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[nightfallsystem-moved-deactivat]

I hate the new polyamourous flag it feels like forgetting our history and a kick in the face.

I get the original one is eyestrain and that's why people make eyestrain accessible flags! But fucking ditching the original flag in favour of this shitty redesign is shit and feels like forgetting history for me. We don't need a new flag, the original one is fine, the creator is good and the symbolism is good. The new flag is shit imo.

Fuck the new flag

[nightfallsystem-moved-deactivat]

There's also shit like this??

To me, its loud and proud. It's not 'confusing', it's not 'failing', it feels like a proud flag, a declaration of who we are. And you can always change the symbol, some already have made edits! And with the bright colours, people made sensory friendly versions!

And then they called the new one the "official flag". Who even decided it was official? The CEO of fucking polyamory?

I guess I just disliked how they were mean to the flag and decided their new one was "official", like a kick in the fucking face.

[knightfuryvawannabee]

Gay male flag color picked from this picture of Jupiter taken by the James Webb Telescope

[spiralofcrows]

i should really discuss our POSIC+ stuff sometime actually

[neopronouns]

kenochessaic/chessaiomen/chessaihex: a kenochord related to chess in some way; a kenochoric chessaic gender; being both kenochoric/an omen/a hex and chessaic; being both a kenochord and a chessaic gender

[pt: kenochessaic/chessaiomen/chessaihex: a kenochord related to chess in some way; a kenochoric chessaic gender; being both kenochoric/an omen/a hex and chessaic; being both a kenochord and a chessaic gender. end pt]

for myself! the outer four stripes are from the chessaic flag and the inner two are from the kenochoric flag. the term is 'keno' + 'chessaic'/'chessai' from 'chessaic' + 'omen'/'hex'!

flag id: a flag with 6 stripes. in order, they are very dark grey, off-white, purple, very dark indigo, cream, and very dark brown. end id.

banner id: a 1600x200 teal banner with the words ‘please read my dni before interacting. those on my / dni may still use my terms, so do not recoin them.’ in large white text in the center. the text takes up two lines, split at the slash. end id.

dni link

[chamomile-coated-cat]

Attention anyone who uses forearm crutches

Do you hate sticking to your crutches during summer? Do you dislike the hospital gray?

I’ve been trying for MONTHS to find a pattern or someone who sells crutch covers, but I never found anything for forearm crutches (probably because I’m in the US) so I’ve decided to make my own pattern! And anyone can use it!

I’m sorry if it doesn’t make any sense, this is my first time creating a sewing design.

These are the prototype that I’ve made so far.

Please let me know if you use this (and send pictures!) and if there’s anything you think will make the design better.

Next up I’m working on padded covers for the part for your hands!

[spiralofcrows]

18!

Are there differences between systemmates surrounding sensory things? (For example, one person likes the taste of one food and another doesn’t.)

I don't think there's any big ones, but there's definitely a lot of little minor ones. Some us can handle certain textures, foods, fabrics, ect better than others.

The biggest one is probably the smell of cheese. Depending on the headmate, we go from "don't like that but I can deal with being near it" to "if there's cheese near me I legitimately feel ill". Why cheese out of all things? I have NO idea

[interstellarsystem]

Plural Ask Game

We figured we’d try making an ask game! This is for anyone who’s a system–regardless of origin–to use. Remember that you’re not obligated to answer any of these if any are too personal!

How many members are in your system, and does this number change frequently?

What are your collective pronouns, if you have any?

What’s your system name if you have one, and how did you choose it?

Are there any activities your system members like to do together? Collective hobbies? Talk about those!

What sort of music do people in your system like?

What’s the average age of your systemmates?

If you have a singletsona, what is it? Explain a bit about them!

Does anyone in your system have roles? If so, what roles?

How long have you been a system and/or known of your system?

How did you discover your system? What was the process?

What does switching feel like to you, if you switch at all? 

Are your switches voluntary, involuntary or a mix? How often do you do it, if at all?

What’s your favourite part of being a system?

What’s your least favourite part of being a system, if you’re comfortable sharing?

Are your headmates generally different from the physical body? How do they differ from it?

Do you have any fictives/factives/etc? Tell us a little about them!

Does your system have a headspace? Are there multiple of them? What are they like?

Are there differences between systemmates surrounding sensory things? (For example, one person likes the taste of one food and another doesn’t.)

Does anyone have any different accents, or speak any different languages?

How would you describe your system in 3 words or less?

Do you have any LGBT+ headmates? What do they identify as?

Does anyone outside of the internet know you’re a system?

Do you have any cool/funny stories from inside the headspace that you’d like to share?

What’s some advice you’d give to yourself when you were first discovering your system?

What is something you wish singlets knew about plurality?

[spiralofcrows]

I don't understand why so many people are against circumgender? Like I understand why someone might be if they don't understand how complicated gender is, but I see people who are otherwise respectful of "contradictory" labels be against it, and that hurts as someone who does fall somewhat under it.

