as you may have noticed, I haven’t been around for uh...almost five months now. I’m very sorry for up and abandoning you all like that. it wasn’t entirely intentional.
around about July my mental health took a pretty sharp and sudden downturn. I don’t know that happened when it did, there was no particular catalyst as far as I could tell except that maybe the stress of everything going on just built up too much or something. my anxiety just skyrocketed out of the blue and set off an obsessive thought spiral of the sort I haven’t had for years. I called my doctor, switched up my medication some, and figured I would just take a break from tumblr for a few days or so since being on it all the time was just making the anxiety worse. I figured I’d be back on and back writing soon, I just needed a little time to feel better.
things...did not get better. a little time turned into a lot of time and then suddenly a few months had passed and I was still stuck in the anxiety pit and hadn’t written anything or really done much of anything in all that time. and the more I became aware of how much time had passed since I’d worked on anything, the more daunting the prospect of getting back to it became, and it was already starting from a pretty high base level of daunting.
eventually, when I realized that medication alone probably wasn’t going to pull me out of this one, I started seeing a therapist. things are still not exactly ideal, but I think they are slowly improving. I’m hoping I will be able to get back to writing recaps soon. (the This Side of Paradise recap was actually very close to done when all this happened, so hopefully I can at least finish that one before too long.)
I’ve put off making this post for a while because I wasn’t really sure what to say after being away for so long. but I finally decided to do it today.
I’ve been scared every day for months, but today is definitely the scariest one. I have absolutely no idea what’s going to happen tonight and in the following days. about the only thing I’m sure of right now is that it’s gonna be a real mess here for a while before things shake out some way or another. I can’t come up with anything pithy and reassuring to say even to myself right now.
but if you need to hear this tonight: hang in there. no matter how bad it looks, hang in there. if you think you can’t make it through the whole week, just make it through tonight. if you can’t make it through the whole night, make it one more hour.
here is what I know about anxiety: sometimes you have to make a seat for it next to you. make it a cup of tea. pat it on the back. it’s probably not about to go anywhere tonight, and spending energy on trying to banish it will only make you feel worse.
hug someone. if you don’t have someone, hug something. a pet, a stuffed animal if you have one, a pillow if nothing else. add some comforting stimulus to the environment you’re in--light a candle with a nice smell, wrap yourself in a fuzzy blanket, put some soothing music or white noise on. if you start feeling like you’re disassociating or your thoughts are out of control, look around you and list three things you can see, three things you can hear, and so on, and repeat for as long as you need to. putting an ice cube in your mouth or eating a piece of dark chocolate or hard candy can help too.
watch the news if you need to, check out with some funny videos or a comfort show or video games if you’d rather. watching the results won’t change them.
one way or another, we will see the other side eventually.
[ID: A grainy color photo of Leonard Nimoy and DeForest Kelley standing together on the set of the Enterprise. Kelley has his arms folded and is looking down with a fond smile on his face. Nimoy has his arm around Kelley’s back and is looking at the camera and laughing.]