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What Is DD? (Domestic Discipline)

What is DD? (Domestic Discipline) Domestic Discipline (DD) is a common practice in the BDSM lifestyle. In most cases it involves the common types of discipline that was used by parents, teachers, principals, nuns, etc. It can include face slapping, hitting hands, ear pulling, spankings, etc. Spankings being the most common. In the Domestic Discipline realm of the BDSM lifestyle, the role playing involves the typical situations that has occurred in actual domestic discipline situations that people typically experienced in schools, home, or other places where physical discipline existed. Most Domestic Discipline practices in this lifestyle are NOT SEXUAL even though some have used it in sexual situations. Many of those in Daddy Dom relationships have used Domestic Discipline in their practice. The typical roles in Domestic Discipline involve Daddy/Little, Mother/Little, Teacher/Student, Employer/Employee, Police Officer/Criminal, Nun/Student, and even Nurse/Bad Patient has been used. There are other roles used in Domestic Discipline also. Keep in mind that everyone involved with this are all CONSENTUAL ADULTS. Props like clothing and attire, room decorations, spanking implements, and other miscellaneous items have been used to set the roles up. In this particular realm, Dom/mes tend to be the authority figures, Subs tend to be the child, student, criminal, employee, bad patients, or other roles appropriate for the person being punished. A person who is a switch is a person who will play the Dominant role at one time and the Submissive role at another. Switches will play either role. Domestic Discipline is my personal favorite in this lifestyle. I like to be the Submissive but I have played the dominant role also. I would be classified as a switch. For those who like the Domestic Discipline type of play, have fun with it and don't do anything that the other person involved doesn't consent to. Everything is all consentual among legal adults here. Rodney Calmes

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Spankings Are Good Anytime

Spankings Are Good Anytime There are always advantages and disadvantages to each time of the day when getting spanked. Here are the following advantages and disadvantages. Morning Spankings: The advantage is that you feel your freshly spanked and swollen butt throughout the day. You get it at its best and the most sore which is a great feeling. The disadvantage is that the soreness and swelling can wear off throughout the day before bed and the feeling of going to bed with a sore butt is not there. Afternoon Spankings: (Advantages and Disadvantages), you feel the majority of the soreness throughout the afternoon but you don't get to enjoy the whole day with a sore butt. You still have some soreness in your butt at bedtime which is better than nothing. Night Spankings: The advantage is the feeling of going to bed with a nicely freshly spanked butt and the greatest of the soreness is felt upon going to sleep, it helps me fall asleep better. The disadvantage is that much of the soreness wears off by the next day and not much left to enjoy the day with. Multiple Spankings Throughout The Day: You get to enjoy the greatest amount of soreness throughout the day and as it wears off, you can get another spanking so it can stay nice and sore throughout the day and night. The disadvantage is Leather Butt Syndrome sets in more quickly and the butt gets calloused. This will eliminate the sting from getting spanked and the swelling will go down anyway then you have to go a long time without a spanking for only some of the sting and swelling to come back, but you will never get all of that back. Alternating night for one day and morning for another day works best for me so I can enjoy the best of all worlds. Have fun and do what is best for you. Rodney Calmes

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Myths And Truths About Spankings And BDSM

