Self harm help

** WARNING: THIS BLOG MAY BE TRIGGERING. ** We DO NOT promote Self harm in anyway. This is an advice blog for people who have questions about self harm. We are here for anyone trying to stop self harming, or for someone who is trying to get another person to stop self harming. Stay Strong cuties<3 We can all get through this.

[phoebe-does]

I am enough. Sit with that thought, truly consider it and what that means. It’s a simple enough phrase and it can be easy to skim past it and not truly realise whether or not you truly believe it.

[stopselfharm]

Well. Hello again.

As the title says. It has been maybe, 3 or 4 years since I have posted on here.

I’ll start by saying sorry, the last 4 years have been tumultuous for me , I’ve moved jobs, cities and friend groups. None of this is an excuse to drop this group but honestly I don’t think my mental state could take it. I was exhausted.

I come to you now to help, I will say, I am busy, my job is 6 days a week at all hours. But I will try so hard to answer people.

I’m debating clearing the inbox so I know that new messages are new if people get me.

I also come for help and support. 2019 has been the worst year of my life, I need friends, I will always try help you guys, but now please help me too.

Give me your best. I’m here again.

Rhi 💛

[stopselfharm]

Excuse my vulgar language, but I can’t fucking believe I damn fucked up. I was clean for so long and now I don’t want to tell anyone. I fuck everything up, all the damn time!

honestly same. I relapsed last night for the first tie in a while and this was my exact feeling this morning when i woke up. It’s not the end of the world tho. You slipped up, that’s ok. You’ve made it really far before and you can reach that point again. This time you can go even longer. slipping up doesn’t define you. you’re ok. it’s just starting over. just keep doing the things that helped you get as far as you did before. it’ll be ok <3 -Ben

[stopselfharm]

I fucked up. I'm sorry. 0 days. -KJ

You didn't fuck up. We all have bumps in the road. Taking a few steps back isn't a permanent thing. Sometimes the more times you have to fight through the start the stronger you are. I know it takes me ages to answer these but I am here. Rhi 💛 💛 💛

[stopselfharm]

Hey there. So I was having a tough time last night. My girlfriend dumped me over text. But I'm proud to say I'm still 8 months clean. You've been with me through a lot. Thank you so much. -KJ

You should be so proud, I'm sorry your girlfriend did that. Doing it over text is unfair. But look at you, 8 months! I'm sorry I've not been about much, this goes out to everyone, I work 48 hours minimum a week but just because I'm rarely on tumblr doesn't mean I'm not thinking of you and believing in you either way. Keep going! 8 months is absolutely amazing :). Rhi 💛 💛 💛

[stopselfharm]

Rhi are you there? I need to talk to you. -KJ

I'm here, what's up my dear?? Rhi 💛 💛 💛

[stopselfharm]

I just want everyone to know if you need another person im here if anyone needs to talk my ask and message box is always open.

This is super kind of you! We're not looking for new miss right now, but ppl should definitely keep them in mind!! -Ben

[stopselfharm]

Hey Rhi. I'm really really itching for it right now. It's been 113 days but I don't know if I can do it anymore. ~KJ

Hey sweetie! You can do it, I know you can. Check out how long you've gone for already!!! I believe in you. Im in work all day but I can try answer as much as possible. Chin up my love. Rhi 💛 💛 💛

[softepilogue]

right now you might be in a situation that you think you won’t survive but six months ago you were in a situation that you didn’t think you’d survive and two years before that you were in a situation you didn’t think you’d survive and the point is you will always surprise yourself and you will always make it through

[stopselfharm]

I can't stop biting, sometimes it's just chewing at my clothes, hair, nails etc which is ok but when it gets real bad I just need to bite my arms hard and I usually won't stop until I've at least left a bruise. I don't know how to stop

I'm so sorry it's taken me so long to answer, I hope you've been looking after yourself. Talk to someone sweetie, anyone, I don't always answer straight away but I'm here, there are people out there who want to listen and want to make you happy. I use a rubber band for my urges, if I feel like I need to hurt myself I snap it on my wrist. I know this still classes as harm but it's a way of weaning yourself off of more severe harm. If you need to talk about anything give me a shout ok?Rhi 💛 💛 💛

[stopselfharm]

[stopselfharm]

Hey ive gone week now self harm free ... Baby steps. Ive been fighting the urge to cut!

Hey!! Ahh brilliant :). You are so strong, don't understate how amazing you are. You keep going Yeah? :) I know you can do it. Rhi 💛 💛 💛

[shelbys-advice-blog]

[stopselfharm]

hi is there anyway to overcome the huge stress of wanting to harm? and do you recommend going to the doctors bc for the last few months ive been feeling really sick and my eating has been reduced to one meal a day so i dont feel sick. thanks

Hey you, I'm sorry I've been awol for a long time due to work so Im not sure when this was from, I think I'll slowly work through the inbox. To be honest I would 100% recommend the doctors. Just to talk to someone is a huge release and may make you feel better in yourself. To be honest the urge to cut went away for me because I was really really busy, so I didn't think about it. Try keeping yourself busy and with people so you don't think about it. But seriously, just find someone to talk to, it's really cathartic. Rhi 💛 💛 💛

[stopselfharm]

Hello again! 85 days! Anyways could you help me out with ways to help with stress? I have a major test the basicly plans out my future tomorrow and I'm stressing out just a smidge. You doing good? How's the new job?? Thanks -KJ

Ahh hello you!!! I'm so happy to be back and to hear from you, look at you, 85 days, absolutely amazing. OK so recently I've been super stressed aswell, when it comes to things like exams you need to take breaks, no matter how soon it is until your exam, take time out. Sleep, eat, do something completely unrelated. I find music incredibly helpful too :). I know for a fact you'll kick ass on this test :). Im wishing you all the luck in the world. I am very well thankyou, winding down on the training for my new job, about to go into the real world to use what I've learnt, absolutely loving it, loving London :). Happy to be back. Keep me updated you!!! Rhi 💛 💛 💛

[stopselfharm]

Hello again!!

OK so I'll start this off by apologising for how long I've been gone. As Ben said I've started a new job that requires a huge amount of training and I vanished so I could focus on that and get through it. However, good news! Yesterday I passed my final exam, which means I've got more free time to talk to you all :). So, I'm thinking I may clear the inbox like I did before and start afresh if that sounds good to people? I'm back everyone, and I'm more than happy to talk :). Rhi 💛 💛 💛

[stopselfharm]

Rhi should be back soon

Sometime after Friday she should be able to come back. She's been very busy so if she can't don't worry. She'll be back soon friends. -Ben