Finding bug in the emotions

[sahasulagna2021]

Interdependency is hard and yet to be learned. But when I say I did something, that's a lie. All the every part of the world - living or non living - was with me to make myself who I am. How can someone be even alone? It's his/her inability to recognize his own parts.

[sahasulagna2021]

When I inserted a thought in my brain, my brain automatically used to attach a feeling or a tag (like/dislike) with it. And the feeling used to reign over the thought. Now, I am learning to take a thought THE WAY IT IS. -- one of my change in '21 I am proud of.

[sahasulagna2021]

There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity

- Samuel Johnso

[sahasulagna2021]

Between the self who gave the last post and the self who is giving post now,

Feels like one millisecond has not spent yet

Feels like one thousand years have been past

How is that even possible I am I am?

How I ended up here, solely, by myself?

[sahasulagna2021]

The dream: the new community, the new faces, the new perspectives

Touching that dream feels like weird. How I am reacting, how I am talking are slowly making my identity in the totally new people’s head. It's both kind of intimidating and exciting at the same time.

(Me1: Ohp I am not like that, I am not like that,!...

Me2: Who I am like really?)

[sahasulagna2021]

Cal newport must have to help me to go through the College Puzzle, please!; Otherwise, I Don't Know what's gonna happen!

[sahasulagna2021]

Is this only me?:

I hate to answer the questions : "ki korcho ajkal?"/ "ki korish saradin?"/"ki obostha?"

[sahasulagna2021]

না মানে বন্ধুত্ব এক অন্যরকম সম্পর্ক, যেটা কোনো এ্যাগ্রিমেন্টের ভিত্তিতে, পছন্দ অপছন্দ এর ভিত্তিতে তৈরি হওয়ার কোনো মানে নেই। আরে বন্ধুর সামনে যদি আমি নিজের সব কথাই মন খুলে না বলতে পারি, আমাকে এটা ভাবতে হয় কে কি মনে করবে, না করবে, তাইলে হেইডা কি বন্ধুত্ব হলো নাকি। ফালতু! আমি যাকে বন্ধু মনে করি তাকে বন্ধু মনে করি তার ব্যবহার এ, তার সহজাত স্বতস্ফুর্ততায়। যে বোঝে আমার কখন একা থাকা দরকার, যে বোঝে কখন কেনো আমি রুড আচরণ করছি। বন্ধু বোঝে কখন আমি না চাইলেও আমাকে জোর করার অপেক্ষা আমি করি, হাহা! এইতো বন্ধুত্ব, যার প্রায়োরিটি সবসময় আমি হই, তা আমি চাই না। আমি এই আশায় কোনো বন্ধুত্ব করি না, যে সে আমার বিপদের সময় এসে ঝাপিয়ে পড়বে, এটা করবে, সেটা করবে এই ভেবে আমি ঝুলি ভরে বন্ধু বানাই না। বন্ধু তো সেই যাকে বলতে পারি, হুর তুই এখন যাতো, ভাল্লাগছে না, আমাকে ভাবতে দে, তুই বুঝিস না এতকিছু। বন্ধুত্বে কখনো ইনফেরিওর, সুপেরিওরিটি থাকে না। আরে বন্ধুর কাছে এক্সপেকটেশন কিসের? বন্ধু তো বন্ধুই হয়, অ্যাট লিস্ট যে জিজ্ঞাসা করতে পারে, আরে তুই কেন আমারে পাত্তা দিচ্ছিস না কয়েকদিন ধরে, কি বেপার কি হইছে খুলে বলতে পারস, আর না পারলেও সমস্যা নাই, খালি আছি, আমি এখানে আছি হ্যা তোর জন্য!

বন্ধুত্ব একসাইডেড হতে পারে, আবার দূর দুরান্ত থেকেও হতে পারে। বন্ধুত্ব করতে আরে প্রতিদিন কথা বলা লাগে না। ৩ বছর পরেও হেসে কথা বলে উড়িয়ে দেওয়া যায়। আমার বন্ধুকে আমি আমার সর্বোচ্চ টা দিয়ে দিতে পারি, আর আমার বন্ধু তা জানে সেটা আমি কিভাবে দিই। বন্ধুত্ব সময়ের বাধনে বাধা যায় না, বন্ধুত্ব এ ক্ষমা না করে দেওয়ার বালাই থাকে না।

যে নিজের বন্ধুর থেকে কষ্ট পায়, সে কখনো অপর পক্ষকে বন্ধু ভেবেই উঠতে পারে নি; যে বন্ধুত্ব ভেঙে দেওয়া যায়, সেটা কোনোদিন ও বন্ধুত্বই ছিল না!

