#aspec stuff

[tophats2o]

Aspec warning labels

[aroacearchangel]

hey. do whatever you want btw. it’s your identity. kiss people for fun. enjoy sex. nobody’s stopping you. being aro and/or ace doesn’t mean you have to be repulsed by romantic or sexual activities if you don’t want to.

and also! things only mean what you meant them to mean. you can have platonic sex and platonically make out with your friends. it’s true. just be sure to communicate so that everyone involved understands and you’re good.

[moonprismpower456]

Actually making a serious post about aro/ace segregation because I’m tired. Recently in the aspec community I’ve seen a lot of people pushing the idea that sex/romance repulsed people are the only experiences aspecs can have and that favorables are somehow infecting or taking over our community. Being frustrated with hearing about those topics frankly isn’t favorables problems and saying they can just go to allos for a community is the same shit ace exclusionists have said about all of us for years. Thinking that asexual=not having sex and aromantic=not having relationships is a stereotype people in the community have been fighting for years. Splitting up a community isn’t the solution to our problems, getting rid of favorables won’t make the aphobia you experience go away. Asexuality and aromanticism are spectrums, go do like any research if you think otherwise.

[brainrotranch]

Aspec Experiences in the Hermitcraft-Empires-Life SMP Fandomsphere

I have created a google form to survey the relationship between this fandom and aspec identities. Everyone can and is encouraged to answer, if you are willing. It is very long, and has several sections where you are allowed to rant away on the subject, so feel free to take your time.

Also apologies ahead of time for any errors, seemingly obvious missed questions, or strange wording. I did my best and quintuple checked it, but I also have Skizz-level observational skills.

Please share it around, especially to those in different circles of the fandom than yourself. I wanna get as many answers as possible from as many corners as possible.

[in-a-mason-jar]

Romance, sexuality, sensuality. All sound great

But when I think of doing any of that with a real life person I cringe and immediately get turned off.

[a-rabbit-obsessed-queer]

Aspec men deserve much more respect and recognition in the aspec community than they receive. They often face a different form of aphobia specific to them ("men are naturally sexual they can't be ace" "all men are unromantic that's not unique") this rhetoric is spouted by many, even members of our own community and I hope for a day where that is no longer the case. As an ace and demiro woman (demigirl but that's beside the point) I want to encourage folks to take the time to give the aspec men in their lives support and to the aspec men reading, you are who you say you are no matter what people say and you deserve the world. I'm sorry for the ways in which toxic masculinity has harmed you. You are a valued member of the aspec community and the queer community as a whole. No ace or aro person is broken and neither are you. I'm sorry if anyone has ever told you otherwise.

[justagaymoth]

Aromantic people and asexual people can have kids

I keep seeing these end of the family tree gifs with the aromantic or asexual or aroace flag on them (no hate to the creator/creators doing this)

aromantic and asexual people can adopt or have kid’s biologically or both

People choose to have kids for many reasons

Aromantic or asexual people can choose to be single parents or raise kids with a friend or a partner

Aromantic or asexual people can choose to have a partner just to raise kids with them

[repulsed-confessions]

I hate hate hate hate how many people view the ace community as "coaches not players" and "freaky people who don't fuck (or maybe they do because aces can have sex too!!!!1!!!1!!!!) but write the filthiest smut".

I hate how I tell people I'm asexual and their reaction is "oh so you're just freaky but you don't act on it".

I'm asexual. I lack a sexuality. I lack desire, drive, libido, and attraction, although I acknowledge that only lack of attraction is necessary for asexuality. I do not want anything to do with sex, fictional or otherwise. I'm not a fucking "coach", I am not a sexual creature.

I hate how asexuality has become sexualized.

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