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[bloggingwithmamabear]

“We’re back for our third episode of Ada Talks! Your feedback on my last video was very much appreciated guys. This video is more serious for me to put out as I didn’t think I’d be making one like this anytime soon. I’ll answer the few questions I received after the news."

“For months now, River and I have been planning and trying to conceive another baby. We thought the timing was right for it as the boys are getting older and we would have a decent age gap between them and the new baby. We haven’t taken a pregnancy test in a few weeks now because the last few results came back negative. This one was different. I could feel it. As soon as I took this pregnancy test I called to River to bring the vlog camera through to capture the moment.. just in case.”

“Now here we are. Two minutes after taking the test. I have never been more nervous about the results. We have to wait another minute and the suspense is killing us both. I know the result could come back as negative again but I honestly feel like it’s different this time. I’m so excited to have another one. To feel them move about and kick. To watch them roll over, take their first steps, say their first words. I love being a mother more than anything in this world. I’ve always wanted a big family, River too. This is why we’re so excited about to prospect of having another little lovebug.”

“Three minutes is more than up, due to my babbling on, obviously. Let’s check these results, shall we?”

“Postive. Postive. Positive. I knew it! Don’t laugh at me, River! I’m going to cry.. This.. I can’t believe.. - We’re going to have another baby. Another.. baby..”

“I’m so sorry guys. I didn’t expect to be crying on one of these vlogs. Not now at least. I feel so blessed right now. I cannot believe that we did it.. we got pregnant again.

“I guess.. There you go, guys. That’s the news we wanted to share with you. We’ve been trying to no avail for almost six months now and I’m so excited to share the news that we are indeed pregnant! I can’t believe I’m crying on one of my vlogs to you guys, I apologize.. I’m just so happy. Now I guess it’s time to move on to the few questions I got sent in this week. I left them until last, due to there only being a few of them.”

** The questions below are all that were sent in this week. If you want your question to be answered feel free to send them in and they’ll be answered next time. **

Question 1; What made you want to become a model? - @littlefrenchsims Answer; “I was told by many friends throughout high school, including Bridgett, that I had the figure to become a model if I chose to pursue it. I was also interested in modeling from a young age, always parading around my room in different outfits, posing for pictures, etc. I started off my portfolio for modeling when I was sixteen, two years before actually getting into it properly.” 

Question 2; River isn’t jealous of your job? - @littlefrenchsims Answer; “River sometimes does get jealous of me modeling, mainly when I’m in lingerie or doing a nude shoot. He prefers my almost fully clothed shoots to the rest, which is understandable due to him being my husband and wanting to be the only person to see my body in such a way. Though, he fully supports me with it.”

Question 3; What is your beauty secret? - @littlefrenchsims Answer; “Makeup! Lol. Thank you. Although when I was younger I wanted lip fillers, I didn’t do it and I’m glad I didn’t. I used to be so insecure about my face/body but over the years (and with the help of my husband and modeling) I’ve gotten over the insecurities. If you want, I can upload a before and after of my makeup routine including a list of the products used?”

“I want to thank you guys, yet again for sending in these questions. I really do enjoy reading and answering them for you. I hope you are happy with this weeks video and I’ll be updating you guys more with a weekly post on our newest lovebug, once we’ve found out how far along we are! Thank you guys for tuning in, see you next week. Adios!”

[bloggingwithmamabear]

“Welcome back to another episode of Ada Talks! I’m excited that you guys are enjoying the series so far. So far, I’ve decided that the schedule for this series will be weekly if enough questions are sent in and if not then every two weeks. I hope that’s alright with you guys? There won’t be a specific day set but I’ll try my best to upload around the same time.”

“As I said in the previous episode, I’m likely to invite ‘guests’ to join me for an episode meaning you can also send in questions regarding them and their family as well as myself/my family. In this episode I have my husband, River, joining me! We will both answer the questions to the best of our abilities.”

** The questions below are all that were sent in this week. If you want your question to be answered feel free to send them in and they’ll be answered next time. **

Question 1; What is the most difficult and the most amazing parts of maternity? - @sjmaktub  

Ada Answer; “I’d have to say the most amazing part is when you first notice you have a little bump or when the baby starts to kick. It’s amazing knowing you’re carrying life inside of you. The most difficult? Probably the swollen ankles and not being able to move much near the end of your pregnancy.” River Answer; “One-hundred percent, the most amazing part would be feeling them kick. As you don’t have them growing inside you, it’s so astonishing realizing you’re actually going to be a parent. Worst would be dealing with Ada’s mood swings. You couldn’t watch anything together on the TV because she’d just cry at everything.”

