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baby I'm not even here right now. Im a hallucination

[transjudas]

Knives Out + Glass Onion parallels

[renthebarbarian]

Benoit Blanc seeing a woman of color being antagonized by rich assholes:

[bicreature]

When in the Barbie teaser the little girls smash their baby dolls' heads in Space Odyssey style after Barbie's appearance because Barbie represented the dawn of a new age where women could be more than just mothers

[quietgamelover]

As an autistic person I’m very confused by the idea that “making friends is easy if you put yourself out there”

How do you know who to even talk to?

I’ve had someone say “just go to the same places/groups and eventually you’ll meet someone” but like wtf does that even mean?

Do I just walk up to a person I notice a lot? Me knowing a person due to the fact that I see them often enough to remember their face is drastically different than a neurotypical talking with me apparently.

Idk if I’m just missing social cues or what but me just talking to someone about things I enjoy usually gets me a “this dude is weird” stare.

Mostly just angry at the fact that people say its easy when they don’t realize the mental gymnastics autistic people go through even talking to someone they’ve met before

[faggotisaacfloofs]

It definitely isn't easy, but I think I've figured some things out about it, so I'll share what I have used to make friends the past few years. It's a very slow process for me that takes place over months, so you may need to adjust to suit you.

The going to the same place / groups is definitely good advice, but it's extremely incomplete advice! It's just the first step! But apparently allistics don't need more steps than that because they just... know what to do? But we sure don't. SO.

The main thing I do is to think of making a friendship as slowly increasing the amount of time and (emotional) depth when interacting with the person. So depending on how social the space you're in is, (i.e. going to a coffee shop has different social expectations than, for example, a drawing club) you can just start small, just acknowledging each other's presence. Like maybe brief (<1 second) eye contact and a nod, or a smile, or a greeting like hello. If it's a social club or something, it might be appropriate to introduce yourself right away with your name and why you're there.

I do that for at least 2 separate occasions (aka different days) and then increase either how long, or how deep, our interaction is, very gradually. So I start with the same level, of like a smile or a nod or a hello, and then I add something else to the interaction. Usually a good next step is the "small talk" level. So a comment on the weather, current pop cupture, or asking how they're doing. If things happen in the group or setting you're in, comment on them to the person. Even just a "sure is busy here today, huh?" works. Don't expect deep answers or engagement, this is just the social calibration phase. You want to see if they are willing to engage with you and if they start initiating interactions as well.

I continue this level for another few occasions, but if the other person starts engaging more, I mimic their level of engagement. If they share about their family or partners, you can share about yours at a similar level of depth. Some people will small talk for like 10 minutes or dive right into whatever is going on in their life, and others will just give minimal responses, but I find that is usually not related to whether or not they want to be friends, but how extraverted or socially comfortable they are.

After several occasions of doing this level of small talk, I increase it by asking slightly more personal questions - for example, "do you have any fun plans for the weekend" or "how was your weekend" depending on what day of the week it is.

If they mention something specific, ask a followup question if you can! Even if they say they're just going to watch tv, you can inquire what shows they like. Asking questions is a great way to get to know them better and see if you are compatible friends. It can be hard to think of questions on the spot but with practice it gets easier. Looking up "small talk questions" and remembering them so you can have some to fall back on can be helpful.

It's at this point I also share things about myself - just surface level, usually nothing huge or deeply personal or heavy. This is a good place to talk or ask about pets, as most people really enjoy talking about their animals if they have any.

With that, you keep going, and after a while (can't give an exact timeline because it's different for literally everyone), you can hint at deeper things that are going on in your life. You don't usually want to just talk all about them to someone who barely knows you, because that is uncomfortable for most people. But you can sometimes allude to them, and then that gives the person the chance to ask more if they want to hear more.

Side note: This can backfire when meeting other ND folks, as a lot of us have taught ourselves "not to pry", so when someone else hints at something to me, I always thing "I shouldn't ask in case they don't want to answer, they'd tell me if they wanted to tell me" BUT I'm learning it's okay to ask in open ended, low pressure ways. i.e. just going "yeah?" In response lets them either expand upon it or just go "yeah." if they don't want to say more.

Anyway these are the strategies I use, obviously it won't work in all situations for all people so take what helps and leave what doesn't! This is just what I use as an autistic AAC user and otherwise ND person so I thought it might help others too.

[kipplekipple]

The way I do it is by going to a place where there is an activity around a shared interest. The activity/interest means there is A Subject for Conversation. That was the missing piece, for me.

[earhartsease]

as an older person, I still reliably make friends by asking people "so what are you passionate about at the moment?" and then listening and it's so often like watering a dry plant

[coughloop]

funniest screenshot from the entirety of the Alex Jones trials so far imo

[hayden-christensen]

#HIS SIGNATURE MOVE

HAYDEN CHRISTENSEN as ANAKIN SKYWALKER Star Wars: Episode II - Attack of the Clones (2002) Star Wars: Episode III - Revenge of the Sith (2005) Obi-Wan Kenobi - Part V (2022)

[gold-finch]

books?? amazing. paperbacks?? soft, cozy, may fit in your pocket, cheap so you don’t feel bad for taking notes in them. hardcovers??? beautiful, pristine, ground you into the world they hold by making you grip them tighter, the stars of every bookshelf. ebooks?? convenient, cheap, always with you, a vast library that you can hold in your palm. new books?? crisp, the smell of wood, ideas waiting to imprint themselves upon the world. old books?? objects transcending history, sweet smelling, enriched by the hands that stroked their pages. books.

