#abilist

[mymuseisunmedicated]

I had an ableist Uber driver the other day. It was a mile and a half ride, and he asks why I didn’t just walk. I tell him I have health issues that make that unsafe. He says, “Well, to motivate you, I just had both my knees replaced and I would do it.” Cool. Not the same fucking thing.

So I explain that I have POTS. If I walked that far uphill, there’s a real chance I’d faint, and even if I didn’t, my entire day would be wrecked because my body would be completely out of whack. His response? “Well, you should always try. Maybe you’ll get better. Plus, there’s a fire station on the way.”

Why the fuck are you saying this to me? You are paid to drive people places. That is literally the whole job. This isn’t a TED Talk, and I didn’t ask for motivation, medical advice, or a comparison to your knees.

And just in case this needs to be said: some disabilities don’t get better. Some of us don’t get parts swapped out and sent back on our way.

No, he did not get a tip. And yes, I contacted Uber support, made sure I never get matched with him again, and told them exactly why.

(The best part of this was, yeah, I've had my knees replaced too and the bounce back is not anywhere near as easy as he made it sound. lol)

[batsguy]

me when my mom is actually nice to a disabled person:

[raesrabbithole]

Just over here wondering why ableist has an E in it...

[radshitstarfish]

A Word On Visible Disabilities

Ok I’ve been thinking about posting this for a long time because I’m low key still mad about it.

I have EDS, which is a joint disorder that screws with your joints. Walking is really painful, and for my first quarter of college I really struggled getting around to class AND still having energy to do stuff. Over winter break my lovely sibling gave me a pair of their old braces. They are worn over pants because they’re really thick and have joints on the side to support my actual knee joints. One day I wore them home to my Dads place, and he saw them and was like ??wat??

Then he jumped into asking me why I don’t use KT tape, have I tried the knee brace sleeves that can go under pants, why don’t I get a scooter to go around campus, etc. Something about me wearing such visible braces really bothered him. I explained to him SEVERAL times that non-visible braces did not work for me- my joints are so fucked they do nothing. Each time I asked him why he was so against the ones I was wearing and he’d just say he wanted to make sure I knew all of my options. It wasn’t until I asked him why me wearing visible braces bothered him so much that he stopped. I don’t think he realized what he was doing, but for the whole time he had made it clear that he does not approve of my disability being so visible. Once I said that and pointed it out he shut up about it.

So yalls, can we stop the stigma of assistive devices? Some people need them. And sometimes people will need an assistive device one day that they may not need the next- because pain, mobility, etc. can vary each day AND THATS JUST HOW IT IS. So don’t make rude comments about someone’s assistive device and how and when they use it.

[magical-autistic]

“Your headphones are a social crutch”

— my science teacher 😑😑

[mymuseisunmedicated]

Being disabled and unable to work does not make someone a "housewife."

And those sanctimonious Tumblr posts insisting that no woman should ever be a housewife because her husband might die, leave, or murder her are toxic, ableist, and incredibly demeaning to disabled women whose spouses are quite literally their primary support system.

Not everyone has the luxury of choosing a career over disability. Some of us had careers. Some of us built lives, earned degrees, worked our asses off, and would give anything to have that independence back.

Also, if you're entering a marriage genuinely convinced your husband might kill you someday, that isn't healthy caution. That's a giant red flag that you either shouldn't be marrying that person or you need to unpack some serious issues. There is a massive difference between being aware of potential risks and assuming every man is a ticking time bomb.

I'm tired of seeing disabled women erased from these conversations and treated like we're failures for circumstances we didn't choose.

Thanks for coming to my TED Talk.

Now kindly fuck off with the toxic feminism and ableist garbage.

Signed,

A woman with three degrees, a former career, and a life she misses every damn day.

[moral-obesity]

People are so selfish!

I am LITERALLY getting in an argument with people on Reddit in the "Walt Disney World" subreddit because people are whining about how "privileged" people who ride scooters are for being able to skip bus lines and get on first. I just......I hate people.

[over-dramatic-and-insane-blog]

Sent home because the Abilist school nurse attacked me verbally

she pulled me into the back room and started accusing me of lying. when I started crying she wouldn’t stop then afterwards she blamed my psychosis and said she never attacked me :(