#ace realisations

[aro-antics]

Ace Realisations #1

When I was about 16, a classmate of mine was talking about the rugby on TV the previous night, and she mentioned that she got into it because she got to watch a load of Hot Guys running around for 80 minutes.

My ace ass had never been so shocked.

It had never occurred to me that people can find athletes attractive and don't necessarily watch purely because they like the sport.

Unfathomable.

[manousyren]

Sex-ed for an asexual

I remember when I was about 15 our class had the opportunity to ask any questions sex-related. We could write them on paper and then the teacher would answer them best she could.

I asked why the fucking hell people would masturbate. 

[iamala]

I feel really lucky sometimes hearing about aces having a load of problems with therapists. My therapist didn't know the term but said he was aware of people like that and said no more. I told my psychiatrist and said I'd wondered if it would come as I got older but at nineteen I kind of am. And he just laughed a bit and said yes, you are really, only asking about it as far as asking into my relationship history etc.

I've never had to officially tell my parents it's just slid into conversations so I know they're aware but we've never really had to talk about it. The biggest problem I've had is being frustrated in having to explain the concept of asexuality to my friends and the odd 'but how can you know if you haven't tried?', but never out right 'no you're not', more ignorant insensitivity than meanness. 

I read about people having all this grief from others and realise I really am very lucky. Or rather, this is how it should be.