ATTACHMENTS ARE NOT RELATIONSHIPS
I need everyone who claims to like SW to understand that. Attachments are not relationships.
It's not about having friends or lovers or people to care about. It's obsessive fear of loss and jealousy. You know what we call that on Earth? Abandonment issues and people pleasing. We go to therapy for that, bc it's not healthy and it makes us miserable.
So why can't Jedi marry? The Jedi believe that children and spouses deserve complete attention. They believe that people deserve present parents and involved partners. Being a Jedi isn't a job. It's a lifestyle. How dare they preach compassion and fairness and justice whilst leaving some abandoned child somewhere? How dare they teach kindness and love and self sacrifice while having a neglected spouse?
That's the difference. That's why Kanan, who no longer lives like a Jedi in the Republic, can have a relationship and not have attachments, and be a good enough Jedi to be knighted. That's why Luke, who loved his father, could be a Jedi. That's why Obi Wan, who loved Qui-Gon, Satine, Bail and Breha, Ahsoka, Anakin, Luke, and Leia and had life-long relationships with them could be a Jedi. That's why Yoda, who loved his family so much that feeling their deaths from across the Galaxy made him stumble, could be a good Jedi.
Relationships were encouraged. That's healthy. That's loving. That's being alive.
Attachment is fear, and fear isn't love. Fear is selfishness.
