neurodivergent wlw

a safe space and advice blog for wlw and sapphics who are neurodivergent or mentally ill. trans and nb inclusive, terfs/swerfs don't interact.

[neurosapphics]

Im butch, and i love other butches, but theres this one particular look i just cant handle. I used to be friends with this one butch lesbian who was abusing one of my other friends while actively encouraging me to stay with my abuser and now every time i see someone that looks like her i get sent to hell. Idk what to do bc i know a lot of butches already have to deal with stigma and tons of other shit, and i know most arent like her, but i cant help the extreme paranoia i get around some of them

I think some classic exposure would help most with this. You have to keep in mind that not every person like that would ever hurt you in that way, and many people have extremely varying personalities. Maybe find some online or in real life, say hello to them, talk to them a bit, just small talk is the most you'd have to do to help some. I feel like talking or greeting them pleasantly or meeting some online would help replace the bad memories with something more positive, so that the image of a particular butch wouldn't make you feel anxious anymore, but rather relating it with someone nicer and kinder to you.I hope this helps, love.

[neurosapphics]

Hey, i'm a traumatized fem les, i hope this isn't too explicit, as a child i was consistantly sexually abused by one of my neighbors (female, like me) and ive had issues with hypersexuality for five years since then, the excessive sexual activity physically hurts me and it destroys my relationships.. ive already been expressing my sexuality on the internet in order to divert some of my energy but its not enough, i always feel like i cant stop, i dont know what to do at this point,

Hello! I apologize for the late response, finals and such have been a trip.If you feel like it specifically impacts relationships, maybe you should talk to the person about it, set boundaries with each other so both of you never go too far into things that could damage the relationship. Always have a strong bond to where you can discuss issues like these so you can help each other get better. Away from relationships, something you can do to exert that energy away is distractions. Try writing a list of things that can distract you and exert the energy into a more positive way so it doesn't drag you down, maybe play video games, watch tons of interesting YouTube videos, draw something, listen to loud music. Whatever takes your mind off things that contribute to your hypersexuality can help. A more serious idea to help with the problem is therapy. I know most people can not get into counseling or therapy, but in case you can or feel it is the only option to help, therapists can help you discuss your feelings caused by the trauma and how to heal from it, which may also stop the side effect of hypersexuality. I hope any of these ideas help, and my inbox is always open, on here and my personal blog. Much love <3

[neurosapphics]

hey, just wanted to let you know, the pink post with the cat (i think it said something about children media) was created by a terf, i checked their blog :(

Ick, thanks for telling me! Definitely deleting that.

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Requested by anon (hey and it’s true).

[neurosapphics]

Do you guys know of any good ace wlw blogs?

I looked up a few active ones for you!

@acewlw

@acewlws

@ace-and-aro-wlw-positivity

@aspecsapphic

[acewlws]

acewlw is no longer active but all the others are as far as I know. This blog definitely is!!

[neurosapphics]

Do you guys know of any good ace wlw blogs?

I looked up a few active ones for you!

@acewlw

@acewlws

@ace-and-aro-wlw-positivity

@aspecsapphic

[neurosapphics]

i recently got a psych evaluation to see if I had asd and the results came back negative even though I have several symptoms that line up with Autism and ADHD and my mum refuses to believe me when I say stuff like 'x food feels gross to eat, can you not make me eat it?' or if I need to stim because apparently I'm not autistic and therefore can't do that even though it calms me down and makes me feel better

Hello! Remember that you know yourself better than anyone else, one psychiatrists opinions can differ from others, and they can misdiagnose you. A lot of symptoms of anxiety, ADHD, and other issues can line up with one another, and maybe doing some research and showing your mother your findings could help. If you’re able, maybe ask the psychiatrist about these symptoms again and ask if any other problems could be causing it such as things like anxiety or ADHD. I know that my anxiety order is severe at times, and I use stimming to calm myself down (especially chewing haha). It might be hard, but showing her that you’re persistent and willing to research into things and discuss it with her may cause her to sway on her thoughts.

If all else fails, try stimming in private or in ways that aren’t very eye-catching, as it can be a way to not catch your mother’s attention. The food thing will probably be battle after battle though, but hopefully through time, your mother will begin to understand.

