#*homophobia

[pra1sethelord]

I guess I can do this here but I might this guy at a coffee shop a week ago and he was wearing a bunch of makeup and clothes and I just thought to myself how sinful he was for rejecting traditional masculinity. He tried to talk to me but I called him a sinful word. I feel bad, what should I do?

[princessbubblegumandjustice]

Sometimes I think about how my Catholic school made a big show of supporting African communities affected by HIV/AIDS, but never acknowledged the gay men who died and were continuing to die less than 30 miles away. And I just sit there and contemplate the complete lack of compassion.

Telling us about how women were dying from a disease after they were violently raped was fine, showing us graphic images of emaciated African children was fine, but talking about the impact of the disease when it was spread through consensual sex was off limits.

[sawasawako-archived]

Ugh it is very infuriating watching my parents treat my younger brother infinitely differently than me or my sister. My mom specifically told me not to date in highschool (right after I was outed but that's a whole other deal lmao) and then my brother gets a girlfriend early in his freshman year, and my mom is all insanely supportive, helping him buy her gifts and everything, and I'm just like. Lol okay then. That's. Really awesome, knowing you called my past gf a dyke behind my back.

the way that patriarchy structures oppression and makes it literally predictable & a self-fulfilling prophecy is really........ 💀💀 like this is why the problem runs so deep and is so difficult to address—it is invisibilised bc women themselves are ensared within its trappings and perpetuate them

[softproko]

I would like a formal apology from the band who has a song about getting a crush on a girl who is not into guys. You're being so fucking rude with your shit song, learn to take a fucking no.

[princessbubblegumandjustice]

Coming to terms with your sexual orientation isn’t a race.

But I can’t just stand by and watch as lesbians and gay men/boys struggle with their sexual orientation because of the pressure to not only be “inclusive” in their sexual attraction, but also the expansive label system that has been created which can easily guide sexually repressed teenagers down a path of convincing themselves they’re straight and “demisexual” instead of gay.

It’s depressing that people (particularly women and girls) are figuring out at 16, 20, 24 years old that they’ve been gay/lesbian this entire time but grew up in an environment where they were presented labels that can easily reinforce heteronormativity.

When you grow up in an environment where straight is the default and being gay/lesbian is now being called descriminatory you can easily repress your own sexual orientation with the logic that “Oh, I just haven’t connected with the right woman/man yet. I’m not gay/lesbian, I’m a straight demisexual.”

And that’s why the “how and when” of sexual orientation isn’t just unnecessary, but can also be damaging to the LGBT community.

The circumstances of how, when, or why you’re attracted to someone outside of gender or sex do not matter. Human sexuality is so incredibly complex that there really is no point in making hyperspecific, individualized labels to match the boundless diversity of the human sexual experience.

[princessbubblegumandjustice]

Being bisexual is a privilege even if you disagree because you get to disguise you sexuality so easily that you can avoid homophobia by just sayin "oh here's my boyfriend or husband" or whatever. Don't fucking tell actual queer people how they should identify or feel about their sexual identity and how they link that to their personality. You have no fucking right.

Disguising your sexual orientation isn’t a privilege. Saying so means that gay people who haven’t come out yet are also privileged. Being in the closet or hiding your sexual orientation isn’t a privilege. And I am an actual “queer” (ew, take your slur elsewhere) person. 

No one is exempt from criticism and I sure as hell am going to call out people who help create stereotypes by falsely equating their sexual orientation with their personality or try to convince people that not being straight is somehow superior.

That same thinking, the idea that sexual orientation influences your personality, is what leads to stereotypes. It’s why gay men are labelled as feminine, lesbians are labelled as butch, and bisexuals are labelled as uncommitted sluts.

[brostateexam]

In the week since Lil Nas X released the provocative, pointedly homoerotic “Industry Baby” music video and North Carolina rapper DaBaby regaled a Miami Rolling Loud audience with a vile quip about gay sex and AIDS between songs, conversations about homosexuality and homophobia in hip-hop that have been percolating all year have come to a head. It’s been a painful handful of days, full of terrible conversations, lies, prejudices, and false equivalences. It’s been illuminating watching masks come off and hearing what people think these two stories say about the state of hip-hop. T.I. weighed in on Instagram, complimenting Lil Nas’s courage but also positing the “Industry Baby” video and the Rolling Loud remarks as acceptable opposites, respectable differences of opinion: “If you have a Lil Nas X video, and him living his truth, you gone damn sure have people like DaBaby who are going to speak they truth.”

The Atlanta star facing multiple accusations of sexual assault also claimed that the LGBTQ community is “bullying” DaBaby and complained about “high standards of morality,” framing rap shows as safe spaces where a terrible remark shouldn’t be villainized, a sentiment echoed in a tweet by Toronto’s Tory Lanez (whose appearance at the Rolling Loud set in question was met by stern criticism — since last year Megan Thee Stallion accused him of shooting her — and is surely the reason DaBaby is under intense fire, since gross, public homophobia is more often met with a yawn): “When did rap get so politically correct that u can’t speak your mind and have an opinion?” Veteran Louisiana rapper Boosie Badazz took things a step further, using a gay slur in an Instagram Live stream, where he also threatened to “drag his ass offstage and beat his ass” if he saw Lil Nas recreate the (mock) nude dance sequence in “Industry Baby” at an awards show. “Facts,” retired NBA shooting guard Nick Young added in the comments.

There’s almost too much mess to keep up with. After posting a flimsy, passive-aggressive pair of apology messages that also hit at Dua Lipa, whose “Levitating” remix with DaBaby remains perched at No. 3 on the Billboard Hot 100 chart and who has said she was “surprised and horrified” by the Rolling Loud incident, DaBaby released a video for a song called “Giving What It’s Supposed to Give,” borrowing Black queer slang for the title and closing with a message in rainbow colors: “Don’t fight hate with hate. My apologies for being me the same way you want the freedom to be you.” (More recently, Baby responded to criticism from Questlove by saying he has no clue who that is, a bold take since you can go to his YouTube page and watch a clip of him performing a medley of cuts from his Kirk album on The Tonight Show With Jimmy Fallon, backed, of course, by the Roots with Quest on drums.)

The message in the many twists this dialogue has taken is that a lot of people who claim credit for being open-minded also maintain that they deserve the right to object to some of the avenues of expression favored by the queer people they purport to have no problem with. It’s acceptance with a caveat: You can be gay, bi, trans, pan, nonbinary, what have you, so long as you don’t make too much noise about it. If you coddle hip-hop’s cisgendered, heteronormative core, you can cook. If you show too much queer attraction and self-expression, people get uncomfortable. The illusion of respect for our differences erodes. Acceptance is conditional upon giving the masses something to relate to. Young M.A is appreciated because straight male hip-hop fans see themselves in her verses about romancing women; there’s enough ambiguity and fluidity in Tyler, the Creator’s music to give a listener plausible deniability about whether the song they’re listening to is about falling in love with a man or not. (x)

I think the title of this essay says it best: "I don't see an end to this."