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my anxiety has a loophole that if somebody is else is equally or more uncomfortable I develop the sudden ability to Do The Thing

castielsteenwolf

i cant go and ask for more ketchup for myself but if my friend wants more ketchup im out of my seat in a second

thehotgirlproject

The mom friend override

npr

In the past, many students weren’t finishing the FAFSA because it required them to manually enter their parents’ tax data from the previous year. That was a big hurdle, but there were also clear fixes, including making the FAFSA available earlier and requiring parents’ “prior-prior” year tax data instead. The latter allowed more students to utilize the IRS tool, which can automatically answer most of the FAFSA’s tough tax questions.

In 2015, the Obama administration agreed to these fixes, and so far this year, FAFSA completion rates are soaring.

But that progress may be on hold. Students who recently tried to use the IRS tool were told: “This service will be unavailable due to system maintenance. We apologize for any inconvenience.”

“System maintenance,” it turns out, wasn’t the full story, either.

Applying For College Aid Just Got Harder

Illustration by Maria Fabrizio for NPR

overcalm

stop thinking for a second and enjoy what life is offering to you

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i have an anxiety disorder

chaarmandeeer-deactivated201904

@everyone who has ever yelled at me how does it feel knowing youre going straight to hell

zarischarlie

Reblog if you’re the gay sister

lovlae

*walkin into lush*

me: hi

lush employee: you. are. valid.

theworldisa

January 10th

katimorton

Here’s the question I received on the website: “One topic I’d love for you to discuss on your channel someday is recovering from an emotionally abusive, emotionally unavailable, or generally ‘mean’ mother. How do we heal from the hurt of not having a 'good-enough’ mother? As adults, how do we fulfill that longing to be held and hugged and, most importantly, feel fully accepted, understood, and comforted?”

So, how do we heal from an emotionally absent mother? When we don’t have an emotionally available mom it means that we never had a safe foundation or that we could push off from. What I mean by that is that we never felt we could safely and easily go out into the world to try new things because we didn’t know if support would be there when we got back. This can cause us to feel unsure about ourselves and hinder our development.

It can also cause us to struggle in relationships and with wellness. Since no one demonstrated expression of emotions or told us it was okay, we can become very uncomfortable with them, and even seeing them in others can be too much for us. We can also prefer to be isolated because having someone close to us doesn’t feel “normal” or comfortable to us.

Now that we can somewhat understand what our symptoms may be, how do we heal from it? The first step in healing is to start giving a voice to that child self that never had one. This is often called inner child work, and something that I have my clients do is to write a letter from that child self to their adult self. It sounds strange at first, but it can be so very healing.

Self-soothing is another thing we will need to work on, because no one ever soothed us as a child or told us it was going to be okay. In order to heal from that we need to learn how to soothe ourselves and being the re-mothering process. In Jasmine Lee Cori’s book she offers up some “good mother messages” that you probably didn’t hear and encourages you to figure out which ones you need to hear most and learn how to say them to yourself. This could be done through a letter from your adult self to that child self, or simply by practicing self-care.

Lastly, build up your supports. In order to do all of this hard work we are going to need to have people around us to help us get through it. In addition to having a treatment team (therapist, psychiatrist, etc) it’s also very important to have supportive friends too. That way they can check in on you every so often and you can vent to them about this as needed.

I know there is so much more to talk about when it comes to this topic, so let me know in the comments if you want more videos like this!!

xox - Kati

semiadulthuman

💖💖💖

chessys

i love when ur lying on ur side and a little tear rolls out for no reason its so cinematic and on brand

abdution

Stranger Things, 2016.

The signs as Sylvia Plath quotes

Aries: “Perhaps when we find ourselves wanting everything, it is because we are dangerously near to wanting nothing.”

Taurus: “Would it be too childish of me to say: I want? But I do want: theater, light, color, paintings, wine and wonder.”

Gemini: “What is my life for and what am I going to do with it? I don’t know and I’m afraid. I can never read all the books I want; I can never be all the people I want and live all the lives I want.”

Cancer: “How we need another soul to cling to, another body to keep us warm. To rest and trust; to give your soul in confidence: I need this, I need someone to pour myself into.”

Leo: “Frustrated? Yes. Why? Because it is impossible for me to be God—”

Virgo: “What horrifies me most is the idea of being useless: well-educated, brilliantly promising, and fading out into an indifferent middle-age.”

Libra: “I love people. Everybody. I love them, I think, as a stamp collector loves his collection. Every story, every incident, every bit of conversation is raw material for me.”

Scorpio: “I’m dramatic and sloppily semi-cynical and semi-sentimental.”

Sagittarius: “Yet, God, I want to talk to everybody I can as deeply as I can. I want to be able to sleep in an open field, to travel west, to walk freely at night…”

Capricorn: “Nothing is real except the present, and already, I feel the weight of centuries smothering me.”

Aquarius: “Before I give my body, I must give my thoughts, my mind, my dreams. And you weren’t having any of those.”

Pisces: “It seems to me more than ever that I am a victim of introspection.”

#virgo

soph-okonedo

Gaten Matarazzo, Caleb McLaughlin and Millie Bobby Brown attend the 68th Annual Primetime Emmy Awards at Microsoft Theater on September 18, 2016 in Los Angeles, California

jeniphyer

CALEB IS TOO FLY!!

saucexay

Look at me man’s right now. Just look

jeniphyer

Hairline crispy. Loubitons on his feet! I didn’t even know they came that small. Look at that blazer. Custom. Has to be.

beholdingslut

Remember that the world began in a manic episode, too. God likes to hoard sharp things, just like you. We are saving you. And we need to hear it one more time: Who knows best?

Lydia Havens, From the Voices, published in “Pouch” (via sonnywortzik) Remember how Lydia writes stuff that hits me in the heart and I always need to hear this quote I’m so glad ur in my life bb @heartmagician (via k8lange)