I have something I think some people need to hear. You might not like it, but I ask that just take a minute and listen. I, as a queer individual, have no responsibility to a non-queer person when it comes to explaining things. I don't have to answer awkwardly worded questions from someone who has no idea what it means to be outside the majority. However, by not answering those questions when they are presented, I am giving up the right to be mad at that person if they say something dumb. I might still be hurt or upset, but if I refuse to gently explain to them why their comment hurt and how they could avoid it in the future, getting angry and yelling would just make me a giant fucking dick. So yeah. If someone says something stupid, be kind. They might not understand and if you don't want to take the time to explain then you have no right to be mean.