বন্ধুর আচরণ হঠাৎ বদলে গেলে, বা আমাকে ইগ্নোর করতে শুরু করলেও নিশ্চয়ই তার পিছনে কোনো কারণ থাকবে, আর তার জন্য আমি এখানেই থাকবো, কিন্তু এই আশায় থেকে না যে সে কার জন্য কিভাবে বসে আছে!

[sahasulagna2021]

মানুষ এত অ্যাসাম্পশন করে কি মজা পায় বুঝি না, এটাতো সিম্পল - হোয়াট আই নো, আই নো; হোয়াট আই ডোন্ট নো, আই ডোন্ট নো 🤷‍♀️

[sahasulagna2019]

We could have written a lot of stories. Don't you think ? Happy 1 year anniversary of our blogs (we started at 31 may)

Of course we could. But every story does not need to be written. They roam around head and space :)

Happy anniversary fro.

The journey was great.

[sahasulagna2021]

Where did our second celebration went away😕😕 @nemesisalo

[demiiwhiffin]

june 2015

[tbhstudying]

i know that waking up in the morning can be such a chore ;; it’s always so tempting to sleep til noon and constantly press “snooze.” however, mornings are a nice and quiet bit of the day to enjoy!! here are a few tips to maximize your mornings.

benefits:

there’s so much more time to be productive

if you finish up your work in the morning, you can relax in the evening

early mornings are really peaceful and calm

you can catch a glimpse of the sunrise

you feel happier and healthier

go to sleep earlier

getting adequate sleep will help you wake up early for the next day! i know, it seems like a better idea to stay up really late to finish that one last assignment. but!! i’d recommend that you sleep earlier and wake up earlier to finish it in the morning. you’ll feel less tired and stressed!

wake up earlier than you normally do

idk about you, but if i wake up after 8 or 9 am, i just feel so so sluggish and feel like i lost some precious hours of the morning. i personally like waking up around 6 to 6:30, but other people like waking up around 7.

open up your blinds / curtains

let all the natural light fill your room!! it makes your room brighter and i swear, almost everything looks prettier with natural light. also, natural light is fantastic for taking those studyspo pictures :-))))

drink a glass of water

your body hasn’t had any water for the past 8 or so hours that you’ve been asleep!! drinking a large glass of water after you wake up will fire up your metabolism, rehydrate your brain, help your body flush out toxins, and help you feel refreshed as well.

wash your face with cold water

idk about you but i literally feel half-asleep on my feet when i wake up and i just want to crawl back into my bed and never see the morning light again. washing my face with cold water really wakes me up and makes me feel super refreshed and ready to tackle the day! i also like to brush my teeth too bc morning breath is gross ;;

eat breakfast

eating a healthy breakfast gives you energy to use for the day, improves your memory and mood, improves concentration and productivity, and is good for your overall health bc it reduces risk of type 2 diabetes + obesity (reduces chances of excessive, unhealthy snacking).

lately, i’ve been eating a small bowl of oatmeal with honey, peanut butter, and a little bit of fruit on the side. it’s so so good omg :’) i also make myself a cup of tea to give me a little “kick” in the morning.

turn on some music

idk why but turning on some nice music in the morning instantly sets a nice sort of atmosphere? i like playing studio ghibli music bc it’s calming and happy!

plan out your day

figure out what you’re going to do with all of the time that you have now! i like jotting down my tasks in my bullet journal, but you can just write up a to-do list, use an app, a planner, or your own bullet journal.

get to work!

take advantage of the time you have now to get started on your assignments + projects + studying!

you can also check out my morning routine video to see how i usually spend my mornings!

hope this helped and good luck! if you’d like to request a post, go here and if you’d like to see more helpful posts, go here!! thanks :)

[akajessi-blog]

i think i visit my blog more than anyone else does

[sahasulagna2021]

Only me💀

[universi-tea]

COLLEGE ADVICE PT. I

write down every deadline!

