All About Soulbonding

What is soulbonding? How do you do it? What is it like? Ask questions and discuss.

[soulbonder]

Can you bond to someone else. Like instead of bonding someone to you if you know what I mean.

I'm sorry, I hope I'm misunderstanding you here.

Are you asking if you can forcibly create a soulbond connection on an unwilling target?

[thelunastusco]

Hi, an “endogenic” refresher course, right here!

1. We introduced the term “endogenic” into the community August 2014, along with some other terms! It was in response to exclusionists (wrongly) complaining about “systems without DID” using “their words”. It was an attempt at creating nonmedicalized terms that any plural system could use. 

2. It was also a way to do away with terms that had fallen into disfavor— specifically “natural systems”, a term that had been in use possibly as early as 1994. It was disliked because people felt it implied that trauma-caused systems were unnatural. “Endogenic” fixed that. 

3. The word “endogenic” was lovingly created to help systems put their experience into words. All it means is “a system not formed by trauma”; it doesn’t imply any other cause, set of beliefs, or experiences. It doesn’t imply the system is nondisordered or doesn’t have trauma. It doesn’t mean any other system’s origins in trauma or dx status is “invalid” or whatever.

4. Though the terms were eventually posted to tumblr, the idea didn’t start there. Tumblr was created in 2007; the concept of systems not caused by trauma has, again, been online since the 90s. Nor was the term created by singlets! We’re a trauma-caused system with DID. 

5. “Endogenic” wasn’t created as an insult or to exclude anyone. We have loved ones who are endogenic. Many of the terms in use now were created by endogenics. They have helped preserve plural history, and defended the community. They are good people, and real systems. The hate they get is completely senseless.

Thanks for coming to our talk. Please stop insulting endogenic systems, and educate yourselves instead, thanks. (Unless it’s just pure malice at this point in which case, fuck off I guess.)

https://endogenichub.weebly.com/ is a decent site to learn more.

[soulbonder]

Hey do you know any active online spaces to talk with other soulbonders?

the fictionkin.org discord is the most active place I know of right now.

Join the Fictionkin.org: Channel Oddities Discord Server!

Check out the Fictionkin.org: Channel Oddities community on Discord - hang out with 63 other members and enjoy free voice and text chat.

[soulbonder]

hey so i'm new to soulbonding of course, reading up on it as much as my short-attention-spanned brain will let me, i have lots of questions, and they'll probably end up splitting into multiple asks (if tumblr doesn't eat them), should i still send em in or would it be better to dm you? thank u for all the help you offer :)

You can ask them in multiple asks, or DM us, whatever you're more comfortable with!

[pipwife]

on my knees begging for the return of deeply spiritual kinmunities

[parablesystem]

i love posting headcanons that are actually just how our fictives identify/act. it's like "source: i asked them"

[solarwindsempire]

Common Plural Documentation Tools + Where to Find Them

Pluralkit - A discord bot used so that members can proxy as themselves within discord servers. There's a website located at dash.pluralkit.me that makes inputting information doable with limited commands.

Tupperbox - Another discord bot. While not exclusively used for plurality, it is still very useful to systems.

SimplyPlural - An app used for documenting members, front, etc. you can add friends, do system-wide polls, and much more. This can link to Pluralkit as well! There is a website version at app.apparyllis.com

Mindly - An app that lets you document pretty much anything. We, personally, have seen it used for documenting innerworlds and subsystems.

[soulbonder]

Hey! I hope all is well!

I’m a reverse Soulbonder, and have been for quite awhile, I have been active in other plural and alter human communities but there aren’t many blogs for Soulbonding much these days. I’m glad to see yours is active again!

If you ever are looking for a co-mod, I’d be down to help keep this place running!

Thank you for the message! Reverse soulbonding is really quite fascinating, we've only done it a few times. In your opinion, how does it compare to the modern concept of "Reality shifting"? I'm fairly convinced they're the same thing.

We're not currently looking for any mods, but we'll keep you in mind if it ever changes.

[soulbonder]

A few days ago, I realized (somehow) that A few days ago, I realized a character was different from the rest in my head (I don’t know how I knew this, just that he was stronger in a weird way). I went to the internet and discovered soulbonding on complete accident, and a few hours later he started talking to me. Is this normal?

