#coping strategy

[sillysof]

(Good Omens 3 SPOILER at the end)

Whot‘ru sinking abaut?..

[chipmunkweirdo]

Everything in moderation except Alvin and the Chipmunks. 🐿

Because being yourself shouldn’t only happen in moderation.

[johnschneiderblog]

Defense mechanism

My coping strategy for the next few days:

Whatever happens in the course of our human affairs, the natural order will abide.

The sun will still rise, autumn will become winter, the earth will persist in its steadfast journey around the sun, the moon will continue tp cast its reflection on Lake Huron ...

In other words, if the worst happens, I'll look for comfort and beauty - even more so than usual - in the things immune to human foibles.

[justanotheradhdwriter]

Mood swings suck people, let me tell you.

Yesterday I was all super excited about some team activities and good ideas I had for moving them forward. The suddenly last night I started feeling dreary again.

Today, gloom is getting the best of me again. I finished work way in advance because I managed to stick to the pomodoro timer, and I have the afternoon all for me. So I’m content, but that’s just it. A 5 on a 1-to-10 scale. I’m laying on my couch reading a book now, but I get distracted every minute because my brain is telling me let’s do stuff, but I don’t know what to do because it’s raining cats and dogs outside. Mental hyperactivity, folks.

Anyway, I’ll go see my psychiatrist because I haven’t been this moody for a very long time. And I don’t like it. I don’t know if it’s just emotional dysregulation from ADHD and autism, but it’s so fucking disabling.

Also, insomnia. But not the type where you have troubles falling asleep. I have troubles staying asleep and going back to sleep. Tonight I woke up at 3 AM and fell asleep at 5. Then woke up at 6:30 but didn’t have the strength to get up, so I laid in bed until 9. Doom scrolling on my phone. Switching from one app to the other while watching the time passing by. And I couldn’t move.

I have my tricks, like putting the phone as far as possible from my bed so when the alarm goes off I have to get up, and along the way my bladder tells me I need to pee, then the morning dopamine and the general ADHD thing of looking around and finding things I need to do does the rest.

Trick it until you make it. Right?

[charlignon]

This is the rant post I was supposed to make. But instead I just scrolled my favourite character tag, queued a bunch of posts, and now I'd rather count the stars in my eyes than let go this beautiful feeling

[twinkdrama]

hm what unhealthy coping method do i use today

[selfcare-journey]

Using Work Accountability Sessions

If you're struggling to actually sit down and work, maybe you could benefit from a Work Accountability Session! They create external accountability that you maye be lacking. Here's how they work:

Schedule a 2 hour block of time with coworkers, classmates, or friends to work on individualized tasks (virtually with your platform of choice)

At the start of the session, go around and state your goal for the session

Set a shared timer (I use cuckoo) for 25 minutes and work on your goal with everyone on mute and cameras on

After 25 minutes, set the timer for a 5 minute break and everybody gives updates on their progress, shares something they learned, or something they struggled with

Continue until 2 hours are up (4 sessions)

Then you did it! You worked on your goal, made some connections and probably feel a whole lot better!

[abcsofadhd]

regarding that ask about struggling outside of school. Is there a way to slowly get oneself to do better without an external structure? I've been out of school for 4 years now, I've tried a ton of things from pushing myself harder to getting help in any form I can to taking it slow and I haven't been able to create or stick with a solid schedule since leaving school. I've been severely depressed the past few years because of it and feel kinda hopeless and very ashamed

It isn’t easy, yea.

Well, the answer is to find some way to make up for our faulty internal structure, to simulate external structure. I know its easier said than done, unfortunately.

Things like coping strategies and timetables can help build an external structure (nothing super detailed or we’ll never be able to stick to it).

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Here’s an actual example of my timetable I had set up for the past few months:

I didn’t follow the timetable exactly every day.. but having a rough timetable is handy when I got decision paralysis of what to do.

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Now, if your issue is lacking the drive to do anything, that’s a separate issue. Having a structure is great, but it can only help guide you.. it won’t really drive you.

In terms of drive, hobbies are amazing. It can help us pick up some mental inertia.. which can help a lot cause doing things is easier when we’re already doing things.

You can see it in my timetable. I had posted in the mornings cause that’d get my mental gears rolling, which allowed me to apply for work and PhDs in the afternoon (which took a lot more effort).