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just wanted to let y’all know i looked HOT today

[they/them; don’t call me “girl”]

#CAME BACK ON TUMBLR FOR A SEC TO REBLOG THIS #look at this beautiful they!!!!!!!!!!#my sweet peach #imani #ugh #my LOVE

boingoalive1988

ive felt better ever since i stopped revelling in self depreciating or “depression memes for sad teens” humor its an okay coping mechanism and all but you really honestly gotta get out of it at some point and once you do youll see how degrading and self recovery impeding it is

boingoalive1988

like reblog a positive post… fight the urge to caption or tag it as “cant relate”… its the little things

amazingfuckingamy

This is so fake deep

stinkyhat-deactivated20231213

its not fake deep at all. if you want to get better u have to feel that you are worthy of love & indulging in self deprecation too much will not help that.

fthgurdy

Minor quibble- you don’t have to feel you’re worthy of love. You don’t have to feel anything positive about yourself. What is required, however, is an attempt to find a more comfortable situation for yourself.

You can hate yourself and still be trying to recover. You can feel like there’s no point and still be trying to make things a bit better for yourself.

You really don’t have to get over negativity first in order to successfully battle negativity, that’s a paradox.

But re: the original post, yes, trying to step back from relatable depressive content can help a lot. You don’t immediately need to pretend to relate to positive content, though, that’d likely be a lie and harm you, too.

It’s why I always say that I’m ok but I’m not ok, and both are true. I’m sad but I can laugh. I can be happy but still be depressed. Language sometimes doesn’t do our souls justice.

Good luck with your fight.

primarybufferpanel

Agreed that it’s not about worthy of being loved. Sometimes it’s just about stopping your own reinforcement of misery.

Your brain is treading the path of Everything Is Awful And Always Will Be. It’s probably by now a very well-trodden path, familiar and worn smooth and almost comfortable to walk on. And every time you do that self-depricating thing, the depression memes, the reinforcing ‘Yes, that’s how utterly shit everything is and it’s never gonna change’ thing, you send yourself along that path and it gets a little deeper. It doesn’t really matter if you mean it or feel it in that moment (it’s like an ironic kick to the shin that way) your brain still walks a groove into the stone and it only gets harder to climb out of it and try a different path.

You can’t always help a walk down Everything Is Awful And Always Will Be, but stop glamourising it. Stop leaning into it. When you do have conscious control over it (like when you’re chosing to reblog stuff) maybe try the Meh path or the Things Are Kind Of OK Sometimes path. The step from that one to the Hey I’m Feeling Pretty Good Right Now path is a lot easier. And the more you walk those paths, the more familiar they become to your brain. It won’t fix you, but it’ll make you less consistently miserable and more likely to have some enjoyment out of your life. Because you can have that. Even if - speaking from going on 3 decades of experience - you’re chronically depressed.

oakttree-deactivated20221126

this is supported by neurology- habits of thought are ingrained as much as physical habits are. the “path” your brain is “treading”- you’ve gotten a lot of practice thinking things like “i’m worthless” or “there’s no point to me being here”. you have less practice right now with thinking things like “every breath i take is a success” and “every moment i’m still here is a triumph” and “there is hope that i can enjoy things again”. flex those muscles and form new habits.

(easier said than done, but i speak from the experience of someone who’s come back from the brink of suicide many times. it can be done.)

apjvff

wtf = wanting true friends

#😅😬🙁#s a m e

sleepingpigeon

no one wants to hear it but love is earned after the initial infatuation. commitment is something u both mutually agree to and then from there it’s work. it’s not work like it’s a chore it’s jus work like it takes effort. to get good at these things takes practice. it takes practice to learn to communicate better and it takes practice to learn to love each other in the ways u need to be loved.

#love #💛💛💛

amberjliu-deactivated20180517

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