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Photo by @alyssaxo_.

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sailor moon crystal | sailor saturn

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me today

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Now the guy wants to talk to me on the phone. I don’t even talk to people I like on the phone. 

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Just started being a part of projects again. The  one that I’m just acting in is so misogynistic, but the creator really wants me to be involved so I’m trying to explain the issues with him. I’m writing my own feminist/womanist project but it’s my first and I have no idea what I’m doing. Plus my anxiety is super bad today so every little thing feels hard. How do people just make things? 

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How I Teach Men Not To Talk Over Me: from one feminist to another, when basic respect is lagging and conversations are impossible

I’ve done this to several men, and they catch on rather quickly. You’ll be able to have a conversation right then and there, and it works long term too - they might’ve forgot their manners by the time you talk to them again, but by repeating this, they’ll eventually learn to let you talk without you having to do this at the start of every convo. Source: I have a very stubborn older brother, who eventually learned too.

1. When they interrupt you, stop talking. Don’t try to raise your voice or battle them. Be completely quiet and wait.

2. Ignore everything they’re saying. Do not actually listen - just wait until they shut up. Don’t make a point of anything they say, do not answer to anything they say, do not refer to anything they say here. Literally do not listen a single word. Let them rant as long as they want.

3. When they finally shut up and wait for your reaction, say: ”I wasn’t done talking.”

4. Start over whatever you were saying when they interrupted you. I don’t care if it was a 10-minute explanation of rocket science. Start. Over. Repeat you original thought, but do not add anything related to what they just said while talking over you. That gives them the idea that it’s okay to interrupt you, you’ll still listen and pay attention and they’ll get their point clear without having to listen to yours. (It’s especially funny when you get done and they expect you to keep going talking about whatever they talked over you. The face when it sinks in that you didn’t listen a single word is glorious.)

5. If they interrupt you again, return to step 1. If you find yourself repeating the cycle over 3 times, tell them: ”you’re not letting me speak. Either you listen and wait for your turn, or our conversation ends here.” If they try to make excuses, laugh it off or keep interrupting, end the conversation. Prove them that if they wont let you speak, they’re not worth your time.

Why does this work? First, because sometimes talking over is internalized and men don’t actually notice they’re doing it. Being vocally called out makes them realize it and pay attention to it - especially if it happens more than once. Secondly, by refusing to aknowledge anything they say when they interrupt you, they’ll soon realize they will not get their own point across if they keep doing that. Peoole and especially men have the need to be heard and paid attention to when they talk - when you make it clear that by talking over you, they will not have your attention, they’ll learn to wait until you’re done, because they know that’s when you will be paying attention and actually listening.

Go my darlings. Have some actual conversations where your point of view is just as valid as his. Demand the basic respect of being heard. You can actually have some interesting conversations with men when they’re forced to listen too, when being louder is not going to make them feel like they’re dominating the conversation or winning the argument.

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This is gonna be fun.

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Georges Chakra {details}

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Belle of the Ball (Sallon Frida 2018 Collection)- (1/?)

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✿ sailor moon + f e m i n i s m

↳ part one

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I felt so positive this morning and now I feel like shit. I thought I was really making progress, I was genuinely happy for like a few days straight and that never happens. Then nothing went wrong and for no reason at all I feel miserable. I made this whole list of things to do when I felt great, and now I feel like I can’t do anything. I feel heavy, there’s a hardness in my throat and a weight in my chest. Why can’t I just do something?

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I care so much about what other people think of me and how I’m perceived that I’m scared to live my life the way I want to. I know I can’t know what others are thinking, and their thoughts are none of my business anyway. How do I release this fear? How can I let go of the fear I have for everything? I’m scared of every man around me except my boyfriend. I’m scared of monsters down the street at night and coyotes in my backyard. I’m afraid to be the truest version of myself. But why? How do I even find out why I have this fear, much less how to dispel it? I’m getting older, and I don’t want to feel this way anymore. 

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They both found their *princess* charming… and lived happily ever after! 👑 ✨

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