I can't speak from a perisex perspective but from an intersex perspective? The term makes a lot of sense. AGAB can be complicated when you're intersex, and I feel both like a trans man and trans women due to my experiences, despite being assigned one of those at birth*. I don't think this term is bad, and seeing it hated so much sucks.

(*Oh, which one is my AGAB? Wouldn't you like to know, weather boy /reference)

[spiralofcrows]

if you're able to, please consider donating to medical aid to palestine or doctors without borders, who are both working to bring urgent medical assistance to palestine

this blog stands with the people of palestine and their fight for freedom. to the land to the sea, palestine will be free

[livearound]

dni lists don't work and i am well aware of this but just know that if you are a zionist/pro-israel and/or you think the israel/palestine situation is a "neutral situation" please know that you are extremely unwelcome here and will be made to feel that way. free palestine

[spiralofcrows]

who decided to make icons the size of ants

because nahhhh this is really going to bother me actually setting icons that look good is hard enough

[spiralofcrows]

btw im taking a bit of a break while i handle some BIG irl stuff (moving. im moving out soonish), so uh. yeah! see you on the flip side!

[heritageposts]

Medical Aid for Palestinians

Medical Aid for Palestinians (MAP) works for the health and dignity of Palestinians living under occupation and as refugees. We provide immediate medical aid to those in great need, while also developing local capacity and skills to ensure the long-term development of the Palestinian healthcare system.

you can read more about their ongoing emergency response here

Responding to this emergency situation, Medical Aid for Palestinians (MAP)’s team on the ground in Gaza are releasing all of our pre-positioned stocks, worth $570,000 USD (approximately £465,000), to ensure hospitals and emergency responders have the supplies they need to cope with an unprecedented influx of casualties. The list of supplies provided by MAP includes essential drugs and disposables, lab reagents and support for Gaza’s blood bank services. Some of these supplies are already being delivered to Al Awda Hospital.

If you have money to spare, please consider donating

[heritageposts]

Update: MAP are reporting that their website has been under cyber attack

It seems to be working fine now, but if it goes down again, here is a link to their justgiving campaign

[crescentcollections]

Steline

Similar to Constelic, but in a gender way!

A specific type of genderhoarding that is often done by choice, though it doesn’t necessarily need to be. Steline labels can be dropped, hoarded, and have priority over others. They're often casual, “in the background,” or not very intensive, though this may not always be the case. They can range from very intense identification to unobtrusive. Furthermore, there may be specific tiers of how much someone relates to said identities. Steline individuals can have any number of labels, and the amount might fluctuate throughout their lifetime.

Reasons for why someone is Steline may vary. Popular reasons may be because of hyperfixation, a need to “hoard” things (possibly due to things like OCD), or simply for fun. Though it may be caused by or related to neurodivergency, use of this term is NOT restricted to neurodivergent individuals.

The name takes "stel" from "Constelic" and the "-ine" suffix from this suffix list.

The flag colors are a mix of the Constelic flag and the two Genderhoarding flags! I considered adding an extra stripe, but I thought that keeping it to five would add more cohesion bc five stripes / five star points. The star symbol is similar but different to the Constelic star symbol.

[soul--forge]

LABYRINTHIAN

Used as a self-appointed alternative to Headmate.

[inclusive of all origins and types of plurality]

[neopronouns]

Hi! Do you know of a term that is a umbrella term for *all* identities considered “contradictory”(like mspec lesbians, lesboys, etc), and if not, could you potentially make one? Thanks!

i couldn't find one, so here's one!

subtliden: an umbrella term for identities such as mspec lesbian/veldian/gay/straight/etc., gaybian/velaurian, lesboy/turigirl, mesque, cistrans/transcis, transmasculine girl/transfeminine boy, and more; essentially a replacement/alternate term for 'contradictory labels'

[pt: subtliden: an umbrella term for identities such as mspec lesbian/veldian/gay/straight/etc., gaybian/velaurian, lesboy/turigirl, mesque, cistrans/transcis, transmasculine girl/transfeminine boy, and more; essentially a replacement/alternate term for 'contradictory labels'. end pt]

the term comes from 'subtle' and 'identity', since these terms all describe identities that have subtleties that not everyone will understand.

as a community we adopted the word 'contradictory' for our identities, which (to my knowledge) was first used for us by exclusionists, but not all of us feel that our identities oppose one another. for example, i'm attracted to men and various nonbinary genders as a genderqueer man, and i choose to acknowledge both my veldian identity and my mspec identity - i don't feel my identity is contradictory, it's just specific and subtle!

(quick addition: this term is still 100% inclusive of those who do feel their identities contradict, it's just meant to be a more general term that doesn't alienate those who don't!)

i didn't make a flag because i honestly don't know how to encapsulate all subtlidens in one flag; i think someone else made a contradictory labels flag that one could use, but i can't find it at the moment.

[spiralofcrows]

hmm. i know im talking a lot tonight but! im thinking of making a new archive for kenochoric terms as the current one seems to be very inactive... would anyone be interested in providing help (there's so many kenochoric terms lol)