If you got a problem with another rper (that I play with) it’s NOT my duty to make you feel “safe” nor am I obliged to you (or them) in any way.
That’s right. Let’s get that sunk.
Now hear me out: I know I sound crazy and in this place where there are only extremes my solution sounds rather harsh in contrast with the “let’s be one community” and “let’s positive thinking!” that it’s common in this realm. I know I sound like a dick but, let’s say you :
have a problem with another rper
have found out an rper is “toxic”
have found out an rper is “problematic”
have overall differences with another rper over ships, portrayal or other.
have found this rper has taken something from you.
And in all of these instances I play with this “problematic” individual. My proposed solution is simple. First I ask you two particular things:
Do not tell me what the problem was unless I asked you for it.
Do not give me “proof” or “evidence” of how this person was problematic was for you unless I asked you for it.
I’M NOT GOING TO PLAY DETECTIVE WITH YOU.
I’M NOT GOING TO PLAY POLICE WITH YOU.
I’M NOT GOING TO PLAY THE SPANISH INQUISITION WITH YOU.
UNLESS SAID INDIVIDUAL DOES SOMETHING AGAINST ME, IT’S VERY UNLIKELY I WILL LISTEN TO YOU.
I’m here to play my character. I’m here to have fun. I’m not here to stir drama. I’m not going to start a call out campaign on this individual. I’m not going to go all over my way to block this person unless I have experienced said “toxicality” first hand.
It’s not that I don’t trust you: It’s just that it’s called being an adult.
Instead of ostracizing someone because they fucked up once, I prefer to consult and be certain that this behavior (keyword, the behavior and not the person) is problematic. And even so, I also believe that people can change, so I’m willing to give a second chance. Because I’m human and more than once I’ve fucked things up so bad. In my 30 years of life in this earth (Oh my! Yes, I’m older than 25 and I like this website!) I can tell you that indeed, fucking up is a very human thing and we all do it eventually.
If you were hurt by this individual it’s your duty to:
If the situation got to a point where you were harmed in the real world (that is, this physical world where our flesh lies) then do not start a flame war, go to the authorities regarding this case. Period.
But for the love of all that is holy do not tell me of gratuitous information that I did not ask for.
The most I could possibly do to help you is to tag whatever I reblog from this individual to help you block them.
Not their mother or father (even if I claim to be a parental figure to them in our many OOC talks).
Not their lawyer (even if I seem to speak different to others and with longer words).
Not their tutor (even when I’m probably older than them)
Not their RP coach (that doesn’t even exist)
and definitely not an authority figure to censor them or to offer punitive measures against whoever hurt you.
To sum it up, I go my life by one simple rule:
“The satisfaction of all the needs in your life is only your own responsibility.”
So, if you are in need of something, go chase it on your own terms. Everyone is responsible for their own fuck up and everyone is responsible to clean up their own messes.
Do not drag me down to clean something that neither I started and does not belong to me.
Trust my own goddamn judgement. I can choose my own friends and I can choose who to follow and who to not follow on my own. I do not need you to tell me what to do.
Failure to see this only shows that there’s someone here with a problematic behavior and that is not me and neither the person you are trying to stir shit with.
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