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An Open Letter To My Dad

Hey Dad. I’m not sure why I am writing this. I am just aware you are reaching out to your children. Here are my thoughts. First let me introduce myself. I am your daughter Grace. What you don’t know anymore is I am known as a straight shooter. So here is what I have to say.

Your girlfriend Gloria is trying to reach us. Let me start off by saying I have kindly and generously addressed you as Dad, but I have a major favor to ask. This will be the first and last. Please stop asking others to speak for you in an attempt to reach me or any of your children. I’ll just add them to the list of people I won’t be talking to.

I don’t trust you. Your strategic, underhanded, unhealthy, unstable, and you blame everyone else for the pitfalls in life. It’s hard for me to trust a great deal of men, but I don’t blame you. That would be a waste of my time, and hateful and unhealthy on my part. Instead I am aware, and I just live my life with one thing in the back of my mind: your not mentally healthy.

I am about to turn 32. I have never received a birthday card from you, or a simple Happy Birthday from you. Not sure if you love me or not, your actions haven’t aligned with your word. I’m aware you’ve told me you love me at least once, but that isn’t good enough. Regardless, I don’t want or need anything.

At 30 you tried to reach me through Joy (I know how you work) and made it a hell of a year for me as I had to face reality alone that you were using Joy. I couldn’t respond. I have a right to protect myself. I am not “brainwashed” by my mothers side. I never told her how many emails you or Joy sent me.

At 16 and 15, probably even 14 you stalked us, and took us to court. Still you took no responsibility for your actions, but you affected my high school years greatly. Guess how high school was for me? Amazing. Want to know why? I am stronger than you think. I am stronger than I think. I am capable of anything I set my mind to. I got accepted into the college of my choice. Remember when you said I turned into a fine young lady? Right before you said I was brainwashed? I am fine. I am 32, and I am fine. I blame no one. I plan to make all my dreams come true.

You can continue to stew about the woes of life, completely engrossed in your own victim mentality, taking no responsibility for your physical reactions towards others. You stole my half brother from his mother, you left me as a kid, you physically and emotionally abused my mother. You even sent a letter to my grandfather telling him he deserved to be sick. So guess what, Dad? I hold you responsible not for Your mental health but your reactions to how life dealt it’s cards to you. I know you can’t help but be selfish. You can control who you hurt though. Karma works in mysterious ways. I don’t believe your sick. I believe you will love a long life. Imprisoned in your own thoughts of disillusionment. Your body is your last line defense. God helps him who helps himself. So I must decline all offers to speak with you. No, I am not brainwashed. I’m protecting myself from you. I made this decision. I am not blaming anyone.

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There are some moments in particular that I look at my son and all of his accomplishments and how much he's grown and my heart absolutely breaks. His dad isn't there. He's never gunna see how far angelo has come he is never going to be anyone special in angelos life. Angelo is always going to be missing something.. In a way it means that he isn't going to be constantly let down by Blair, which he would be. But in another it means he's been let down worse than he would have been already. And I don't know what to do with that. I dont know how to make that better.