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Grief.

I had my own definition of grief. I thought it was a sad time that followed the death of someone you love. And that you had to push through it to get to the other side. But what I’m learning is, there is no other side. There is no pushing through. There is absorption, adjustment and acceptance. Grief is not something you complete. Grief is not a task to finish and move on. It’s something you endure. It is an element of yourself, an alteration of your being, a new way of seeing life, a new definition of yourself. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same again. Nor should you be the same, nor should you want to.

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it’s been through a lot

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Fall in love with somebody who will never let you go to sleep wondering if you still matter.

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You are so much more than what you are going through.

John Tew (via deeplifequotes)

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A wise chibird with tea wants you to know that everything will pass.

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The only people who think there’s a time limit for grief have never lost a piece of their heart.

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things I wish someone had told me about grief

It doesn’t go away.

It will creep up on you when you least expect it. It’ll be years later and you’ll see, hear, or smell something that crushes you.

You’ll remember the good times. Eventually.

Everyone experiences grief, but no one experiences it the same way.

The five stages of grief are bullshit. Or, at the very least, not linear. You will fall back to different stages at different times.

You’ll never be the person you were before you lost them. Sometimes you’ll hate the person you are. Sometimes you’ll hate that they’re not with you to see who you are now.

You’ll find strength in you that you didn’t know you had.

It doesn’t get better, but you learn how to carry it.