So I know this female high school senior (she is not related to me). Let's call her...Jill. So starting in around middle school, Jill started experimenting with sex - different kinds of sex, with different people, etc. And I'm not opposed to sexual experimentation in general, but middle school seems a little young (I'm 23, and didn't experiment with sex with other people in middle school). But whatever, none of my business, right? So Jill isn't exactly the most private person in the world. In other words, when things happen, eventually I tend to find out (though often, indirectly). She is of legal age now, so honestly there isn't much anyone can do except be a voice of reason and offer her a safe place and such, right? But what drives me up a fucking wall is how she keeps *hinting* that she is "just such a sexual person, you know?" She says it like it is fucking unusual for a teenage high schooler in America to be having tons of sex. I'm not saying it is safe, or necessarily *normal*, but, let's face it: I had LOTS of sex in high school. Not with multiple people, I'm a monogamous kind of guy. Not vaginal or anal intercourse, as I'm not ready or into that. But I WAS sexually active, and have been now for about 8+ years. So when Jill says shit like - referring to a recent party where she and some guy had some sexing up in the bathroom - "good thing I can keep my line (no farther than 3rd base), even though that line is kinda far...", I just want to say "so fucking what?!?!?" It just seems like she is so proud of herself for having meaningless third-base-sex with some guy she knows without any indication of a relationship. I'm trying not to pass judgment on people who enjoy casual sex without relationships, but I also think that high schoolers shouldn't just go crazy on each other because I think relationships are important and sex is special and, quite frankly, BETTER when you know the person, what they like, what you like, and you actually care about them and the experience and whatnot.
I was going to end this here, but then decided I wanted to say more stuff: When I say Jill thinks her sexual appetite is special, I mean that she constantly says to people "well YOU wouldn't have casual sex with a friend, but I am just really sexual!" I'm pretty sexual, my girlfriend is pretty sexual, but we are sexual *with each other*, not friends or strangers. Our sex life - however exciting, sexual, or passionate it may be - is private. We experiment, we try new and fun things, and we enjoy each other often and in many ways. And I guess that's what I wish I could tell Jill: Just because you want sex often, have the opportunities for sex often, or have sex often, doesn't mean the rest of us AREN'T and that you are special, weird, or unique by comparison. We just don't always TELL people.