#competing access needs

[prokopetz]

I think it’s important to recognise that hostility toward competing access needs is an inevitable consequence of treating “neurotypical” and “neurodivergent” as a pair of binary categories into which all people can neatly be sorted. If you’re thinking about neurodivergent people as a monolithic group who all have certain specific traits, and neurotypical people as a complementary monolith who all have the exact opposite of those specific traits, there are a lot of legitimate access needs that are going to sound like bullshit to you.

[transfaguette]

You all really need to internalize the concept of competing accessibility needs. For any power-point presentation you can make detailing your specific needs, there is always going to be another person who's needs are incompatible with yours. Neither of you are more or less deserving of having those needs met. Neither of you are more or less deserving of existing comfortably in public.

[newhologram]

"wow im sowwy i have such low spoons i couldn't possibly put an image ID in my post, can someone else do it for me uwu"

just admit you don't give two shits about people who use screen readers. you wrote up a whole ass text post with an image but your energy magically stops when it's time to be inclusive? lmao no. if you can't spare the energy to add an ID to that then don't post it at all you fucking cunt. and you don't get to act like it's a massive fucking burden on you that you have to shove off to someone else. actually vile behaviour from someone who's literally complaining about ableism. i hate this shit ass community

^ So this is actually ableism. ^ Lots of very nasty ableist projecting here which is disappointing but quite common on this site.

Chronic pain, fatigue, and brain fog are a thing. Limitations are a thing. My pain and meds wrecking my cognitive function, my symptoms demanding I take a break so I don’t go into the red and puke are a thing. My very nerve pain from using my hands is literally why I had to give up so many things, and why I can’t edit or type that much in a given day. It’s called disability for a reason.

(I queue most posts after chipping away at them. Only some posts are spontaneous.)

This is why we even use the concept of spoons. If I need to stop and save spoons to drive an hour to my doctor appt, or even just save them to cook a meal later, then I HAVE to do that. And I’d rather post something and ask for assistance from others who feel up to it than have a post keep sitting in my drafts for months and months. I have 2 year old posts I just can’t get my brain working for.

You’re so close with “energy magically disappeared”—so close. Bc that’s actually how disability and chronic illness is. Moment to moment we don’t know how we’re going to feel or when we’ll need to take a break.

It’s so funny bc the reason my backlog has gotten so much bigger over the past 3 years is bc I take so long to subtitle clips and write ID’s.

I’m not mad at you, but boundary-wise, it isn’t okay for you to take out your frustration with the community on me just bc I’m an easy and accessible target to anon rage at. I would recommend talking about this stuff in your journal or with a trusted friend or mental health professional before running off to say mean things you may later feel bad about.

Thank you to those who have always helped to ID things without judgment or projection. It seriously means so much bc I’ve got a lot on my plate with my health and home and job rn. I’m grateful for your kindness and for you seeing me as human and not just a content creation machine. I’m glad to be part of a community that understands that it’s okay to ask for help and to help each other. I’m glad we don’t have this unhealthy mindset of “I MUST do it myself or I’m a bad person.”

🙏🏻💙🥄♿️✨

[defectivegembrain]

You are the type of neurodivergent person who races ahead in conversation jumping uncontrollably from topic to topic. I am the type of neurodivergent person who is still stuck in the ditch of the first topic you brought up. We are not the same, and that's nobody's fault, but we need to work out a way to not turn each other's brains into mashed potatoes.

[fierceawakening]

Do I just have a super weird reaction to a term or does anyone else feel vaguely terrified when they read the term “rejection sensitive dysphoria?”

Like it’s probably my brain but I always get this foreboding sense like, “don’t make friends with anyone with ADHD. If you do, and it turns out you need to end the friendship or block them or socmed or otherwise opt out of the relationship, they’ll get DYSPHORIA and it will be YOUR FAULT.”

[cursed--alien]

I think what I actually need to make images I post more accessable is to get someone else to help me write the descriptions, because even with the guides I found googling it still doesn’t seem like something I can do on my own.

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“Be concise” I literally do not know how to be. My brain is far too deatil-oriented and incapable of filtering out “unimportant” details and I already feel guilty about that and now I feel even more guilty about it.

“Start with the most important details” as stated above, my brain can’t rank the importance of details. It makes me feel very stupid.

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Anything I write will inherently come out extremely long-winded, and on the internet people hate that. It’s the same reason I struggle writing TL;DRs. It ends up being a paraphrase, not a summary.

[curiousitycollective]

competing access needs are not ableist. there is no way to make something universally accessible, because what will help one may cause difficulties for another.

hell we share a body and have competing access needs due to the different ways we are affected by our various mental illness and neurodivergencies. it happens and it sucks but no one is automatically an ableist because of it.

the best way to deal with it when it happens is to see what is causing the issue and look for alternatives to what is causing the problem or if that's not possible ways to mitigate the issues caused.

sometimes that means a server having specific channels that allow for something that is a problem for some users but and access need for others. sometimes it means two people who are friends not interacting irl because they have conflicting sensory needs and set each other off. there are many different reasons it can happen and just as many different solutions involved.

-smile

[fencesandfrogs]

Be me trying to remember if I’ve used “competing access needs” as a title or if I just thought really hard about it