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ATTENTION to any and all fundraisers contacting me:

Unfortunately, I do NOT have money to donate. I’m really sorry. All I can really do right now is reblog. I hope you can understand.

silver-velvet-860

I wish it weren’t this way, but it is. I am in a difficult financial situation right now. If you don’t respect this, I will block you.

shortfineel

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This whole obsession with wheelchair users struggling on foot down the aisle at their wedding or across the stage for graduation is 100% powered by ableism.

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“The heartwarming story of how one woman worked for 8 months straight so she could escape the horror that is being in wheelchair for a few short minutes to struggle slowly and painfully down the aisle on her special day.”

feraladoration

“the horror that is being in a wheelchair” bitch it’s hella better than struggling slowly & painfully down the aisle ffs

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“Despite being permanently paralyzed, her one goal since her accident has been to walk across the stage for graduation. The whole crowd gave her a standing ovation and broke into tears when she dragged her paralyzed legs across the stage with the help of leg braces and a walker to collect her diploma, after which she immediately sat back down in her wheelchair, which she will use to move around for the rest of her life.”

How the hell is this an inspirational story? This person needs better goals. And a therapist.

smoldragonborn

They’re toxic in an even greater way because as a disabled person, I didn’t realise till I was reading this how much I had internalised that. I genuinely have had feelings of fear and shame about using a chair or a walker if I get married. And why? Because I’m constantly seeing “heartwarming” stories about disabled people who shed their mobility aids for that moment. Why the hell am I afraid of using them to get married? Anyone who marries me or attends the wedding will know I need them and love me regardless.

Bless this post for making me realise I’d internalised that shit.

These types of stories teach people, both abled and disabled, that using mobility aids, especially wheelchairs, is inferior.

margomoment

here are some beautiful brides in chairs with dresses they ROCK. I know a lot of disabled ppl with internalized ableism think they “won’t look good” if they use their chair, but here’s some literally gorgeous gals for ur consideration

(that last ones cute as fuck and i teared up at it)

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Who needs a bouquet when you can be a bouquet?

smoldragonborn

I made my addition to this post in June 2019. Its now January 2020 and I no longer feel guilty about the idea of going down the aisle one day with mobility aids.

God bless the disabled community, y'all saved me from some internalised bullshit

thegayemu

This post floated by a few months ago, and I remember something to effect of there’s a difference between recovery and refusal. That is, like, I have a friend that suffered an incomplete spinal cord injury. He can walk again now, and I don’t think I’ve seen him use his chair in a few years. When he walked at his graduation, it was to show off his recovery. That he wasn’t quite ready to go through a full day upright, but he could walk across a stage, unassisted, and soon he would be able to do that every day. There’s also a difference in someone like me choosing to not use a mobility aid. My mobility is intensely fluid, especially seasonally. So, I would plan a summer wedding. And while I love my cane it can also be the biggest pain in my ass, so I’d want to just go unassisted. But that’s normal for me, at least right now. I can walk without an aid during about half of the year. It’s reasonable to assume I can make it through one day without it. All of that is different than someone that is fully and permanently paralyzed, that will never walk again, dragging themselves along because they feel that’s somehow better. Overall though, my biggest takeaway is fuck the media. Because disabled people should be able to make whatever decision they want without the media turning it into this grand inspirational story.

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Disabled people should be able to make whatever decision they want without the media turning it into this grand inspirational story.

THIS.

bifinmediasres

Couldn’t pass up the opportunity to add my disabled joy to this post. Look at this love!

aprillikesthings

Taking the opportunity to add these photos of Jessica Kellgren-Fozard and her wife Claudia, from this twitter post. Jessica also has a youtube channel that’s primarily about disability and chronic illness and LGBT stuff (it’s amazing!)

haveyouhadenough

I would also like to personally share, Annika Victoria who ALSO has a youtube channel. This photo was taken from her instagram - she made her wedding dress dress herself, BY HAND. Her youtube channel is mostly DIY fashion and sewing tutorials. I love her so much, she’s so unapologetically herself and informative

theinfiniteofthought

I also wanna add these pictures of Ade Adepitan fucking rocking this badass suit at his wedding! Give my fellow disabled mascs some love too

look how much fun they’re both having! yes!

and also this couple, who are both wheelchair users

this is from their beautifully coordinated wedding!

occasionalvirgin

Right wing manipulation tactics explained

mortalityplays

british is not synonymous with white

european is not synonymous with white

the world is not divided into USA (melting pot), white countries and brown countries

"um you know the type of person I mean when I say british" hey do you think this line of thought may have Implications

enki2

vokoy

the clown

#this comic is peak bro #deltarune #deltarune tenna

awesome-brick

reblog if you are ASEXUAL, support ASEXUAL PEOPLE, or SECRETLY A DRAGON IN HUMAN FORM

spamton2thesequel

i can't get over this stupid fucking animation. i love how comically high the framerate is compared to all of his other animations. blud looks like he's boutta roundhouse kick silver the hedgehog

See that picture above? That’s a close up of my great grandmother’s immigration papers when she first came to the US back in the early 20th century. But my great grandma’s information isn’t the important part here. The important part is that line in the middle there about how they arrived in the country.

And how ‘stowaway’ is a legitimate, valid option to select.

So yeah. They absolutely just showed up, and that part of immigration history needs to be talked about a lot more.

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REMINDER THAT TRAVEL VISAS AS WE KNOW THEM TODAY WERE INVENTED IN THE 1930S TO KEEP JEWISH REFUGEES OUT OF COUNTRIES THAT DID NOT WANT AN ‘INFLUX’ OF THEM, THEREBY FACILITATING THEIR GENOCIDE :)))))

read What is A Refugee for more history. Educate yourselves.

systlin

Yup. Mom’s side of the family came in this way. Just...wrote their names down and that was that.

mist-the-wannabe-linguist

Did a brand new kind of bowling shot today

we called it the "trust the Force Luke" shot or the "through God all things are possible" shot

buqbite

sometimes i feel ive got to

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Toby Fox being worried about fans having a negative reception to characters he likes or finds funny (Spamton, Tenna, etc) feels a bit silly given how excellent he is at writing until you remember that a) even the best of writers still feel insecure about things and get anxiety and b) literally everything about the fandom reception to Alphys at launch

some-pers0n

"Why would Toby think that a character as goofy yet equally complex as Spamton or Tenna would be received negatively? We love them!!" because the guy thought the same about Alphys only to see people drag her through the mud and think she's completely irredeemable and the worst character in the game

some-pers0n

No yeah also majorly that. Alphys was a fat bisexual nerdy anime liker who was had a complicated morally grey backstory and made some poor mistakes due to her avoidant and anxious nature, but (in the true pacifist ending at least) learns from her errors and does best to reprimand her misdeeds. Not to mention this was 2016, around the same time characters like Rose Quartz and Lapis were under fire for being "problematic" have people writing all of these things about how awful they were for being...people. Messy, complicated people. Women, specifically. I feel like misogyny is a key part here in the overwhelming backlash to Alphys, especially when compared to Asgore being showered with defenders and people rushing to his side