I made my dad cry today. No, I didn’t upset him, rather he was overwhelmed. I read him a poem I had written about him, speech failed him and tears fell. I have seen my dad cry many times - no stiff upper lip has ever prevailed where he is concerned and I love him the more for it.
I enjoy writing poems about people who have influenced me in a positive way though it’s extremely difficult as there is usually so much that I want to say and not enough space to say it. I also enjoy reading poems written about people by other poets, a favourite of mine is one written in memory of a family member by Peter Sansom, ‘We All Dance In Our Family.’
It’s moments like the one I had this morning, the powerful gift of words that no financially purchased gift could even scrape close to, that makes all the time spent thinking, scribbling, worrying that’s it’s not good enough, editing and redrafting, all worthwhile. What better way is there to show someone how they have helped shape you? (In my dad’s case by sparking a love of music and words that has helped me through some of my most turbulent experiences).
This poem was written for my dad but I’d like to dedicate it to all dads who make time for their children.
My dad’s the real music man,
helped me learn words through
fed me the beats that led me to dance
played to the crowds in choking pubs,
played the charity functions,
and old working men’s clubs,
stood on the stages of local schools,
played in the church barns,
fed me on riffs and chorus lines,
set up his keyboards in the front room,
and played all the tunes,
he didn’t gain fame and didn’t desire it,
he just wants to see people
he doesn’t need praise or adoration,
at their planned celebrations,
he tells me he never wants it to stop,
can’t imagine the weekends without
but the years have made it harder to load
that he carts on the road,
no perks, no roadies to lift morale
just dad, his amp, keyboards, guitar
stacked and packed carefully into his car,
my tastes are sometimes different to his
we hold songs within us, they help and they cure,
when we need something more,
and while other dads do and other dads can,
mine taught me living with a musical hand
my dad’s the real music man.