Apr 12, 2023
people with hoarding based disorders deserve respect and compassion too, yall see hoarder houses and get grossed out and say things like "how could you let it get that bad" but yall dont really see us as people or even think about how hard it is for us to live in these conditions all the time, I guarantee you that the shame and guilt and hopelessness that we feel living like this (not to mention the genuinely unsafe conditions sometimes making us and our pets and loved ones sick) is far far worse than how disgusted you feel seeing it
#and even when kids are involved we still need compassion and support#we need help making our homes safer for our kids#we need our communities to come together and help us clean and throw things away#but it has to be done with respect and dignity#if yall just come into our houses and tell us how disgusting we are and shame us as parents and people for our mental illness#we're not going to ask for help next time#and btw the solution is not for cps to just steal our kids until we can figure it out without any help#the solution is for friends family neighbors etc to offer safe places for our kids to stay while everyone works together#to make our homes safer for our kids#we've lost sight of what communities are supposed to do for each other and how we're supposed to help each other#cayden rambles#original content