#anonette

[pompettepink]

Anonymous asked: You had a moldboard up a few hours ago I liked but its gone now. 😭 I think it was tittled "just a girl", what happned? Is it just on my side. It was so cute Sorry bout that! I deleted it because op messaged me about it to apologize and asked me to take it down so I did. I'll repost it with just the pictures tho with no reference to the original poster.

My last two posts just goes to show how easy it is for people to take accountability and apologize when they enter coquette spaces with inappropriate content

"Inappropriate content" wtf are you on. The second girl with the dresses I agree but the first girl you are really streaching it.

I saw the post she made it was about the bimbofication of feminism and using "Im just a girl" in a serious way especially with the fact that there are currently over 100 million without access to education

I highly doubt she apologized out of knowing she was wrong. More like she apologized and begged you to delete it because you were mocking her. I saw the posts she made and the link she had to her other blog she was also coquette. It was not inappropriate for her to talk about the bimbofcation of feminism.

She deleted her posts and the link to her other blog because of you.

This is xomboo. I know it's you hiding behind anon.

And the reason that I know it's you is because you're typing the EXACT SAME THING that you typed me in my inbox when you were begging me to save you from the hate you were getting.

You didn't even TRY to type it out differently. You literally came into MY inbox apologizing saying "it wasn't what people think I meant IM SORRY" even AFTER you brought up @pinkpinkstarlet messaging you personally.

You tagged your garbage radblr. Feminist Identified Transphobia is NOT appropriate for the coquette community point blank period! We have MANY allies and trans members in the community and radblr already hates us for being coquette and that hatred doesn't belong here.

I was dumb for falling for your fake act. I'm REPOSTING the post you asked me to delete (I saved it before I deleted it). You can deal with your shit on your own you snake

[saltymongoose]

Hey, I have a question, did my ask get ate up? Cause that tends to happen to me alot, I'm the anon who wanted to be called Anon-ette

Hey Anon-ette! You're good, I received the ask just fine. :)

[phantomarts]

A brief recap for potential new followers or anyone in need of a refresher. Covers the biggest story aspects, but dont be afraid to send asks for reminders of any past rules or things, this world is certainly a bit of a complicated one.

Also a little set up for posting these up on Twitter now so they arnt lost.

@askthecookies @the-green-anon @askbanananpie

[pompettepink]

thanks for calling out the pro Ed stuff in the coquette community and tags. I'm recovering from an Ed so it makes me kinda uncomfortable and I don't get why they cross tag (especially cuz when I used to look at pro stuff, I noticed most people and blogs rarely tagged it with anything not pro or Ed related, so it's weird that people r cross tagging nowadays)

Don't thank me! And I'm glad you're recovering!

Contrary to popular belief I don't call out pro Ana behavior because I'm some sorta bully to mentally ill girls. It's because of people like you. People in the community who are recovering and don't even feel comfortable in their own space.

When pro accounts post so that other communities like coquette, dollette, fairycore, softcore, pink aesthetic, girlbloggers, cottagecore, emo, academia, gyaru, and even Ed Sheeran fans, see it, it's because they're trying to reach the widest audience possible. I'm telling you it's all about the numbers!! They recognize that this is social media first and foremost (not the diary they're lying about maintaining) and to participate in social media they feel like they HAVE to let as many people possible know that they're sick and others can be sick just like them if they follow along.

That's how we end up with content of skinny women with the hashtag #fatphobic, body check moodboards with the hashtag #naturecore, and starvation "diets" with the hashtag #hyperfeminine. Nothing about the way a lot of pro Ana accounts tag have ANYTHING to do with the community they're camping in. But the "please don't report just block" girls simply cannot function without the likes that they believe are signs that they should keep going.

And now because of it, aesthetics like coquette get an even worse reputation from people outside of the community. People see pro anorexia as the norm for our community and add that onto their list of reasons to hate us along with "romanticizing pedophilia, hyper consumerism, white exclusivity, classism, and ableism".

I'm honestly so over the numbers game people keep playing. Every micro blogger thinks they're the influencer of the month and gladly take pages out of REAL influencers playbooks by clout farming with cross tagging. So so sick of it.

[pompettepink]

How do I build a capsule wardrobe for coquette, regardless of the subtype (whether it be Americana, dollette, angelic, socialite, etc)? And how do I incorporate dresses in my capsule wardrobe?

Hello!!

