Aug 14, 2018
From: Chatty. @Jacquelinee_94
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From: Chatty. @Jacquelinee_94
♣ + CHATTY
send me ♣ + a ship.
who is the better dancer? atty
who likes the outdoors more and who likes the indoors more? atty likes the outdoors more and charlie would rather stay in the bar all the time
who’s a cat person and who’s a dog person? they’re both cat people
who’s more social? atty probably
who makes the bed every morning? neither of them
who likes to keep the house cold and who likes to keep the house warm? charlie sweats a lot so he probably prefers the house cold lmao
who takes longer getting ready? atty bc charlie doesn’t get ready he just goes
who likes scary movies and who likes funny ones? charlie prefers comedies for the most part
who screams when they see a bug and who ends up killing it? atty screams and charlie kills it
who is more technology challenged? charlie
who would be more likely to burn something in the oven? atty
who talks in their sleep? charlie
who leaves the cap off the toothpaste? charlie, if he ever decides to brush his teeth one of these days
who likes getting dressed up more? atty
who’s better at tying ties? i think they both know how to tie ties so neither of them are ‘better’ at it
who recorded the answering machine message on the house phone? fuckign both of them w/ something really ridiculous and th two nerds couldnt stop giggling as they were recording it probably
who’s better at planning romantic things? neither of them probably
who takes up more space in the closet? atty bc lbr charlie owns like 6 t-shirts and like 2 pairs of pants probably
who has more of a sweet tooth? atty
who drinks more often? charlie
who is most likely to laugh during a serious situation? both of them
a few rules this time.
1. be kind, be good. particularly to yourself. be patient and understanding. trust your feelings. will them to come out even. be true. let yourself be whoever and feel whatever you need right now, but be kind to yourself always. and be good to all others. be good to family. friends. be kind to strangers. and be kind to him.
2. write about you. pages filled with questions, thoughts, and concerns about another. dedicate this book and any future book to learning who you are. spend time exploring yourself, your thoughts, your love, your personality. find you.
3. be a better friend. to the wonderful people in your life who support you. to yourself. and continue to be a positive light and a great comfort.
4. learn to cook. treat your body like a temple, yes. but also, giving yourself a basic tool of survival and pleasure.
5. Buy your own things. it hurts to depend on a man to feast but famine when left to your own accounts.
6. Practice communication. to not articulate your feelings well when you are upset or angry is limiting. Think before you react.
7. Read anything and everything. we were driving down the road the other day and he was describing what to do with his life. and i told him to go to the book store or library and grab anything that sounds interesting. anything he ever thought he might like to do in another life. like in friends, when monica makes chandler an organizational system to finding a job. a place he could go to explore the possibilities of starting over or starting fresh. i went home that night and opened up a book. it occurred to me that this is advice i could use for myself. because the point isn't to ditch your old life. it's to regain interest in a world outside of your life. outside of a man. outside of a career. it's to better your brain. and your soul. explore. learn. grow.
plus, it helps me discover words i never knew existed.
About to go smoke a 420 bowl. :)
Someone should talk to me because I feel like making friends and I'm stoned as fuck.
principal three | fundamental techniques in handling people: arouse in the other person an eager want.
dale carnegie
talk happy, talk good.
trying to grain this concept into my brain. when i'm at my happiest, at my most confident, and feeling so positive, i speak in suit. i can shrug off the small stuff, look at things practically, think rather than speak, etc. i have productive work days and keep myself busy with fun friends and uplifting plans. i cross things off of my bucket list. i laugh. i even listen better. so, how to make this a habit in the oh so dreary winter months that frequently let my inner negative twin take over my voice? i call her ursula. yes after the little mermaid. she's big. and evil. though i will request you envision the ursula in human lusty brunette lady form, as opposed to octopus legs chick. anywho, my brain begins to feel a bit angsty. a bit anxious. and i tend to believe it's best for the world if i just keep my head down and go about my way. the thing is, i'm getting a bit frustrated with this frame of mind. actually quite peeved (peeved, good lord, now i'm a 47 year old housewife). i so desperately want a cure to this. i know things don't work like that, but what are the steps to get to this thinking. without anti-depressants. ha! just like most things, this is a habit. habits are breakable. so i sit here and i research and i read. i blog and i talk. all with the single hope, that at the very least, by the end of this month i will have figured out a way to make a better habit of thinking positively. good news: i am hopeful. off to a great start.
the five vital habits: installing a high-level communication routine
remember the little things. the basics. remember when you couldn't wait to speak/see your other. tiny little manners. consistently respectful. "to instantly upgrade your communication routine, make these five crucial habits a nonnegotiable part of your repertoire:" 1. greetings: "hello" and "goodbye" - it acknowledges that your other's presence means something to you. 2. "good morning" - start your day with positive thoughts and a positive message. 3. "good night" - end your day with loving words. 4. "i love you for [fill in the blank]" - "for most of us, it's all too easy to see the handful of irritating things our partner does, but it's much harder to take notice of the many kind, generous, compassionate, supportive deeds he or she does everyday." 5. a compliment - as often as you can, as long as your words are sincere laurie puhn goes into much more detail in fight less, love more about the importance of these simple points, but the gist is this. subtle habits can make a world of difference. it's giving positive energy to the world of your love.
success signals
based off an idea that we as individuals have four primary communication styles, success signals break those styles down by color. essentially, you take a quick little quiz (look at words on a colored note card and decide which is most appealing to you; i know... so official) and that color is your style. over the next few posts i'll describe each style. you pick which one you think you are.