of sight, out of mind

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So like yeah, Shanya has been sort of established. And my controversial(?) take is that Ilya would go with Shenya.

Zhenya (Женя) is a diminutive for Russian Evgeniy (Евгений) or Evgenia (Евгения) - Eugene and Eugenia if you will. It's pretty common. Familiar.

So yeah. Шеня.

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this is your daily reminder to take a chonce

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God knows we've tried

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Irina Rozanova: The Context

Content Warning: This post discusses Soviet-era mental health stigma, the use of psychiatry as a tool of political repression, depression, coercive marriage dynamics, and suicide.

Irina Rozanova. The show doesn't give her much. She married a man about thirty years older, had two sons, died by suicide in 2003. That's about it. I couldn’t stop thinking about what her life might have been like.

The numbers.

Late Soviet Russia: average age at first marriage for women, around 21. Average age at first child, 22–23. More than half of all births were to mothers under 25. Not outliers. Typical. These weren't personal choices made in a vacuum. The system actively produced them. Women weren't marrying and having children young simply because everyone independently decided 21 was the perfect age. Limited options produced repeated outcomes. (Sources: RAND, 1996 – Russia's Demographic Crisis; Radio Free Europe/Radio Liberty, 2021)

Why so early.

Several things at once.

Прописка. Your internal passport had a residency permit stamped into it. No propiska, no job, no education, no access to social services or housing. If you weren't born in Moscow, you had few options to move to the big city. University enrollment, with a mandatory return to your home region after graduation unless you landed a local job fast. Most were subject to распределение (“distribution”) – state assignment, where a graduate could be placed with a Moscow organization. Распределение sounds like the legitimate path. It was, mostly. But it usually meant years in an общежитие, a dorm-style building, often gender-segregated. Married couples sometimes lived apart because family rooms didn't exist or weren't available. The apartment you'd actually want was on a waiting list that could run for years.

There was another path – лимит. Enterprises in Moscow were allocated quotas of out-of-town workers to fill jobs Muscovites didn't want: street cleaning, factory floors, construction sites. You got a propiska tied to your employer and a bed in an общежитие. Legal, common, and looked down on. "Лимита" wasn't a neutral word – it was a shorthand for provincial, low-status, there to do the work nobody else would. The catch was that your propiska was tied to the job. Leave, and you lost your registration. So you stayed, worked, waited, and hoped either for an independent propiska eventually or for someone with Moscow registration to marry you. Soviet Cinderella style.

There were even movies about it. Moscow Does Not Believe in Tears (1980) follows a young woman who comes to Moscow, lives in a dorm, and spends the next twenty years building a life in a system that was never designed to make that easy. The happy ending is real. It just takes two decades. Twenty. Years.

Or you married someone with Moscow registration. There were semi-legal agencies in Moscow doing exactly this – matching people from outside the city with registered Muscovites. The system created the demand. The agencies met it. (Source: Russia Beyond, 2021 – "How bureaucracy kept Soviet people trapped in one place for years")

Housing. Being born in Moscow didn't solve it either. Housing was state-allocated. You didn't buy or rent. You waited. Multiple generations in the same apartment was standard. Grandparents, parents, children, two or three rooms. Having your own room as a child was a privilege. Marriage moved you up the queue. It didn't make the queue short.

The math of marrying Grigori. An older man with Party connections, established housing, and Moscow registration wasn't just a husband. He was a solution to several problems at once. The thirty-year gap looks like what it is. The system had limited options for independent adult life. Unsurprisingly, stability and access could tangle up with attraction. At 19 or 20 – the age my parents got married, for example – it is not easy to know the difference.

None of this means Irina didn't love Grigori. It means love was operating inside a system that restricted people's choices long before they ever met.

Early children.

Soviet pro-natalist policy in the 1980s encouraged having children early. With allowances, benefits, and state incentives. It also came with older mechanisms for penalizing people who didn't. The налог на бездетность, a tax on childlessness, was introduced in 1941 and wasn't repealed until 1992. While exemptions existed, typically about 6% of your salary if you were a man over 25 or a married woman over 20 without children went to the state. The state with opinions about your reproductive timeline.

The culture followed. Early marriage, early children, in that order, as fast as possible. Access to contraception was limited and unreliable. Abortion remained the main method of family planning. Multiple abortions were extremely common. Says everything about how planned any of it was. (Source: RAND, 1996)

What nobody talked about.

Soviet ideology often treated mental illness as something a socialist society was supposed to outgrow. Official narratives framed it as a problem of capitalist societies, not socialist ones. The Russian Association of Psychiatrists maintained that mental illness would eventually disappear under communism. A Soviet official at the 1980 Moscow Olympics famously declared there were no invalids in the USSR. Not because disabled people didn't exist. Because acknowledging them complicated the story the state wanted to tell. (Source: NCBI – "Mental Health Care: Trends in Health Systems in the Former Soviet Countries")

From the 1960s through the 1980s, psychiatry was actively used as a tool of political repression. Dissidents got committed. Diagnoses got weaponized. Seeking help wasn't just embarrassing. It was risky. Getting placed on the psychiatric register meant rights revoked. It affected housing and employment. It effectively led to social ostracism. Not for a period. Potentially for life. (Source: European Parliament report – "Psychiatry as a tool for coercion in post-Soviet countries")

Under the Soviet version of International Classification of Diseases, 7th Revision, depression wasn't even allowed to stand on its own. It existed mostly as a symptom of something else. That's not the same thing as saying nobody in the USSR had depression. It means the psychiatric system struggled to recognize it as a condition in its own right. If you were falling apart – not sleeping, not functioning, feeling nothing – there were limited ways for the system to understand what was happening to you. (Source: PMC – "Psychiatry in Former Socialist Countries")

Irina had both boys before the Soviet Union collapsed. Political turmoil. Economic freefall. The promise of a better future? Gone. Isolation and a controlling husband? Present. She was dealing with everything without any of the support infrastructure that still barely exists. Two decades after the USSR's collapse, the psychiatric system's reputation remained tainted. Conditions in mental hospitals were still described as sometimes inhumane. (Source: Public Health Reviews, 2012 – "Mental Health in Former Soviet Countries")

She died in 2003. Ilya was twelve.

The show doesn't linger on her. She's background. But she's the architecture everything else is built on.

Sources:

RAND (1996), Russia's Demographic Crisis: https://www.rand.org/pubs/conf_proceedings/CF124.html

Radio Free Europe/Radio Liberty (2021), How Have The Lives Of Russians Changed Over The Last 30 Years?: https://www.rferl.org/a/russia-ussr-soviet-union/31595855.html

Russia Beyond (2021), How bureaucracy kept Soviet people trapped: https://www.rbth.com/history/333374-propiska-in-soviet-union

NCBI, Mental Health Care: Trends in Health Systems in the Former Soviet Countries: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK458299/

European Parliament (2013), Psychiatry as a tool for coercion in post-Soviet countries: https://www.europarl.europa.eu/RegData/etudes/etudes/join/2013/433723/EXPO-DROI_ET(2013)433723_EN.pdf

PMC, Psychiatry in Former Socialist Countries: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4225199/

Public Health Reviews (2012), Mental Health in Former Soviet Countries: https://publichealthreviews.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1007/BF03391673

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Some days I look at my side blogs and think, "Am I niche? Yes. But can I make it niche-r?"

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Hey so like omen wise how are we doing. Are we doing okay

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Could mean good things!

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