hey I can totally relate to your post since I'm pretty sure I'm on the asexual spectrum. I don't really know any demi/ace people in real life so it can definitely be a little isolating
For me personally (and I hope this might help others) I really don’t consider it isolating! As I said in another post, I just see the label as a simple fact about myself. It’s like discovering that I’m a visual and auditory learner, that I have a birthmark on my hand, that I am a hypersensitive and anxious person. The label is really just an abbreviation for the longer explanation.
Just because you don’t know many demi/ace people doesn’t mean that being ace or demi is isolating! First of all, there may be many more than you would think, because to the outside eye I look and act exactly like the general population. I am cisgendered, show interest in guys, and I’m sure that if I didn’t say anything, everyone would assume that I’m a plain vanilla heterosexual cisgendered young woman. Moreover, there may be people who actually are but don’t know that a/demisexuality even exists. I didn’t, until my friend mentioned it when I was discussing how bad I felt that I seemingly could not feel sexually attracted to this really sweet guy I was dating and cared about.
And even if you’re the only one who isn’t bi/hetero/homosexual, that’s fine! Why should it be a big deal? I’m uniquely me in so many ways, and while I could say that it’s alienating to know that I’m one of the only adopted kids in my class, or the only person who runs an online magazine, or who has my exact background... it’s really not. I went to camp once with a counselor who always said “say it loud, say it proud!” and I really liked that. So say it loud, say it proud, y’all!
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