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18. he/xe. aro lesbian. autistic. i ramble a lot

[revengescene]

FLFESOTA:

Three Cheers for Sweet Revenge.

[traaumaa]

- ft willz

[anxietyproblem]

[ntstudying]

the worst thing about changing between hyperfixations is having to unsubscribe from multiple youtube channels

[leonardnimoy]

reblog if your family has a plastic bag with plastic bags inside

[pinkfemme-deactivated20210608]

butches: *are masculine*

parents: no u need to like feminine stuff!!!!!!!

butches 5 months later: alright i’m here to introduce my femme girlfriend

[just-shower-thoughts]

If the sun suddenly exploded, we wouldn’t find out until 8 minutes 20 seconds later.

[rockinoutforthdead-deactivated2]

The Light Behind Your Eyes - My Chemical Romance // untitled - FT Willz

[dearpercocet]

From My Head to My Middle Finger.pdf

Well, the people have been asking for it, so here it is. This is a full pdf of all the FT Willz poems and Frank Iero poems I could find.

[anxietyproblem]

Instagram

[nochillpikachu]

well damn…or just anxiety

[infj-dreams]

Accurate

[dreamer-13-deactivated20201222]

Damm

[smart-student-anon]

This explains so much— Holy—

[darksoulpastelheart]

Or both

[insomniac-arrest]

“Harry Potter saved kids lit”

excuse you, do not pay such disrespect to our chosen leader, Firestar

Warrior Cats saved kids lit by being full of like ongoing murder and intrigue and weird cat love triangles. Do you know how many of these books I bought when I was 11? We have an entire shelf of these bad boys.

and where else would we get these lines??

[anxietyproblem]

[anxietyproblem]

[aro-aizawa]

sometimes being aromantic in lgbt+ spaces makes me feel like a preteen sat at the adults table. i can speak freely and try to join the conversation but every word out of my mouth is dismissed. the conversation is deemed to complex for me to understand, and the adults don’t even consider understanding my issues. they patronise me, or pretend to take my words seriously but then laugh in that “aw kids say the silliest things” way to each other. if i act out and demand that the others listen to me, my behavior is brushed off as teenager behavior and ignored. eventually i give up trying to sit there when it’s clear that i’m not wanted. they may not have pushed me out with hostility, but ignoring me is just as effective.

lgbt+ members need to give more respect and consideration for aromantic people. remember us and don’t just wait until someone asks you “and aromantics too” or tacks onto your post reminding you to include us. we shouldn’t be added as an afterthought, but a key part just as important as lesbian or gay or bisexual. and don’t just say “oh but that’s what i meant by asexual” no. you mean asexual. aromantic is separate thing. has been for decades.

there’s also the way that people don’t really try to understand us. they’ll “accept” us but don’t really show any kind of support or acknowledgement. because they don’t really understand it, so they don’t want to be awkward, so they don’t bring it up. they forget about it. i feel like i have to come out like 50 times to the same people because not once do they properly acknowledge my identity. god. please. just. fucking remember us. please. i’m not saying to forget your own identities but would it kill you to consider educating yourselves on aromantic issues and terms just as much as we acknowledge and fight for you?????

[hatefuckingunconditional]

“i like your personality!” thanks! It’s a complete copy of others traits I picked up along the way to fill the empty shell of the person I am!

[just-shower-thoughts]

Thick thighs turn shorts into panties

[aroaceness]

I hope the community continues to gatekeep you “asexual” weirdos because y’all are stupid ass narcissistic heteros (but I’m bi but I’m ___... nah your all straight and no amount of pretending to be “queer” will ever change that)

I actually think this comment is really interesting, especially coming from a queer person.

The first thing I that the asexual, aromantic, or any other aspec experience is fundamentally different from the straight experience. Even if you’re asexual heteroromantic, you grow up thinking that you’re broken, not understanding why everyone is feeling things and you’re not, wondering if you’re going to be alone for the rest of your life, etc. It’s not fun. You don’t grow up in a world that aligns with your attraction. When you look for adults in your life who feel the same way you do, there are none. When you look for someone in a TV show or book that feels the same way you do, there are also none. You don’t grow up never having to question your sexuality. You’re constantly wondering if you’re going to “turn out okay.” You date people you don’t actually like. You have sex people with you don’t actually want to.

The second thing is that you, as a queer person yourself, should know that straight isn’t the “default” sexuality and if someone says they’re asexual/aromantic, they’re not just a “repressed straight person.” No. They could be a repressed bi person, a repressed gay person, a repressed literally any sexuality because you can’t assume that if they weren’t ace they would be straight. And because you can’t know what their sexuality would be if they weren’t ace, it makes no sense to call them straight. They are ace. That’s their sexuality.

And if you don’t like all of this, the label “asexual” has been around for so much longer than when AVEN was founded. There are wonderful articles on the internet about asexual folks in the 1960s that you probably won’t read because you don’t actually care about this post.

It just makes me sad that someone would hate an entire group of people for no reason without understanding their point of view.