Hey there, hi, I just wanted to say that I get it. Being mean first you know what to expect from others, you block out any hurt by not caring, but you truly also block out any happiness. You deserve to be treated with kindness and Im sorry about your bad experiences with binary trans people, but all I can tell you is that to act in hatred against them will leave you isolated from both binary and non binary trans people.
For the record, hi, Im Soul, Im a multigender non binary person, and Im also a trans boygirl. I run @this-is-multiphobia and also @our-genderquestioning-experience, from which I interacted with you before.
It's fair to be hurt. It's okay to feel that hurt, it's okay to rant to a friend or a close circle of people, even saying 'i hate binary trans people', because if it's a way to word the frustration, it's not something you truly believe.
When you make posts on the internet declaring that you dont like binary trans people and that they're not safe around you, you isolate yourself from your community. And non binary people, who care about their binary siblings, will also avoid being around you. And non binary people like me, who are also binary girls and boys, will not feel safe around you.
Being binary trans is not what makes someone exorsexist, or unable to understand non binary experiences. There are way more overlaps between our experiences, with many people being non binary men and non binary women, and many identifying as non binary before binary trans and viceversa. Being a monogender trans woman or trans man is not something anyone can help, it's not something they have control over, and it's not something that dictates their beliefs or personality. It's just how they experience gender, and it should be respected.
Trans infighting here online has gotten big and pervasive, with many people lashing out at each other because they feel threatened or unsafe. But being trans, binary or not, is not what makes them say those things, it's the environment they are in, the things they end up believing because they find themselves with no community or the wrong ones, ones that incite hatred in other trans people when we're all people just existing and trying to do our best to stand by each other. There are so many binary trans people who have spoke out in support of their non binary siblings, and I would've missed that joy if I had decided that all monogender binary trans people were the enemy. They're more similar to us than you think, they're just people. Some act one way and some another, but at the end of the day, their identity has nothing to do with the way they behave.
I get it, I dont like exorsexists either. But binary trans people are not the exorsexists. They're just people who happen to be binary trans. They dont deserve your hatred, and they deserve our support, and supporting them means supporting us too. You deserve good things and good experiences too, to have a happy life the way you want it. Dont hate yourself, but dont hate other people who have done nothing wrong either. If you do, itll be much easier to feel alone and bad about yourself too, because we all need community, love and support, and in order to have that, you have to trust others, even if that means lowering your shields.
Hai soul 👋im srry I dont know how to answer this ask....... it's vary sweet. I know i cant control what makes me angry and upset and how I feelz, but I definitely can control how I post mai stuffs. aaaareghhhh!!!! aaaaaaaghhhh!!!! auuuughhhhh!!!!!!:(((((((((((((((( I think it's so wonderfil to have these experiences and overlap . I dont know. I might just delete dis blawg/ all da nasty posts on it.
Im sorry you had to see this blog and all of my meanness