#cam's thinking corner

[caramelized-love]

i smell like her... that's gonna drive me crazy. i wish i could smell like this all the time, omg!!! 😭

[caramelized-love]

i love my partner. my girlfriend. my wifey. my wife (there is a difference). my love, my dear, my darling, my everythinggggg!!! she's my everything! i love her, and i want the best for her, and i can't imagine where i'd be right now without her. and i want to be with her for as long as we can be together, as long as we love each other, but what do i do when she's away?? sighhhh. sigh.

[caramelized-love]

i'm literally just a puppy, why do i have to work!!

[caramelized-love]

i need her so bad i need her i need her i need her i need her i need her i need her i need her i NEED her oh my GOD, if we can't cuddle in the next week i'm going to shrivel up and DIE!!!! 😭😭😭

[caramelized-love]

The asexual community really needs to get back to using our old saying "action ≠ attraction". The things you do and enjoy are not defining of your sexuality/feelings. Asexuality has never been about whether or not you have sex - that's celibacy. You can ABSOLUTELY be asexual and enjoy having sex. Anyone who says otherwise has a very narrow view of asexuality, and their being aphobic. There is no one way to be asexual. Also, sex favorable aces get so little acknowledgment and positivity even in our own community, but the fact remains that sex favorable asexuals *are asexual*.

You're valid, and you are welcome in the ace community and under the ace label as long as they feel like home to you.

Sincerely,

A fellow sex favorable asexual who has spent a LOT of time also feeling like she wasn't "asexual enough" (we are)

tysm for this, i'm actually gonna cry omg! 😭😭😭

it's been a while since i've heard the "action ≠ attraction" saying! it makes so much sense though.

this was really validating to read, and i'm sorry it took a second to respond but thank you!!! it's comforting to know there are others with similar experiences to mine and that we exist.

i got another comment about it today from a different person, specifically from an allosexual friend of mine that told her ace friend about me and they both wondered if i'm "really ace" which, honestly, kinda bothered me because they don't doubt my ace partner who is more sex neutral than positive. that's so weird!!

anyways, all this to say, thank you for sending me this. it's helping a lot, and i've already re-read it a few times. i hope you have a good day/night! :)

[caramelized-love]

so busy lately :( i miss my partner

[caramelized-love]

ffffffuuuuccckkkk, i need my partner so bad... the years spent waiting before we can feasibly move in together are gonna be rough...

[caramelized-love]

gf making me insanely horny for her and then not doing anything about it....... she's so mean (i love it)