Be wary of 'kindly' people asking curious questions at the start of your transition. They usually turn out to be transphobes. They will try to get you to open up and then they spew poison. Shut these people down before they can even start. Tell them to Google it if they are so fucking interested. You are NOT their resource for all things trans. You don't have to know all of the answers. You don't have to defend yourself as a woman. That's their game, not yours. NEVER answer questions about parts or what your deadname is or anything that wouldn't be asked of a cisgender woman. If someone asks you when you 'decided to become trans', throw your drink in their face. Being a woman is not for sissies. Stand tall and proud.
Btw, these questions and people usually disappear fairly early in. You learn to see/hear it coming. Don't let anybody try to steal your dignity ever.
"Can I ask you a question?'
"No"
or
"Yes, but be VERY careful"
