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[sugar-petals]

Yuzuru Hanyu is a top tier babie 😔👌🏼

aye you like him too 😄 the guy’s always maintaining his popularity in domme circles and nobody asks why 🤓 for real now, duh, he skates on his damn knees. a dream to watch.

[drawbauchery]

What happened to Thomas Herbert I?

...thomas herbert II doesn't like to talk about it

[sugar-petals]

Isn't it amusing that people's bias wreckers will often be the members their bias gets along with best? Most Yoongi stans I know name Hobi or Namjoon as their primary bias wrecker, and I can't remember the last time I met a Taehyung stan whose bias wrecker wasn't another member of the maknae line. It's funny how perfectly it all lines up, how something that looks random on the surface has a logic behind it. Love that 😍

easy explanation, it’s usually shippers having that dynamic going on 😉 self-inserts, you know the deal.

[drawbauchery]

Hey I'm shaped a lot like your Private and it gave me the confidence to start wearing crop tops, so thanks for that! 💕

Q//-//Q !!!<3<3<3

[sugar-petals]

CARO GUESS WHO'S GOING TO SEE BTS

i like the sound of this thea 

[sugar-petals]

fear can only yield bad results. Therefore, a healthy dominant may have an absolute preference for being in charge, but will not necessarily have a fear of submission and will not see the submissive as inherently weak or lesser-than. Their dominance may stem from a desire to care for others, the feeling that having power over a partner is sexy, simple sadism, etc. But before that point can be reached self reflection is necessary to ensure BDSM is recreation, not a defense mechanism.

it’s why dungeons require dommes to experience both sides of the whip to gain respect. interestingly enough, this practice is rare among [het] male doms which tells you a lot. too many don’t give a shit about their play partners and do think subs are weak. in reality, they’re deeply intimidated so they need a self-serving high horse. i keep a policy to stay away from the majority of them. 

it’s also indicative how women must sub in one way or another while men don’t and can disrespect female subs all they like. while dommes go the extra mile. i haven’t observed many mistresses that need to drop their fear and learn not to stigmatize submission, especially in men. the only ones are those few and far between who are deep into severe matriachy ideology, and that’s about it. 

femdom as a whole gladly has more flat hierarchies available. most ‘sub = lesser than’ comes from mainstream bdsm where guys are in charge. the two maxims i always give for advice in that regard are 1) to neither copy male doms nor 2) to buy into the man-made media images of femdom (including porn). that way, you can avoid adopting the ‘subs are pathetic’ mentality that hails from misogyny 100% of the time. if you craft your own dominance and stay forthcoming to subs, you’ll be fine.

[sugar-petals]

Funny that you say Tae and Yoongi are opposites. It reminds me of the bias theory we've discussed here about idealized self vs desirable partners. I identify closely with Yoongi yet (though I could never see him becoming ny bias) consistently find myself drawn to Taehyung. Coincidence? Not a chance. Although that cute smile definitely helps.

It’s not necessarily that way, being attracted to the opposite of whom we feel similar to. But it is likely and often makes sense, I mean look how Taehyung is everything Yoongi doesn’t do, so it feels refreshing from Yoongi’s identified perspective. His smile is very heart-warming, the bread of it 😌

[sugar-petals]

Do you know of any brands that specialize in romantic clothing?

orsay. lot of casual looks, quite affordable. quiz clothing uk is also perfect (stylish, comfortable, fair prices) though beware, they often do soft dramatic looks. other than that, they are like... absolute wonderland.