get someone’s number in every class, in case you have to miss a class or need a study buddy

don’t buy textbooks before you go to the first class – you might not even need them

same with notebooks, binders, folders, etc

live on campus for at least a year if you can – you’ll make more friends and get more involved that way

apply for a work study job  – your boss will be way more understanding about taking time off to study than if you work off campus 

put yourself out there, especially in the first couple of months. go to club interest meetings, hang out with people from class, introduce yourself to your hall mates

if you don’t like the free t shirt, don’t take it. you’ll never wear, no not even to sleep, and you’ll just end up stressed out about your lack of closet space

don’t go straight back to your dorm after class – study in the library, hang out in union. don’t coop yourself up in your room all day!!

start your work as soon as you get it

always carry a water bottle

don’t leave the dining hall empty handed! grab some fruit or cookies for a snack later

keep a travel mug in your backpack so you can get free coffee from the dining hall instead of starbucks

coordinate with your roommates on big stuff – fridge, coffee maker, etc

apply for fafsa the day it opens!! if they need any extra info you’ll wanna know asap 

lay out your clothes the night before, so you can sleep a little later

use the resources available to you!! go to the gym, the campus clinic, etc because you’re already paying for it!!

go to sporting events even if you don’t like sports, it’s a chance to really appreciate your school + get away from homework for a bit

start your work as soon as you get it!!!

take classes that interest you!! even if they’re outside your major

study hard but don’t forget to take a break!! spend time with your friends and make memories!!

always keep $20 in your car for emergency gas or food

you’ll probably switch majors. that’s okay.

if you decide you want to ~party~, take it easy. always go with people you trust, and don’t be afraid to leave early if you’re getting a bad vibe

don’t wear a lanyard. sure, they’re convenient, but at what cost?

speak up in class, but don’t be a know-it-all. if you’re speaking over all the other students or acting like you know more than the teacher your attendance grade is going to be the same as if you hadn’t talked at all

don’t sweat your gpa too much. it’s not like high school, and unless you have to have a certain gpa for a scholarship it doesn’t really matter what it is

keep your room clean. seriously it’ll make your relationship with your roommate much better and will keep your space from stressing you out

avoid all-nighters like the plague

enjoy it!!! 

[sahasulagna2021]

Starting to revive 2021 blog. Will be active here from now on!

[sahasulagna2021]

I can't define myself in a word. That does not mean I will try to push myself to fit into those existing vague words! You know what you mean, not what I mean!

[sahasulagna2021]

How to win at college

Don’t do all your reading

Create a Sunday ritual

Drop classes every semester

Start long-term projects the day they are assigned

Make your bed

Apply to ten scholarships a year

Build study systems

Befriend a professor

Become a club president

Read a newspaper every day

Do one thing better than anyone else you know

Avoid daily to-do lists

Learn to give up

Never nap

Sign up for something your first week

Always be working on a “Grand Project”

Take art history and astronomy

Blow the curve once a term

Ask one question at every lecture

Jump into research as soon as possible

Pay your dues

Study in fifty-minute chunks

Schedule your free time

Dress nicely for class

Decorate your room

Start studying two weeks in advance

Write outside of class

Eat alone twice a day

Find an escape

Take hard courses early on

Don’t study in your room

Don’t study in groups

Join an honors program

Do schoolwork every day

Attend guest lectures

Exercise five days a week

Stay in touch

Tack on an extra major or minor

Meet often with your advisor

Don’t get a normal job

Use three days to write a paper

Don’t undersleep, don’t oversleep

Relax before exams

Make friends your #1 priority

Don’t binge drink

Ignore your classmates’ grades

Seek out phenomenal achievers

Learn to listen

Never pull an all-nighter

Laugh every day

Use high-quality notebooks

Keep a work-progress journal

Seek out fun

Inflate your ambition

Get involved in your major department

Care about your grades, ignore your GPA

Always go to class

Set arbitrary deadlines

Eat healthily

Volunteer quietly

Write as if going for a Pulitzer

Attend political rallies

Maximize your summers

Choose goals, explore routes

Don’t take breaks between classes

Don’t network

Publish Op-Eds

Use a filing cabinet

Find a secret study space

Study with the Quiz-and-Recall Method

Empty your inbox

Relax before sleep

Start fast, end slow

Spend a semester studying abroad

“Don’t have no regrets”

Pink: I must do them( without great exception, I am sure I will do them)

Blue: I will try to do them, but not extremely sure if I can

Black: Very uncertain I will do.

##One thing about this book is you can misinterpret what the author wants to tell by reading the headlines only. I would say to go through the book to understand. He does want you to be definitely hardcore, but not obsessed with any particular thing. The list is a balanced one obviously.