Question 2; Not sure if anyone has asked before, but how was your labor experience? - @sjmaktub

Ada Answer; “With both pregnancies, my labor experiences were pretty different. Giving birth to Maddox was one of the hardest things I’ve gone through. Over 9 hours of contractions and labor to give birth to my first baby boy. Meanwhile, Lennon’s birth was super easy compared to most of the stories I heard about and my previous labor experience. I was only in labor with Lennon for an hour and a half, roughly. It’s so worth it though to have your little one in your arms.” River Answer; “Being the father, all I could really do was try to calm and support my wife throughout both labor experiences. I had my hand crushed both times but when I heard their cries I started crying myself. It was amazing.”

Question 3;  There are bound to be setbacks in every relationship, but there's always a way of finding common ground and getting through those rough patches together.. What would you say was the turning point in your relationship? Do you feel like any of you has done something that changed the way you perceive relationships and love life in general? Have you grown more understanding of each other? Have you ever had problems accepting the differences? If there are any? - @afterlifesims 

River Answer; “I think losing my mum kind of put setbacks in our relationship. I closed Ada off, drank and smoked weed more than I should have allowed myself too. I found myself.. drowning. But it was the day she was crying because she felt like a single mother that changed everything. Seeing the way she looked at me, it was like she was looking right through me. It broke my heart, it tore me apart. I vowed to never go down that path. I’m more understanding, accepting and thoughtful when it comes to my wife.” Ada Answer; “Other than that, I’d have to say that at the beginning of our relationship River was a major part in helping me get over my previous partner. As you may know, I dated Benjen for almost 2 years before I met River again. The relationship ended badly and I suffered a miscarriage in it. There was also another occasion where Benjen had come to my apartment, though I don’t like to speak about that. River was the only person I confided in after the incident. I felt safe and secure with River around. He protected me from him. He helped me through the emotional trauma as well as the physical trauma and stuck by me.”

Question 4; How did you deal with the pregnancies? - @greyfamilyvalues

Ada Answer; “It was a lot smoother with Lennon since I already knew how to handle everything including the labor. River was a major help throughout both pregnancies though, dealing with all my cravings and mood swings.” River Answer; “When I found out Ada was pregnant with Maddox I freaked out a little but I was excited to become a Dad. We had only been together a few months when Ada got pregnant so it all happened very quickly. With Lennon, it was easier due to him being semi-planned. We knew we wanted another baby but didn’t really decide then and there that we were going to try. We just let it happen naturally. I supported her 100% throughout both pregnancies.”

Question 5; What is your best memory together? Where was it? How old are you? - @greyfamilyvalues

Ada Answer; “It’s a tie between our night of skinnydipping in the ocean when we were 20/21 and his proposal a few years later.”  River Answer; “Probably seeing her again. I was roughly 21 or so, and I saw her at the party and just.. fell in love again.”

Question 6; Would you ever have Kelsey and I join you? - @greyfamilyvalues Answer; “Of course, I would! You girls are definitely going to be future guests in this series.”

Question 7; How do you deal with being away from your family? - @greyfamilyvalues

Ada Answer; “My family actually moved over to the US a few years ago to be closer to us and their grandchildren, though my brother lives a few hours away with his wife and children. I missed them a lot when I first moved here.” River Answer; “I didn’t deal with it well. It was a strain and made things really difficult.”

Question 8; Who are and how did you meet your closest friends? - Anonymous

Ada Answer; “Minus each other, I’d have to say; Neriah, Bridgett, Kelsey, Damon, Effy, and Val. I met Bridgett, Kelsey, and Damon in high school. Neriah I met through River and Val through modeling, and Effy when I first moved to Brooklyn.” River Answer; “My closest friend would be.. Mike and Dax? Mike and I met through Neriah and Ada. The husband crew, I call us. Dax, I met through Neriag as Zailey is her cousin, of course.”

Question 9; Have you ever thought about having more kids? - @greyfamilyvalues

Answer; “We both have spoken about it in the past and we do want to have more children in the future. We’re currently discussing some issues that will be featured in the next video update.”

Question 10; Who is the better driver? - Anonymous

Ada Answer; “River for sure.” River Answer; “Agreed.”

Question 11; Who is crazier? - Anonymous

River Answer; “Ada indefinitely.” Ada Answer; “Okay, so maybe it is me..”

“That’s all of this week's questions sent in from you guys! Thank you so much for joining me and I really appreciate your feedback in the comments below. Thank you so much for all of your questions and another thank you to my husband, River, for joining me this week! Next week I’ll be doing another solo video announcing some news that we’ve been keeping mainly to ourselves/family friends as well as answering more of your questions. That’s all for this week, Adios!”

