have any other afab trans and/or nonbinary phannies gone through a gender crisis about phannie demographics? like when i was in middle school working through internalized misogyny and gender dysphoria at the same time, i struggled a lot with dan and phil having a majority female audience, not in the sense that it made it juvenile/silly (which. still pisses me off to this day. let teenage girls like things ffs) but in the sense that, as a closeted afab enby it felt like the only way to androgynize myself was through seeking out stereotypically “masculine” interests, and dnp were distinctly and proudly not that.
ive def come a long way in separating gender presentation and hobby demographics from gender identity, deconstructing gendered ideas altogether, and feeling more secure in my identity even if i’m still in the closet, but it was such a strange and difficult time and im just curious if anybody else has dealt with the same thing !