It's absolutely not normal. Nothing soulbonders experience is "normal". But your experience here is pretty common among people who realize they're soulbonding. Once someone knows they have your attention they want to chat!

[neil-gaiman]

Are any of the Endless your favorite?

I love Delirium because she writes her own dialogue and I love Despair because her love for her family is so pure.

[soulbonder]

People say that Soulbonding has a connection to alterhumanity. I don't really understand why so can you explain that?

Alterhumanity is a broad umbrella term that basically is able to refer to anyone who experiences something other than the typical human experience.

Soulbonders are certainly experiencing something other than the typical human experience, and the soulbonds that exist in this world through them are often non-human entities, and thus, alterhuman themselves.

[soulbonder]

Can a soulbond have a soulbond on their own? Or can it happen that the person being in the front the most has someone reach out to them, but they don't react so the person reaches out to someone else in the system?

Absolutely. Nothing says that the person who ends up with a soulbond will be the host/primary fronter, whatever term applies. However, soulbonds are certainly more likely to attach to someone who is more permanently in the body. It's unlikely that a long-distance bond would link up to another long distance bond through a mutual host, though it's certainly possible.

[soulbonder]

🎢 Is it possible for soulbonds to build on the headspace and turn it into more of a living space, if there isn't much of a headspace defined? I was thinking about what a great idea it would be for us to make it our own and put things in the space that help us feel more at home.

Absolutely! Here's a few tips we wrote up several years ago for better visualizing and creating a headspace for yourself and your bonds.

Additionally, there are a lot of great resources out in the wild these days for creating and maintaining your headspace. A quick google of "creating headspace" brings up a lot of hits.

I found this tumblr post which links to a number of articles for creating headspaces, from a number of different perspectives.

[soulbonder]

Hi, I'm new in soulbonding and I have some questions.

First of all, how can I soulbond with one of my OCs?

Also, I red somewhere that some soulbonds are large distance. Can I force the bond to be here with me or not? Because I would prefer them to be with me.

First of all, how can I soulbond with one of my OCs?

Start with our introductory guide and tips on how to establish a new bond.

Also, I red somewhere that some soulbonds are large distance. Can I force the bond to be here with me or not? Because I would prefer them to be with me.

See the bottom of this page for the types of ways bonds can communicate from a distance and close by. HOWEVER:

you must remember that soulbonds are independent entities with their own will and self. It is immoral and wrong to attempt to force a soulbond to do anything it doesn't want to do, including to stay with you as a permanent resident.

It is okay to ask soulbonds to do things for you, but never to force them. If you are unwilling to respect your soulbond as a person, then a soulbond is not right for you, and you may want to look into tulpas or fictional others instead.

[soulbonder]

What's the difference between a soul bound and a spirit companion? Sorry if you've answered this before. ^^' Have you thought of trying to make a sorta master list on your page so it's easier to find out if you've answered something before?

I don't know what you mean by spirit companion specifically, so I can't tell you the nuance of the difference between them if there is one. Please feel free to send me a followup ask on this.

As for a master list, there used to be one and I am in the process of slowly updating it.

[soulbonder]

I think I have a soulbond, I can feel their presence and hear them. They’re practically begging me to notice them, but I’ve been off and on in the plural community for awhile and I never really committed to it. How do I know if this isn’t just intrusive thoughts? What can I do?

You can’t really have a dialogue with an intrusive thought. Try some soulbond communication techniques, such as asking questions, verbally, internally, or on paper, and see if you can get coherent responses, or if its just some kind of fixated thought.

[soulbonder]

Is there a surefire way to know which thoughts come from the bond, and which ones are your own automatically generated thoughts (unintentionally making up something you think the bond might do or say)? Particularly if your connection isn't clear enough that you can just ask for confirmation.

The answer is mostly practice, especially if you and your bonds don’t have different internal ‘tones of voice’, but you’ll also have to accept that there are always going to be times where communication is weird, or you’re feeling blendy. Just don’t be afraid to communicate and sort things out with one another!