[bloggingwithmamabear]

“Hey, guys, Ada here! This is the first video of many. I’m not even sure how to start this, to be honest. I guess I’ll start with a thank you for all of your support and questions you’ve sent in! I’m hoping this is a series that might continue throughout my blogging years. Perhaps I’ll have family members/friends join me in upcoming episodes and you can send them in your questions?”

“This week has been exhausting. I’ve been in bed almost all day long for the past week, down with a sickness bug. I’m so thankful for my loving husband taking care of me, as well as our two boys. I know they can be a handful on their own. Thankfully, I’m feeling much better today so I thought I’d finally get on with this video.”

** The questions below are all that were sent in this week. If you want your question to be answered feel free to send them in and they’ll be answered next time. **

Question 1; Do you have any kids that play with your kids? - Anonymous Answer; “Both of my boys are close to Neriah’s children as well as Bridgett & Kelsey’s girls due to being of similar ages. Maddox is closest with Isabelle. (Neriah’s eldest)”

Question 2; Have you ever had a threesome? - Anonymous Answer; “I have not, no.” Question 3; What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve ever done/had done to you? - Anonymous Answer; “It would probably have to be getting tied up by my husband.” Question 4; How close are you to Kelsey and Bridgett? What are your thoughts on them? - Anonymous Answer; “They’re my girls! I’m super close to them and have been for years. They have always supported me and I love them.”

Question 5; What is your friendship like with Damon? - Anonymous Answer; “We don’t speak as often as we used to. I miss him. Though, whenever we do hang out, it’s just like old times.”

Question 6; What is your job, Ada? - @littlefrenchsims Answer; “I’m a model!” Question 7; What’s River’s job? - @littlefrenchsims Answer; “He’s an actor, though is currently taking a break to be a stay-at-home father whilst I go back to full-time modelling.” Question 8; Is it not too difficult to work and care for children? - @littlefrenchsims Answer; “It can definitely be tough, but having my partner with me through it all is how I get by. Before I got back into full-time modelling, I would either take care of the children and model when I had the free time or do it when River wasn’t at work. I do feel as though I’m missing out on them growing now since I’m full-time.” Question 9; Do you have time to enjoy with your husband? - @littlefrenchsims Answer; “Of course! We have a date night twice a month so we have the entire day/night to ourselves. We also try to spend as much time as possible when I’m not at work.”

“That seems to conclude the questions for this week. How often would you guys like this to be a thing? Once a week? Twice a month? Leave a comment below with your suggestions! If there’s anything else you guys would want me to do, feel free to suggest it below. If you want me to review products send me them in or send me a message and I’ll try to find it! That’s all for this week, Adios!”

[bloggingwithmamabear]

This is a new section I’m adding to my blog. I’m not entirely sure how often I’ll be posting like this since I don’t really have a schedule, but we’ll see as time goes on. It’ll most likely be at least a few times a month.

In this, I’ll be sitting down and answering any questions you guys may have/that I receive, as well as just posting about the goings on in my day/week. I’ll also be talking more about my relationship and our struggles. Possibly even some personal stories from my past will feature.

I’d love to hear all of your suggestions so feel free to hop on into my inbox and leave them, along with questions for my first video which I should be shooting on Wednesday. 

[bloggingwithmamabear]

Question 7 by Anon: If River cheated would you forgive him? Ada Answer: “I believe in the ‘once a cheat, always a cheat’ phrase. I would perhaps learn to forgive him but I would never trust him again.” River Answer: “Just to clarify, I’d never cheat.”

Question 8 by Anon: How do you cope with two young children? Ada Answer: “It can be extremely tough at times, especially back when River was working all the time. It was hard on me trying to take care of them both when their needs were different. Lots of temper tantrums were thrown, but that’s just part of the joys of parenthood.” River Answer: “It’s hard, I mean.. I was working a lot and felt bad for putting so much pressure on Ada but now that I am staying at home, it may be hard but I want Ada to have her life of working.”

Question 9 by Anon: What is the biggest kink you both have? How far have you taken it? Answer: “I think bondage. There was a time that Ada had a bruise on her thighs because of it and I never forgave myself.”

Question 10 by Anon: Name a time that you wish you could go back and repair. Would the repair cost you the relationship or do you think things would be different? Ada Answer: “I wish we waited a while longer to have Lennon. Don’t get me wrong, I love my children more than anything, but I think it was tough on us as it was due to River being so busy with work without adding a baby to that mix.” River Answer: “I think I would fix working so much, it wouldn’t have cost the relationship but maybe I wouldn’t have suggested another baby so quickly after Maddox. I may have waited a little longer.”

Question 11 by Anon: Is there anyone in the family that you feel isn’t as understanding of the relationship? Ada Answer: “Everyone in my family completely supports our relationship and is always there if we need any advice for them, the same with River’s family.” River Answer: “Mostly my biological father but I personally don’t care for him.”