[rwoh]

Jabba says you can have an extra hour in the ballpit

[mitski-posting]

[starpeace]

now i’m not din djarin, but if i WAS din djarin, and i used sacred beskar to make a gift for my foundling, something i considered it fundamentally his right to have, and i entrusted it to my foundling’s current caretakers to give to him because i trusted their judgement enough to not visit him myself, and they withheld it from him unless he gave up his jedi identity, effectively using my gift, this sacred gift, to emotionally blackmail my baby into choosing between us, i would fucking kill them. but that’s just me personally

[thefaultinourforcebond]

What a week huh

[99-cent-arizona-tea]

This tweet is how I learned Anne Rice passed.

[starpeace]

“chancellor palpatine, sith lords are our speciality.” funniest fucking line in star wars history. obi-wan, who has never killed a sith and knows he has never killed a sith, talking about himself and a guy who is going to become a sith lord within half a week, and speaking directly to the sith lord who is going to make that guy a sith lord, with FULL fucking confidence: “sith lords are our speciality.” he says this to palpatine’s face. to his face. to darth sidious’ face. in the most condescending fucking voice. completely unaware that he is speaking directly to the sith lord, to THE sith lord, who before the week is out is going to directly fuck over his entire life’s work and everything he loves and believes in: “sith lords are our speciality.” could you be any more cringefail. actually palpatine deserved his whole victory for not bursting into laughter then and there

[rocktheholygrail]

The Good Place (2016-2020)

[ladybegood]

Hedy Lamarr in a publicity photo for Ziegfeld Girl (1941)

[grgrn-ghanghus]

are we not all camgirls in a mass surveillance state

[skylightangels]

Love triangles—overused and boring trope, right?

Wrong, you just need to get more creative. So buckle up fandom members and tired writers, let’s talk love triangle alternatives.

The Classic Love Triangle, aka the Love V

This is your Bella/Edward/Jacob, your Katniss/Peeta/Gale. It’s been done and overdone. Person A has two people interested in them, and they have to pick which one they like best. Boring!! Let’s spice it up.

The True Love Triangle

To make a REAL love triangle, we need to close the last side. Now all 3 people involved are part of their own classic love triangle. If two people end up together, the third will be double crushed because they just lost both of their potential love interests to each other. Now we’re talking.

This is like Harry/Cedric/Cho, Luna/Neville/Ginny (although not quite since it’s not all at the same time)

The Rivalry Turned Romance

Person A is just minding their own business, uninterested in both person B and person C. Person B and C both like person A though, and somewhere along the way, their rivalry turns into a romance. Think about when Alya and Nino got trapped in the panther cage and fell for each other because they had so much (their mutual crush on Marinette) in common. This is the superior love triangle, tbh.

The Double Love Triangle

We’re back to classic love triangle land, but we’re spicing it up by adding another one!! One of the people in the classic love triangle is in another classic love triangle. Percy has to choose between Annabeth and Rachel, Annabeth has to choose between Percy and Luke (*gags at mention of luke*). This can end in two couples or in one couple and two lonely people.

The True Double Love Triangle

Ooh what’s this? It’s Miraculous Ladybug, of course. Person A (Marinette) likes Person C (Adrien), but she also likes Person B (Luka). Person C (Adrien) likes Person A (Marinette) and D (Kagami). BUT!! If we add in Marigami and Lukadrien, there’s our true love triangles coming out. Of course this chaos is in Miraculous because not a single character in this show this love triangle is straight.

The Bachelor

I honestly can’t think of a good example in any fandoms I’m in for this scenario, but it’s pretty simple: person A has a plethora of potential love interests to choose between.

The Bachelor With Internal Love Triangles

The love interests got tired of waiting for person A to choose one of them and started showing interest in each other.

The Bi Panic/Irene Adler/I am just overall frustrated that these two people are dating or into each other

Person B and C are into each other, maybe already in a relationship, and person A likes both of them (unreciprocated). This is kind of like Irene Adler having an affair with both people in a marriage, except they would have both been into her too. A better example is when my crush in 7th grade started dating the girl that I didn’t know I had a crush on because I still thought I was straight.

The Plus One, aka the Johnlock

Person A and B are in a confirmed and committed relationship (John & Mary Watson), but one of them is not so secretly in love with Person C (Sherlock).

The Awkward Plus One

This is a similar situation to the plus one, but it’s just person C having an unrequited crush on someone in a relationship. For example, Nico having a crush on Percy, who is with Annabeth. Briseis loving Patroclus who is with his soulmate Achilles.

I was going to include the Marinette/Adrien/Ladybug/Chat Noir love square but honestly wtf is that mess and how did those fools manage to have a love triangle between two people?

[fashion-runways]

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