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[aka-76-blog]

Is this the other expression for "do unto yourself as you would do to others- or is is do unto others as you would do unto you?" I like me. Therefore, I like you. #wisdom #ConversationsWith #Gaborone #Botswana (at Kgale View)

[aka-76-blog]

I have been a teacher since 1997. We make a mark. I celebrate all the amazingly astounding teachers who have impacted their world so profoundly. #teachers #education #Content #wisdom #ConversationsWith #school #Gaborone #Botswana (at Kgale View)

[anonfirerabbit]

#ConversationsWith: Myself III

Random thought: Seeing is knowing. But to realize enlightenment, you have to look inside yourself. And looking inward requires a deeper sensing than just sight itself. Humans, I learned from Sara Salehi who is also a neuroscientist, are predisposed to use their sight sense first and foremost. The other senses are just important but if we only focus on what we see and don't develop hear, taste, smell and touch too, we miss out on experiencing so much more of the world. I was always interested in the five senses of human beings and I think I've been unconsciously developing all of them to a very subtle, refined point. For example, my tongue palette for food is extraordinarily refined. I am also an amazing cook. I can turn scraps in the fridge into something pretty fucking stellar. I do it all the time. The problem I've encountered with ex-boyfriends is they never trusted that 1. I knew food and 2. I can eat a fucking lot despite my appearance. It was such a fight sometimes over meals because I just wanted to be like, "if you just fucking trusted me, I could feed you so well and I can adjust everything so that it matches up to your taste preferences if you just gave me an ounce of patience." Rambling... I am just... noticing so much about why people in my life did the things they did and why I did what I did... even though at the time, it just looked like fucking dramatic insanity....... lol! Do you cook? It can help you develop your senses so much because cooking requires all five senses - sight, smell, hear (the sizzling in a pan for example), touch and taste. I don't enjoy cooking. What I enjoy most is eating. But I know how to cook well because I've ate so many foods and read so much about food/cooking/eating that I know what good food is supposed to taste like. My standard for restaurants/paying for eating out has always been if I can make this myself at home and better than why am I paying an establishment to cook me what is essentially shitty food to my tongue? It's not worth it, in my mind. And what's more is even if I don't personally like a foodstuff, I can tell whether or not it's good still - if it's been prepared well and if the source ingredient is fresh/quality. Food was an essential thing in my household growing up. It's how my father expressed his love for us. He cooked dinner for all six of us every day after working a manual labour job from 7am-4pm. My Dad is an amazing cook. Because the secret ingredient is Love. He always cooked with love because he loved us (his kids) so much.

[anonfirerabbit]

#ConversationsWith: Series Amy J. I

Heather: I think the written Chinese language is so beautiful because it is the same always if you know how to read and write the characters, but how you speak the written language varies wildly from village to village, region to region.

Amy: It's like math across all languages!

Do you speak Hakka?

Heather: I barely speak Hakka. It is one of my greatest shames - to not know really how to read, write or speak Chinese. I am planning to finally learn in 2015.

I know how to write my Chinese name, a few #s and that's about it.

But when I'm immersed/around people speaking Hakka, it comes back to me. I can distinguish the dialect. I know when someone is speaking Hakka, Mandarin or Cantonese but I just don't understand "what" they're saying.

I have a longing to return to China. But I don't want to be restricted by not knowing the language so I am going to learn enough first to just get around. That's all I really want/need for myself.

Amy: I can tell Cantonese from other dialects but I can't identify any other dialect. They're so cool and so confusing. If I ever go to China, I'd live in Shanghai. That way I can always fall back on shanghainese if need be.

I went to Beijing when I was 18 and had a lot of trouble understanding Mandarin there because they all had these really intense Beijing accents.

Heather: Awesome. I would like to live in Shanghai if I ever lived in China. Or Taiwan even though Taiwan is a whole other thing. Taiwan and Shanghai speak most to me in terms of cities I could possibly live in.

Shanghainese is... I imagine to it to be more the formal speaking standard of Mandarin, which is essentially a very beautiful sing-song-like language in my mind and to my ear.

Cantonese is so harsh on the ear. Same with colloquial Hakka. But formal Hakka is a lot like Mandarin. It is derived from Mandarin speech.

[anonfirerabbit]

#ConversationsWith: Series Sebs I / What is Time?

Sebs: I really don't like that phrase, "Time is money."

Me: I know. Me neither. What people mean is that time has value but value doesn't equal money.

Sebs: Yes, you're right. For me, value is joy.

Me: Exactly. Me too.

[anonfirerabbit]

#ConversationsWith: Series Anna I

Heather: "Ever loved someone so much, you would do anything for them? Yeah, well, make that someone yourself and do whatever the hell you want." —Harvey Spector on Suits

This is pretty much how I am living life these days... LOL.

Anna: Heaths, I think that's probably why I don't want to get married right now. I want to marry myself. I love ME.

Heather: I get it. I'm in the same place except I'm just not in a committed relationship to anyone else at the moment.

Anna: I'm just too selfish to get married.

Heather: I think in some cases it's actually more selfish to marry someone else because sometimes people are trying to own the other person, and you can't fucking "own" anybody. You only belong to yourself and God.

Only a small percentage of people know what it means to truly love themselves.

Relationships come and go but you're always stuck with yourself.

You and yourself — it's the only relationship worth working on, really.

Anna: I agree.

It's probably bad that I agree because I'm in a long-term committed relationship. But honestly, I don't even care.

Heather: LOL. I don't think it's bad. It's why your relationship is so successful because you don't depend on Z***** to take care of you. You just like him and he's fun to be around. How cool is that? Super cool, in my opinion. Once he stops being fun, just... you know... move on... LOL.

Anna: Haha! I will. I'm glad to have your support on that.

Heather: I'm not really interested in getting married or having children either, Anna. I was obviously for a long time obsessed with finding "The One" but this year, I did A LOT of work on myself... you know that... and I just finally fucking realized I AM "The One".

I could get married, sure, but it's not a priority in my life. My priority in life is to have fun. That's it. If I'm not having fun, something is fucking wrong and needs to be corrected immediately. LOL!

"Children are smarter than any of us. Know how I know that? I don't know one child with a full-time job and children." -Bill Hicks

I asked Irene the other day for her and her husband to hold off from having kids till we're 35ish... and she said, that's what she's hoping for too!! LOL.

Because marriage is one thing, but having children is the biggest freedom-destroyer.... You HAVE to be responsible for another human being when you have a kid. And right now, I am only interested in being responsible for myself and to myself. :)

[anonfirerabbit]

#ConversationsWith: Myself Series II

I think the best way I can describe my recent shift into just… living as my best self now is that… I no longer feel like a child inside. I’ve finally grown into being a woman and so that’s why… I’m doing some things a bit differently now. Similar to what I was saying earlier about knowing how to do certain things but just not caring to do it….. I think I knew how to be a woman/a responsible person but there were just some areas of my life where I wasn’t making that conscious choice. I was clinging to still wanting to be a child… to still wanting someone else to take care of me in certain ways.

Life flows easily now because no matter what happens, I know how to take of myself and I am choosing to do so every moment of living.

[anonfirerabbit]

#ConversationsWith: Series Shilan II

If I feel awful physically, emotionally, mentally, I know how to take care of myself. Life goes on. I might swear a bunch and complain a bit but generally, I just enjoy life anyway. Like I said... my whole life is a meditation. I live moment-to-moment no matter the circumstances or condition I may be in.