“[Heterosexual identity is thus “purchased through a melancholic incorporation of the love that it disavows: the man who insists upon the coherence of his heterosexuality will claim that he never loved another man, and hence never lost another man...that love, that attachment, becomes subject to a double disavowal, a never having loved, and a never having lost. This “never-never” thus founds the heterosexual subject, as it were; it is an identity based upon the refusal to avow an attachment and hence, the refusal to grieve.” -Judith Butler, The Psychic Life of Power
“If the normative heterosexual white male seems untroubled by this disavowal, is it the task of the psychoanalyst to engineer its undoing?” -A Dialogue on Racial Melancholia, David Eng and Shinhee Han