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hey @actuallynpd tag

do any of y'all feel remorse for being narcissistic? do y'all get distressed by your tendency to see people as means to your own ends instead of actual people? Are you upset by your narcissism or what?

mystical-winter

1. Depends. Do I feel remorse in my own vanity/pridefulness/or whatever delusions of grandeur I’m having at the minute? Not really. Do I feel remorse when it ends up hurting other people? Sometimes, although I won’t actually admit it because of the fear that having remorse means I’m not ~really~ narcissistic.

2. “Seeing people as means to my own ends” means manipulating people, right? Or if I’m wrong, correct me. That isn’t really something I really do. I’ve had thoughts about it, but they’re mainly just thoughts, because I know I’d get repercussions for using people.

3. Most of the time, no. When I feel like I’m not as good as I think I am, or if I’m not meeting the impossibly high standards I have for myself, or if I feel like people view me as pathetic or as a paper tiger, then yeah.... it’s not as fun.

I’m not sure if this is also a side effect of tumblr culture, but yeah the npd tags are pretty unsympathetic, sometimes towards other narcissists. It’s probably because of well... they don’t think non-narcissists or people with empathy will see them. So while “tfw someone doesn’t worship the ground you walk on” probably won’t reside with non-narcissists, other narcs will probably just go “yup same”.

Although if the point of this was “you’re bad and you should feel bad”, unfortunately, not a lot of people who reside in the tags are probably going to... care. They’re probably heard it before. Not even just because they’re narcissistic, but just because it’s some random person in the tags saying it. I think, for the most part, that most narcissists only care about their own opinions and a few select people on how they view themselves.

#this is probably a bad response but my focus is diminishing cause vertigo and adhd

If there's more narc supply than narc demand, would that result in a narc depression? 🤔

ch3rrycat-420

Hey maybe don’t armchair diagnose your abusers/exes as narcissistic just because

kaerlighedsbrev-deactivated2020

npdfeels

i see a lot of posts in the NPD tag about being better than everyone else but that is. not like the whole idea of NPD and y’all are messy and are further stigmatizing this disorder and writing the rest of people who have NPD as “arrogant toxic cocky brats”

when people talk about NPD (or any general disorder), they ride very hard on the stereotypes involving (e.g everyone who has ASPD abuses animals and kills people) which is fucking harmful towards people with those disorders who are trying to recover and better themselves as a person.

not everyone loves negative attention and definitely not everyone wants to wear their disorder as a label.

stuff that is isn’t really spoken about NPD:

the inability to take criticism as nothing more than a personal attack if it is phrased a certain way and isn’t explicitly constructive and objectively sounds more harsh than intended (e.g: xx thing is a little off, but it is good otherwise! i will work on xx thing, however, so you can improve) vs ( xx thing throws the whole thing off and it bothers me, but i guess it’s ok.) reminder: some narcissists cannot handle even constructive criticism and may take it as a personal attack. everyone is different.

the delusion that you are better than everyone and the possibility of getting upset (e.g angry, anxious, depressed, etc.) when you realize that this is an evident facade that you built as an emotional wall to protect you and prevent having your faux-confidence crumble like a cathedral.

the means of having absolute control over a situation (or project) in a field whether it be vocational, volunteer, or social and if you do not have it, you grow impossibly uncomfortable with everyone and everything around you including yourself.

faking empathy and sympathy by studying others so that you know how to act when someone comes to you with a concern. this is a necessity also when you work with people such as customer service or any job involving cognitive interaction with people.

getting those Depressed™ awful days where you want to lay in bed and die, but also you can’t just do that because you need to speak to people because you cannot just isolate yourself

the splitting, sort of like BPD, except it’s not a limbo of “i love you, i hate you, i love you.” for me at least. if i split, you’re done forever unless you’re a specific person or two.

the denial in rising in position (job, status, wealth, etc) pisses you off to the point where it becomes a toxic cycle with yourself and (maybe) others around you

the glorification of beauty, power, and success that you feel inadequate if you do not obtain it

there’s more, probably, and i am speaking on the fact of what i experience. you will be blocked if you invalidate my post and uh, don’t input if you do not have NPD at all, thanks.

glittercontusion

How to Beat the Narcissist at His Own Game:

Tbh I suck at chess and I get confused during some tabletop games so I’m not actually that hard to beat. It’s still fun playing, though.

aspdking

completely neurotypical people can seek emotional reassurance and straight up ask their friends if their presence is welcome and enjoyed and it’s perfectly fine…

but the moment a person with NPD asks the exact same thing (word for word), it’s suddenly “emotional manipulation” and we’re suddenly all “monsters uwu”

some people seem to forget that NPD also comes with huge self loathing and self hatred and disgust and that despite our occasional emotional disconnect, we need reassurance every now and then too lmao especially from people we hold to a high degree of respect

#queue

Anyway someone actually hates me now because I'm an egomaniac

npd culture is hating everyone around you

hoisinn

give me attention but also leave me alone

narcboyprince

Am I the only npd that would enjoy having a yandere after them. Like you worship me enough to stalk and kidnap me? You would die for my attention? You’re obsessed with me? I’m the most important person to you? You tell me how perfect i am and how much you love me? Flattering, 10/10, do it again

npd culture is trying your best not to sound edgy

#actuallynpd #actuallynarcissistic