I hope this helps!

[neurosapphics]

Hey y'all mod Kade here, I'm online and available, so if anyone wants to tell us something or needs advice, the ask box is open!

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[neurosapphics]

From here on out, I won't be answering asks or replying to messages that involve transphobic people. This is a safe space for all sapphic people, including trans women and enby sapphics. This blog has always been against terfs, and I won't be arguing with people where I'm arguing into the void. If you are trans, know that you are loved and accepted here. All my posts are made for every one of my followers, not terfs who want to tear us down. Thanks everyone, goodnight!!

[neurosapphics]

okay this is a genuine question so please don’t take it the wrong way but i genuinely do not understand the fixation with forcing relationships on people who don’t necessarily want them? it feels kinda wrong just to read things bout it bc it feels like what my corrective rapist said? and i’m really distressed about it bc i feel like it’s an expectation just to prove i’m not a “bad lesbian” and i don’t know im sorry i am unsure what to make of a lot of this

I'm not exactly sure what you're talking about, but if you're referring to me saying that you need to stop basing trans women on their genitals, that's not forcing you into a relationship. That's saying that people who claim "trans women aren't women and that lesbians who support trans women are making other lesbians try dick" are transphobic and are acting as if all trans women are just men undercover which is gross and wrong. Just the fact that some lesbians think us saying that "lesbians can fall in love with trans women" is wrong just because the woman is trans is harmful and transphobic ideology. Nobody forces people into a relationship, but if your sole reason for not dating someone is because they're trans with no other reason, then that's wrong and gross.

[neurosapphics]

Hello guys, regarding our recent post on sapphic people dealing to sexual trauma, people brought up an aversion to penises. Keep in mind this post will talk about sex and themes regarding it. Let's start this off with me saying that nobody expects lesbians to be forced to like dick. Nobody said that, and none of us ever said that With that being established, trans women don't always have certain genitals, and if they do and you are in a relationship with them, set boundaries with one another. Sex doesnt have to be penis-in-vagina, and it's a very exclusionary way to think about sex. So in turn, if you're only in a relationship to have sex, you're not in a relationship. If you truly loved a person who happened to be trans, you would be willing to talk to them and set boundaries so that your trauma won't worsen. Odds are, you're just being transphobic and equating girls to some weird idea of "womanhood" that you think is true to everyone. So shut up with your transphobic comments on my posts.

[neurosapphics]

sapphics who have sexual trauma and realize they’re asexual after are valid

sapphics who have sexual trauma and realize they’re lesbians after are valid

sapphics who have sexual trauma and realize they’re afraid of men afterward are valid

sapphics who have sexual trauma and cope in nonconvential ways are valid

don’t shame others for their trauma, realize that sexual trauma isn’t a joke and can severely affect people in ways that you might not understand.

[neurosapphics]

sapphics who have sexual trauma and realize they're asexual after are valid sapphics who have sexual trauma and realize they're lesbians after are valid sapphics who have sexual trauma and realize they're afraid of men afterward are valid sapphics who have sexual trauma and cope in nonconvential ways are valid don't shame others for their trauma, realize that sexual trauma isn't a joke and can severely affect people in ways that you might not understand.

[malaphorous]

I kno the whole “straight girls don’t have to worry abt us crushing on them cause they’re gross” is a mood but s/o to those wlw who struggled with feeling predatory/gross for getting crushes on our best friends

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autistic aces’ existence is not ableist

autistic aces’ existence is not ableist

autistic aces’ existence is not ableist

autistic aces’ existence is not ableist

autistic aces’ existence is not ableist

autistic aces’ existence is not ableist

autistic aces’ existence is not ableist

autistic aces’ existence is not ableist

this has been a psa

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I’m Gay

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I’m A Lesbian

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[daovihi]

I’m bisexual

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i’m trans

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[ask-desperately-laurens]

Im Asexual.

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[reallychico]

I’m not sure yet

[ask-henriette-lafayette]

it’s ok!

[wizardgender]

a wholesome post

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oh, interesting note: op is throwing a pity party because someone added those nasty-wasty acey-waceys to their pure L! G! B! T! ONLY post, and they DIDN’T LIKE THAT. Keep reblogging this version to piss them off.

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Yaaassss