Question 12 by Anon: Was there a time that you had a fight that almost cost you the relationship? River Answer: “I think when I said I was taking on another job offer that I had promised Ada I wouldn’t be doing, it was six months of working in Ireland and then New Zealand so it put a lot of strain on us. I think we were arguing more than talking.” Ada Answer: “That did put a sort of strain on us and our relationship. I remember not wanting to speak to you for days on end and whenever we did we just argued. I’m glad we got past that.”

Question 13 by Anon: Do you plan to have more kids? Ada Answer: “We do wish to have more children. I’d prefer to have another when the boys are a few years older, having at least a three-year age gap between Lennon and the newest arrival. I’m focusing more on my career for the time being.” River Answer: “I was nagging Ada for more but then I kind of looked at our relationship from the outside and realised, I should be home and let her work. Let her do what she wants for her career more.”

And that is the end of the Husband Tag/Q&A! Thank you all for sending in these questions for us to answer, it was fun doing them. Hopefully, we get to do more of these in the future. If you’d like more of these done or have any suggestions on what other things we could do, leave a comment below. Enjoy, lovebugs!

[bloggingwithmamabear]

Husband Tag/Q & A

In a few days I'm going to upload a husband tag/q & a with my husband, River! Feel free to send in questions either on this or into my inbox. We'll try to get them all answered in the first video but if we don't then we'll do a second. :) [It won't actually be a video, but pictures edited with a camera as if it's recording them.]

[bloggingwithmamabear]

Hey guys. I know that it has been a while since I’ve sat down and done one of these but for the past four months, I’ve just been dealing with a lot of personal issues, mainly my relationship with my husband River. I’ll fill you guys in below with pictures from back in May and the story, as well as things now.

So, as some of you may or may not know, back in early May I stopped posting vlogs on my mumblr due to my life becoming ‘super hectic’. I briefly stated that it was due to being a pregnant mother as well as dealing with ‘allegations, press negativity, interviews and therapy sessions’. All of this is true.

On May 14th I was anonymously sent a letter stating that my husband was cheating on me, included were eight pictures snapped confirming this theory. I was devasted and completely broken. How could someone that apparently loves me do something so horrible? I never actually believed the letter itself until the polaroids tumbled out of the letter. Looking over them.. It hurt me. It confirmed my worst fears.

The picture featured below are the ones I were sent. I took this to send to River as he wasn’t home at the time of the letter arriving, telling him he needed to return home ASAP. It made me overthink every single little thing he’s ever told me, especially since I know the woman in the pictures with him. Her name is Ruhmr, his ex-manager. We had a bad experience with her in the past and River ended up firing her, only for her to turn up at our door a few months ago whilst I was out with the boys, begging for her job back. That’s when the accusations began. There were articles being printed claiming he was cheating on me then, only to be proven wrong.

Now? I’m unsure. On top of the Ruhmr drama, he’s been hanging out with random girls, staying out all night at clubs, etc. His attitude has completely changed in the past few months and I think that it perhaps may be down to this pregnancy, although he was the one that was pushing for another child so soon after Lennon. I wanted to wait a few more years. It’s all just put a major strain on our relationship and has caused me a lot of stress, which of course is not any good for the baby.

River and I have only recently gone back to living together in the past month or so, though he has not been staying in the same bedroom for the past two weeks since returning home, we have sorted our issues. Straight after these accusations began I moved myself and the boys out of the family home and into my parents home for a few weeks until River and I sorted things out. We sat down together multiple times and spoke about the letter, the photographs, our own personal issues, him going out to clubs, being spotted by paparazzi with other girls, etc.

We eventually settled on the idea of going to see a therapist to work on everything and have been going once a week for a few months now. From everything we spoke about together and with our therapist, I can gladly say we have now sorted our problems out and have found that River did not, in fact, cheat. I’m not going to go into full details about everything as this post is already quite lengthy as it is, but I can happily say that we are now back on track. I and the boys are back home with River, though he is currently sleeping in the spare guest bedroom as I’m not yet ready to go back to sharing a bed just yet. We’re going to continue to go to our couples therapy for the sake of our marriage and family.

That’s really all to say about everything for now. If you guys want more updates like this, or perhaps even a vlog from our therapy session then just say so! I’m hoping to get back to vlogging or even just updating you guys on her more. The next big post will be my baby shower! I’m so excited for baby K to get here, he’s already so loved.

Till next time,

[bloggingwithmamabear]

Are you going to have guests in your vlogs?

I am! This week I have two of my closest friends, Bridgett and Kelsey Grey joining me. I’m going to try to have a guest/guests with me every few weeks if you guys are interested in that. :) You can feel free to message me and ask if you’d like to be in a video with me.