Jul 31, 2022
the adhd experience of looking at the clock and realizing that several hours have passed in the twenty minutes since you last looked at the clock
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the adhd experience of looking at the clock and realizing that several hours have passed in the twenty minutes since you last looked at the clock
if you, like me, are autistic and/or have ADHD, then you're probably familiar with needing to be reminded about some things that come so easily to other people
for me it's usually volume; unless I'm consciously thinking about it I generally don't know when I'm talking louder than necessary. obviously this can be a problem if someone's on a phone call, or trying to sleep, or whatever else may be the case, and whoever I'm talking to will often give me a gentle reminder to not talk so loudly
and while that's exactly what they should do and it lets me adjust my volume accordingly, it can still feel shitty to be repeatedly called out on something I don't feel I have much, if any, control over (and doubly so if my RSD kicks in over it)
but I've found a little change in how I respond to that reminder makes a big difference. instead of apologizing and then moving on (at a more reasonable volume), I've started thanking people for the reminder and then moving on (at a more reasonable volume)
it's only been a few days since I started doing this and it's already made me feel so much better whenever it happens. I'm still acknowledging and fixing the issue either way, but thanking the person I'm talking to tells them that I appreciate their reminder (and not just that I heard and heeded it), and now that I'm not constantly apologizing for something I don't feel I have much control over, those reminders have stopped feeling so grating, and I'm not reinforcing the idea in my head that I'm doing something wrong
and I don't think this is exclusive to poor volume control; while that's what causes this particular interaction most often for me, I think it's probably worth keeping in mind in general
being back on adhd meds is going to take some getting used to
don't get me wrong, they're definitely already helping, but it's quite a change after being without them for five or six years
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