Myths And Truths About Spankings And BDSM There are many misconceptions that are made about people who like spankings or people in the BDSM lifestyle. Myth: People who like getting spanked and have had abusive childhood spankings enjoyed the abusive spankings they got as children or they like it that they got abusive spankings. Truth: People who consent to spankings as adults and had abusive childhood spankings absolutely hate the memories of the abusive spankings they got as children. They hated the spankings they got as children as well. I myself am one of them. Saying that the person liked the abusive spankings as children is like saying that a person who likes casual sex liked getting molested as children. Myth: Engaging in consentual adult spankings can hinder the healing process for those who have been abused as children. Truth: Consentual adult spankings are completely separate from abuse. It is just like saying that casual sex with consent between husband and wife hinders healing from being molested as a child. Those are completely separate. Myth: All consentual adult spankings are sexual. Truth: Spankings can have sexual effects on people but many times it is not sexual. Spankings can be used to relieve stress, put a person in a euphmoric state and have calming effects. Many people seek spankings for non-sexual reasons. Myth: BDSM is abuse. Truth: BDSM is all consentual. The true practice of BDSM doesn't do anything that the person doesn't consent to. It is often discussed with that person prior to play. Myth: BDSM is about ruthlessly whipping and beating a person with causing great harm. Truth: Very powerful spanking implements are often used and they have a potential to cause great harm. Those implements are often used in a way to create the sting that the sub desires but causes no harm when used by experienced people. Harm is rarely desired. Harm has been caused but mostly by amateurs. Most of the time no harm is done. Myth: Spankings are harmful and unhealthy. Truth: There are no known medical conditions caused by too many spankings. If skin is broken, there is a risk for infection. If spanking on the lower back, it could result in kidney damage. If blunt objects hit the very upper part of the butt, it could result in a broken tail bone. Spankings on the lower part of the buttocks poses no health risks at all. Repeated regular spankings had only cosmetic effects which include permanent skin discoloration and a great reduction in pain sensitivity in the area that was repeatedly spanked. Myth: Consentual adult spankings cause psychological damage. Truth: Anything an adult consents to doesn't cause any problems with proper after care. Spankings often serve as stress relievers which can have positive psychological effects and prolong health. Myth: BDSM has no concern for the person's health or well being. Truth: The health and well-being is well considered and many precautions are used so the person is not harmed with this practice. It is about care and concern for their health and well-being. BDSM does have risks just like anything else, but care is taken to try to minimize these risks as much as possible. Myth: People into BDSM always dress in black leather outfits and carry some from of spanking implements in public. Truth: That accounts for only a very few in this lifestyle. Most people in this lifestyle work regular jobs, live regular lives and mostly do regular things but practice play during play time. Myth: People into BDSM are only few in number. Truth: BDSM is more common than you think. There are many people who practice it and you would never be able to tell who does or who doesn't in a normal public crowd. Myth: BDSM is always 24/7. Truth: Only a few practice it 24/7. Myth: Only weirdos get involved with BDSM Truth: Many ordinary average people practice it. They live ordinary lives just like anyone else. They socialize like anyone else. Many of them would be considered normal people. Myth: Everyone who gets involved with BDSM has been abused. Truth: There are some who have been abused but there are also many who practice it who have never been abused and some have never even been spanked. I myself have interviewed some in Daddy Dom or Daddy/Little relationships who have never been spanked in their lives and never had any form of abuse. Myth: BDSM is a sin even if it takes place with husband and wife with consent. Christians don't practice BDSM. Truth: There are no scriptures in the Bible that addresses BDSM in any way. The Bible calls any sexual activity outside of husband/wife marriage a sin. There are many Christians who practice this lifestyle. Myth: BDSM is ruthless and has no respect for anyone. Truth: There is a great deal of respect and trust in this lifestyle. Most of the time the myths are believed by people who are not in the BDSM lifestyle and they know very little about it. Some who are in the lifestyle had some of these misconceptions as well. People often get judged for being in this lifestyle or ridiculed for it. Families are often the worst culprits for that. Have fun and enjoy yourself in the lifestyle. Rodney Calmes

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Getting The Most Sting From A Spanking

Getting The Most Sting From A Spanking After so many swats with just about any type of spanking implement at one time, the butt starts to numb. Once it numbs, you won't feel the sting that is desired in a spanking. If you want to get the most sting from a spanking, do the following: 1. Don't hit in the exact same spot repeatedly at once, move around a bit. 2. Use the safe word when you feel the sting at its climax. The sting gets to its climax when you don't feel an increase of sting with each swat, you are at your climax. Use the safe word at the time and take a few minutes to savor the sting then go back to spanking again. 3. When a sting climax is reached, after the sting is savored and enjoyed, use a harsher implement. It can increase the sting that can be savored and enjoyed even more. 4. Once the butt is numbed with the harshest of implements, then continue spanking so that it can get nice and swollen so the soreness and the feeling of a swollen butt can be enjoyed for a while after getting spanked. Sitting on a swollen butt is a great experience along with walking on it. Going to bed with a swollen butt is also a great feeling. Have fun enjoying and savoring every bit of sting you can get from a spanking. Rodney Calmes

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The Benefits Of Getting Spanked

The Benefits Of Getting Spanked Many people believe that if someone likes to get spanked, it is all sexual. That is not the case all the time. Even though getting spanked has some sexual effects or enhances sexual arousal, there are many non-sexual benefits from getting spanked. What can spankings do for you? 1. Getting spanked relieves stress. 2. Getting spanked is calming. 3. Getting spanked generates endorphins and puts you in a euphoric state. 4. Getting spanked generates adrenaline and gives an adrenaline rush, especially if you are anticipating getting a very harsh one. 5. Getting spanked lifts moods. Russian psychiatrists have found success in treating depression with bare butt whippings. 6. The marks left from getting spanked is like an art of its own. 7. For some, it can restore feelings of youth. Don't be ashamed of getting spanked, enjoy it! For those who never tried it in your adult years, give it a try. You never know, you may like it. Rodney Calmes

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The Benefits Of Getting Spanked