To create a coquette capsule wardrobe that doesn't focus on subsets, most of your attention should be on color and cut. Your primary colors and the silhouette of your clothes are gonna to be the things that make your capsule wardrobe translate into whatever subset you want so they should be as timeless, easy to wear, and universal as you can possibly make it.

For your starter tops the colors should be simple and patternless. Creams, pinks, whites, blues, and blacks go with everything! Patterned pieces and outerwear will help elevate your closet later on. The fit is also important and should translate into as many subsets as you can get them into, so a top with too many tatters would be good for mystical coquette and grunge coquette but would be hard to fit into Americana coquette or country coquette. But on the other hand a blouse too bubble gum coquette won't work for something like 50's coquette or Parisian coquette. Less is more but beautiful embellishments will read as coquette! (Out of these four simple tops with basic colors which reads more as coquette to you?)

As for incorporating dresses Into your capsule the answer is simple! Just have a preset number of items you want in your capsule wardrobe (for example maybe you want 10 tops, 8 bottoms, 5 shoes, and 3 jackets) then omit the number of tops you want and make up the difference in dresses.

Your capsule wardrobe should be your reference point for any mindful shopping you do. If you pull something off the rack and can only envision it working with one skirt you own you should probably put it back. If it will work with only half your capsule wardrobe then try it on, if the style doesn't seem coquette enough for you or is too specific to only one subset I would give it some thought, but if it goes with all your capsule and can be fashioned into multiple subsets with the right accessories and accent pieces then definitely get it!

[pompettepink]

stop calling every girly aesthetic "coquette" 😡

"Girly" lol you snitched on yourself. I don't refer to anything I present as exclusively girly. You'll never catch me using tags like girly, feminine, womanly, or anything gender conforming because coquette isn't about being "girly". It's about RECLAIMING girlhood, and for many people in the comm their girlhood consists of jeans and band shirts, skateboarding, football, short hair, and swearing. None of which is viewed as "girly" but is still important.

If I called "every girly aesthetic" coquette then why do I present non "girly" subsets as coquette? And if you actually looked at my tags, or even read my header you would see that I have distinct separate aesthetic that I post! Fairycore is it's OWN thing, Larme Kei is it's OWN thing, Lolita is it's OWN thing, Gyaru it it's OWN thing. If I called every "girly" aesthetic as coquette I wouldn't need to make them their own tag, but I do, because I KNOW they're different.

This is why I said you're snitching on yourself. Got too foolish on anon and jumped to conclusions. What I DO do is present THEMED coquette fits, BUT I'm NOT claiming those themes as coquette!

For example, here's a board I made with the THEME Parisian Coquette

And Monster High Coquette

You and I BOTH now that Parisians dress differently then that, and no one in Monster High is part of the coquette gig! These are both themed boards with inspiration from coquette (also featuring traditionally "non girly aspects like short hair and bat glasses)

And here's ANOTHER example of boards I made with fashion labels that I did NOT identify as coquette

Grey academia

Beach bunny Britney

And Citrus Honeyboy

You would have been able to see all of this if you did the slightest bit of looking.

Somma y'all are so lazy and you're gonna HATE some of the GNC boards I've been planning lol!!

[pompettepink]

i love to see all the diverse coquette girls of color on your page 💕 truly no one is doing it like you (though they should be!!)

Seriously! The girls who prioritize diversity are few and far between (which is kinda sick because coquette is about girlhood but let's not unpack why ppl go out of their way to not make girlhood diverse)

Honestly rn it's not even "the girls who get it get it and the girls who don't don't" it should be "the girls who get it get it and the girls who don't should be embarrassed for themselves"

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[pompettepink]

From looking at your blog I don’t see you promoting anything but thin/skinny girls? You’re barely different than that blog you’re trying to report for thinspo and all the communities you’re in are into glorifying eating disorders in women. Sorry but it’s a bit disturbing.

You've fallen for pro Ana propaganda

You'll see someone who reblogs and posts thin, AVERAGE, and larger bodies, and you'll equate average with "skinny" and call it promotion

You'll see someone with an anti Ana pin and call it glorifying an eating disorder

You'll see someone who has successfully gotten multiple pro Ana accounts banned and say it's barely different

The pro eating disorder crowd has (ironically) fed you the lie that average people belong to them and their bodies are thinspo and you cherry picked thru my blog to tell them they're correct. You're eating up their lies and they're laughing at you for consuming all those calories 🤷🏽‍♀️