I haven't been in your situation, but I'm [kinda] a religious person, and I've been raised in a Christian household. Over the years, I've invited plenty of people to church because it's one of MY safe places, and I genuinely want to show some of my friends my beliefs. However, when you invite someone to a place so personal, you have to know that rejection is bound it happen.
When your boyfriend asked you to come with him, he already knew that it's not something that you feel deeply about or comfortable going to, right? So, from the start of the conversation, he knew there was a high chance of you saying no. I'm definitely not saying it's his fault, but that something he should have prepared himself for. [ALSO I'M NOT SAYING IT'S YOUR FAULT EITHER !!]
I don't know your boyfriend, so I can't exactly say what he was thinking or felt in that moment, but that's something you should talk about. Why is church so important to him? Why is it important to him that you're a part of it? But also answer his questions and be honest with each other.
Also, DON'T feel bad for setting boundaries for yourself. There's a reason you said no, and you need to listen to your body and mind. Don't EVER push yourself for someone other than your own well-being.
Hurting people you love is always hard, but a relationship without problems isn't a healthy one. Just please be open and honest about each other, and see how that end up for you both. If you guys love each other [or eventually will,] then this won't break you up, it will make you stronger.
I'm sorry for this being all of the place or repetitive. I saw your post when I was planning on going to bed, and I felt like I needed to answer you immediately. xx
you are genuinely so sweet. I was not expecting to get an answer on my post, but I’m so so happy you did. It’s genuinely means a lot and does help. I think I’ll take your advice and talk to him about it a bit more later on today! Thank you again!!