For the ask game: 1, 4 and 11!
thank you so much for the questions friend!! ; u ;
what are 3 things you’d say shaped you into who you are?
Meeting and basically growing up with my best friend. I literally wouldn't be any recognizable version of who I am if I hadn't met her.
Going to university, and all the work that went into actually being able to attend and finish that. It's one of the few things I can point to that has tangible proof with it that I accomplished something big, and it's important to me.
Might be kind of a weird thing to list, but getting into reading at such a young age. I know this is like. THE generic ND traumatized child experience, but getting involved in fiction and literature and eventually fandom for those things basically saved my life, and gave me tools to help me cope with situations that I would otherwise have had to just work through raw.
4. what’s an inside joke you have with your family or friends?
deep lore for my bestie and I is "Oooooh TREEE" which is like. two words out of this weird girl scouts song I shared with her literally almost 20 years ago now.
also my mom is constantly attempting to "retire" from being my mother. I tell her she can stop being my mom when she's dead, but as we've both agreed to simply not ever die, she's stuck with me. (this sounds really dry and morbid written out but I assure you it is funny for us)
11. what do you consider to be romance?
you know, I don't even really know. I'd struggle to define it in ways that I'd be willing to differentiate out from platonic love or familial love. but also I guess when you can tell two (or more! we love polyamory here) people clearly love and care deeply for each other, and are really trying, despite differing ways of communicating, to find ways to tell each other, and support each other. It's romantic to me when both people are red in the face, both incredulous at the effect the other is having and desperate for more of that effect, trying to talk about desire while balancing the depth and sincerity of their feelings.
see also flustered, sheepish acts of service or little gifts.
(there hasn't been a lot of real romance in my life, so these are the things I find romantic in my own writing and in fiction in general. I'm not sure how else to answer otherwise OTL)