The Benefits Of Getting Spanked Many people believe that if someone likes to get spanked, it is all sexual. That is not the case all the time. Even though getting spanked has some sexual effects or enhances sexual arousal, there are many non-sexual benefits from getting spanked. What can spankings do for you? 1. Getting spanked relieves stress. 2. Getting spanked is calming. 3. Getting spanked generates endorphins and puts you in a euphoric state. 4. Getting spanked generates adrenaline and gives an adrenaline rush, especially if you are anticipating getting a very harsh one. 5. Getting spanked lifts moods. Russian psychiatrists have found success in treating depression with bare butt whippings. 6. The marks left from getting spanked is like an art of its own. 7. For some, it can restore feelings of youth. Don't be ashamed of getting spanked, enjoy it! For those who never tried it in your adult years, give it a try. You never know, you may like it. Rodney Calmes

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Tips On How To Savor The Sting From A Spanking

Tips On How To Savor The Sting From A Spanking Some people will spank many times at once. The problem with too many spankings at once is that the butt numbs too fast. The object of a spanking is to get the most sting that the person consents to. Numbing the butt defeats the purpose. Ways to savor the sting: 1. Give only a few swats at a time, let the sting set in. A good 30 seconds or so allows the sting to set in. Then give a few more swats. 2. For the sub, feel the sting and enjoy it. Don't ask for too many at once. Ask for more when the sting starts to settle down. 3. Rubbing in between can stimulate the nerves and allow for more sting. 4. Take it slow. The butt will get numb eventually anyway. Try to prolong that as much as possible so that every bit of the sting can be savored and enjoyed. 5. Don't repeatedly hit on the same spot, but move around the whole butt. This way, the whole butt can enjoy the sting. Too many hits in the same spot at once will numb it quickly. 6. Once the butt gets numb, rub it and let it settle a little, then spank again. Eventually the butt will stay numb. 7. Once the butt gets numb, try going harder with more harsh implements, you may be able to squeeze more sting from it. 8. Once the butt stays numb even with the harshest implements, then go nuts. This will allow for some swelling so that the after sting and the soreness can be felt for days. 9. Sit on a hard surface after the spanking until you get used to it, then get up and walk full steps to feel the effects of the swelling. This will help maximize your spanking experience. 10. The after effects can be enjoyed for days after the spanking. Wait until you no longer feel anything and the swelling and marks have diminished before getting another spanking. For people like me, the waiting period is the hardest part. I hope this helps to get the most of your spanking experience. Rodney Calmes

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Reasons People Like Getting Spanked

The foundational reasons:

1. Seeing someone get spanked and wanting to try it, whether it is at a party or in a movie.

2. Hearing about it or reading about it from various sources such as psychology class or talking to friends.

3. Having someone try it on...

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Reasons People Like Getting Spanked

Reasons People Like Getting Spanked The foundational reasons: 1. Seeing someone get spanked and wanting to try it, whether it is at a party or in a movie. 2. Hearing about it or reading about it from various sources such as psychology class or talking to friends. 3. Having someone try it on you and discovering that you like it, such as a domestic partner introducing it to you. 4. A brutal childhood spanking inadvertently causing an involuntary sexual experience, thus altering a person's sexual development. There is medical evidence to prove that this happens. Studies show that it can happen to children as early as age 4. Brutal spankings on children is strongly discouraged. Current sexual reasons: 1. Enhances sexual arousal by sensations traveling to the sexual parts. 2. Sets the mood. 3. Causes an increase of hormones to flow through the body, thus increasing the body's ability to get aroused. Non-sexual reasons: 1. Puts a person into a euphoric state. 2. Relieves stress. 3. Relaxes a person. 4. Settles emotions, some people may use spankings to relieve them of emotional pain, but that is not the case for everyone. 5. Relieves a person from a guilty conscience. Visual reasons: 1. Seeing the marks left. 2. The marks is like an art that can be enjoyed for a however long they last. 3. For those who like scars, they can be enjoyed for a lifetime. Sensational reasons: 1. The initial pain can be enjoyable. 2. The after sting can be enjoyable. 3. The feeling of sitting on a freshly spanked butt is often enjoyed. 4. The feeling of a nicely swollen butt that can last for days after a spanking is often enjoyed. 5. The sensations of the implement touching the skin or hitting the skin is enjoyed. In my case, I like the raw wood of a paddle, and I like the sting of a cane, crop, or whip. Time of day that can be enjoyed. Morning spanking can be best because the after sting and sensations after getting spanked can be enjoyed throughout the day. Night spankings can be good because going to bed with that fresh sting can make me sleep better. Other side benefits of getting spanked: 1. Feeling of being a child or restored youth. 2. Feeling content. 3. The feeling of normalcy especially if you have been spanked often. 4. It feels like there is something missing when not receiving a spanking. 5. Familiarity, things seem right when getting spanked. Things can seem strange or out of place, like there is something wrong when not getting spanked. 6. The feeling of adequacy. Because spankings are not sinful, they are relatively safe and for the most part only have cosmetic long term side effects, enjoy it. Embrace it. Rodney Calmes