DIVORCE It’s true. Marriage is, as one excellent book on the subject puts it, a crucible. It is an intense testing of our masculine capacity to bring our full, deep, calm presence to a situation that often seems only to demand more, and more. And more of us. For too many of us, marriage is only the prelude to a much harsher crucible: divorce. It is the rare man who suffers the trials of divorce without falling apart. This is not "bad." If we are in that particular hell, we probably need to fall apart — that we may put ourselves back together stronger, deeper, truer to our sacred masculine purpose: to be still and deep as we hold safe space for the flow of the feminine in our lives. But divorce isn't inevitable. Men! Pay attention. If you do not want to suffer this hell, and it is a hell that WILL burn you emotionally, financially, spiritually, do your work in marriage. Or before marriage. Ask for help. Follow men like @mens_communication_coach, @blackbelthusbands, @john_wineland, @daviddeida.live, @the.essential.man, and others. Find a path. Commit to a practice. Become a man who doesn't need the test of divorce to be who he truly is. Thanks to @blackbelthusbands for inspiring me to think on divorce as a testing of our masculine capacities. Watch for "divorce" to show up on the live menswork.ca podcast. #choosevulnerability #menswork #divorce (at Sacredbodies.ca) https://www.instagram.com/p/CPLzOFPtRBG/?utm_medium=tumblr